Holiday cards are the worst

[Anonymous]

Christmas is really hard when you’re struggling with infertility. All the talk of a birth, joy, new beginnings, loved ones, how magical it is for children. Sending you big hugs. I hope 2024 treats you kindly.

[Anonymous]

That sounds normal to me OP. Don’t listen to the mean, lacking in compassion people here. If you know the cards will upset you, it’s okay to not open them, not look at them, and certainly don’t torture yourself by displaying them.

I hated getting cards after my daughter was stillborn. I understand that you still wouldn’t want to look at mine now, even if you knew me and knew what I’d gone through before having a healthy, living kid. I get it. And it’s okay. Give yourself the gift of peace and toss the cards.

[Anonymous]

Trash ‘em

Signed,
Mom of twins

[Anonymous]

Do not open them. Straight to trash. People on here pathologizing your feelings are just mean. I like the other poster’s wise advice of showing up for the big stuff and reserving your mental energy the rest of the time.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP. This is a very hard time of year to be struggling without a child when you desperately want one. Just one! It's all I want. Heartbroken.

Even people struggling with secondary infertility have a child to focus on.

This year I'm buying a baby blanket and wrapping it under the tree. It's an old wives tale but it can't hurt.

[Anonymous]

OP, a lot of people posting here see these threads on recent topics and feel compelled to comment when they have zero experience with infertility. Ignore the mean remarks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People say it a lot, but OP needs therapy to reverse her destructive worldview.

This. Just because someone has procreated, doesn’t mean they don’t have problems. Plenty of awful trauma and life stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, a lot of people posting here see these threads on recent topics and feel compelled to comment when they have zero experience with infertility. Ignore the mean remarks.

This. I'm sorry OP. I struggled too and was very active on this forum. It would suck when clueless insensitive ppl would come in and spit off nonsense without ever experiencing what you are going through.

Wish you beat of luck in the New Year!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People say it a lot, but OP needs therapy to reverse her destructive worldview.

This. Just because someone has procreated, doesn’t mean they don’t have problems. Plenty of awful trauma and life stuff.

No sh!t. Guess what? Infertile people have awful trauma and life stuff, AND no children. Go bully someone else. No said fertile people don't have problems. They just don't have fertility problems which is what we're discussing. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Wow, the selfishness of OP's post took my breath away. I cannot imagine seeing the world through such narrow jealous eyes. Please get some help, OP.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry OP. I really am.

Also, check out the glucose revolution (book). There are really interesting links between infertility and glucose spikes. I suggest this only because it helped me, not to be an annoying know it all when you are feeling down.

I wish you the best and am sending love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, the selfishness of OP's post took my breath away. I cannot imagine seeing the world through such narrow jealous eyes. Please get some help, OP.

You are a monster. I cannot imagine seeing the world through yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, the selfishness of OP's post took my breath away. I cannot imagine seeing the world through such narrow jealous eyes. Please get some help, OP.

You are a monster. I cannot imagine seeing the world through yours.

Op is obviously in a lot of pain. Have some compassion.

[Anonymous]

You’re not going to be able to avoid children in public. It will be simpler to learn to deal with your disappointment and anger. I have children but had to give up my big career entirely, and all around me I see people who are thriving in their big careers. They’re not doing it to mock me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, the selfishness of OP's post took my breath away. I cannot imagine seeing the world through such narrow jealous eyes. Please get some help, OP.

You are disgusting, truly. Get some help.