millennials terrible parents

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Millennials are over worked as they need to prop up boomers with their entitlements and lavish lifestyles. At the same time boomers are not helping their grandchildren financially or physically. Blame the boomers again, there is a long thread on this here https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1171410.page

Hahaha. The Gen Xers are the overworked ones.

Millennials and their kids are over the top addicted to screens. If the millennials are hands off and neglectful it would be more from being overwhelmed by digital distractions. Everything else is rationalization.

Again gen x loser. You are not relevant or part of this discussion start your own thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see this type of parenting. I’m an older millennial (married to Gen X and have a lot of of friends in that age group). So maybe it skipped a generation?

Or is this an SES thing? I live in a close-in UMC neighborhood and the parents I see are generally involved and reasonable about parenting. Not a bunch of screaming, but no trantruming kids either (at least at the elementary level). The only ones I know like that have SNs and the parents are doing their best to get them help.

I’m curious what demographic this seems to be having this issue.

I agree, similar neighborhood and when I see this on sites like this I don't relate. My friends don't spank and if they yell a bunch one day they'll usually say crap I'm feeling guilty about that one. But at least when with them they also generally do hold boundaries, give consequences when appropriate, have their kid leave somewhere if they're losing it etc. All reasonable parenting. And I'm one of the SN parents that does sometimes have a tantrum here and there and am definitely not like "shrug" or just letting it impact others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad got into a top 5 law school by showing up the month before classes began and chatting with the dean and showing them his LSAT score. No, it wasn't a perfect score. That's how easy it was to get into school back then. The generation gap has 100% to do with scare resources. We millennials go nuts trying to optimize kids to get into college because it's now impossible. That leads to all sorts of parenting decisions that seem baffling and wrong and pathetic to previous generations who weren't under this pressure.

What if I told you that raising happy, resilient, well-rounded and kind kids was as equally as important (if not more) than big earners?

I'd tell your kids have food insecurity and you shouldn't be proud of that.

Right. The options are - earn straight As in school or be a janitor. Nothing in between.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t read all the responses but I’m an Xennial but I have a young child. The parents of my son’s friends are millennials. On average 6-10 years younger. They just seem selfish to me. They prioritize themselves and their own time over kids and kids needs.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so confused. My parents/ILs (older than my folks) are Boomers, DH and I are Gen X. Our kids are 20 and 16, so Z? Why do so many Boomers have Millennials? And both sets of grandparents have been interested in the kids from day 1.

Our Boomer parents were born 1957-60. DH and I were born mid 80s (millennials). Our kids are 7, 5, 3.

[Anonymous]

Spend a few minutes in any school and you'll quickly see that some kids are truly terrible. However, in this area their parents are very old. Definitely not milenials.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see this type of parenting. I’m an older millennial (married to Gen X and have a lot of of friends in that age group). So maybe it skipped a generation?

Or is this an SES thing? I live in a close-in UMC neighborhood and the parents I see are generally involved and reasonable about parenting. Not a bunch of screaming, but no trantruming kids either (at least at the elementary level). The only ones I know like that have SNs and the parents are doing their best to get them help.

I’m curious what demographic this seems to be having this issue.

I agree, similar neighborhood and when I see this on sites like this I don't relate. My friends don't spank and if they yell a bunch one day they'll usually say crap I'm feeling guilty about that one. But at least when with them they also generally do hold boundaries, give consequences when appropriate, have their kid leave somewhere if they're losing it etc. All reasonable parenting. And I'm one of the SN parents that does sometimes have a tantrum here and there and am definitely not like "shrug" or just letting it impact others.

I see all types of young parents today in my UMC neighborhood, from the crunchy , no screens, to the feral 2 year old roaming outside alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so confused. My parents/ILs (older than my folks) are Boomers, DH and I are Gen X. Our kids are 20 and 16, so Z? Why do so many Boomers have Millennials? And both sets of grandparents have been interested in the kids from day 1.

Our Boomer parents were born 1957-60. DH and I were born mid 80s (millennials). Our kids are 7, 5, 3.

Same. My boomer parents and ILs were born mid to late 1950s. DH and I were born mid-80s, and our kids are 8 and under.

Generations tend to span about 20 years, so I can see how older boomers could have Gen X kids.

[Anonymous]

I think milennial parents problem is that we are 100% denied our feelings.

My boomer mom never helped me when I was crying.

But I’m expected to gentle parent my kids through their crying. And I want to.

But .. what about my feelings? (It’s a stereotype that we are obsessed with our feelings). We plug along working hard like everybody else. Our parents never comforted or validated us. Our little kids do not see us as people.

We are a buffer two emotionally different groups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so confused. My parents/ILs (older than my folks) are Boomers, DH and I are Gen X. Our kids are 20 and 16, so Z? Why do so many Boomers have Millennials? And both sets of grandparents have been interested in the kids from day 1.

I was born in 1990 and I don’t have a single friend whose parents aren’t boomers. I know I’ve known a few with Gen X parents here and there, but they weren’t typical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Social media now going off about how terrible millennials tend to be as parents, letting their kids run around like wild untamed animals. Boomers were already lax, now it has snowballed with millennials basically acting as their kids' best friends rather than act as their parents. Is millennial parenting as bad as they say? It does seem like a ton of kids these days could use a good ass whoopin'.

Seriously, cut it with the BOOMER shit.

My grand children are like animals with rabies. Their mothers did this not us old people. It comes from I will give my kids whatever they want and never teach them basic manners.
For example
Last year I got our grand daughter 2 beautiful necklaces. Instead of just saying thank you she said I'm not into that and I'm not about that. REALLY ? And her mother straight up asked me for the receipt. I told her to give it to someone that might appreciate it. GD then said she'll take the money I spent on it instead. She was 9 at the time. After that we never saw her again. Her mother's choice.

Current grand daughter is 11. She told us she wanted some headphones. She texted her grandfather a picture. When I saw the price I said hell no. A child does not need expensive headphones. Her mother said we had the means to buy those headphones so it's our duty to make the child happy. I said no. Pick something else or not. Yesterday that witch had the nerve to text Grandpa asking for $1000 to finish her Christmas shopping for the grandchild.

So yes, parenting 101 is a FAIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Social media now going off about how terrible millennials tend to be as parents, letting their kids run around like wild untamed animals. Boomers were already lax, now it has snowballed with millennials basically acting as their kids' best friends rather than act as their parents. Is millennial parenting as bad as they say? It does seem like a ton of kids these days could use a good ass whoopin'.

Seriously, cut it with the BOOMER shit.

My grand children are like animals with rabies. Their mothers did this not us old people. It comes from I will give my kids whatever they want and never teach them basic manners.
For example
Last year I got our grand daughter 2 beautiful necklaces. Instead of just saying thank you she said I'm not into that and I'm not about that. REALLY ? And her mother straight up asked me for the receipt. I told her to give it to someone that might appreciate it. GD then said she'll take the money I spent on it instead. She was 9 at the time. After that we never saw her again. Her mother's choice.

Current grand daughter is 11. She told us she wanted some headphones. She texted her grandfather a picture. When I saw the price I said hell no. A child does not need expensive headphones. Her mother said we had the means to buy those headphones so it's our duty to make the child happy. I said no. Pick something else or not. Yesterday that witch had the nerve to text Grandpa asking for $1000 to finish her Christmas shopping for the grandchild.

So yes, parenting 101 is a FAIL.

But it's your parenting you are complaining about in addition to the grandkids right? The mom didn't behave how you taught her right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Millennials are more likely to be gentle, authoritative parents. To Boomers who are used to authoritarian parenting, it probably seems weak - but I bet Millennials’ offspring spend less time in therapy as adults.

I don’t remember authoritarian parenting from the old hippie generation, or the Vietnam war generation. But there are way too many styles of parenting to pigeon hole a whole group of parents based on the years they grew up.

I do see a lot of trashier looking moms in there 30s out there showing off their bodies no matter how flabby. Not really respecting themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Social media now going off about how terrible millennials tend to be as parents, letting their kids run around like wild untamed animals. Boomers were already lax, now it has snowballed with millennials basically acting as their kids' best friends rather than act as their parents. Is millennial parenting as bad as they say? It does seem like a ton of kids these days could use a good ass whoopin'.

Seriously, cut it with the BOOMER shit.

My grand children are like animals with rabies. Their mothers did this not us old people. It comes from I will give my kids whatever they want and never teach them basic manners.
For example
Last year I got our grand daughter 2 beautiful necklaces. Instead of just saying thank you she said I'm not into that and I'm not about that. REALLY ? And her mother straight up asked me for the receipt. I told her to give it to someone that might appreciate it. GD then said she'll take the money I spent on it instead. She was 9 at the time. After that we never saw her again. Her mother's choice.

Current grand daughter is 11. She told us she wanted some headphones. She texted her grandfather a picture. When I saw the price I said hell no. A child does not need expensive headphones. Her mother said we had the means to buy those headphones so it's our duty to make the child happy. I said no. Pick something else or not. Yesterday that witch had the nerve to text Grandpa asking for $1000 to finish her Christmas shopping for the grandchild.

So yes, parenting 101 is a FAIL.

I would be mortified if my dd acted like that. We took the time to teach them how to act when presented with a gift. Don’t say if you already have it. Don’t say oh it’s not my style, can I return it? You say thank you, you love it. And even though her grandparents are part of the 1% don’t ask for expensive gifts. You’re a child and it’s rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Social media now going off about how terrible millennials tend to be as parents, letting their kids run around like wild untamed animals. Boomers were already lax, now it has snowballed with millennials basically acting as their kids' best friends rather than act as their parents. Is millennial parenting as bad as they say? It does seem like a ton of kids these days could use a good ass whoopin'.

Seriously, cut it with the BOOMER shit.

My grand children are like animals with rabies. Their mothers did this not us old people. It comes from I will give my kids whatever they want and never teach them basic manners.
For example
Last year I got our grand daughter 2 beautiful necklaces. Instead of just saying thank you she said I'm not into that and I'm not about that. REALLY ? And her mother straight up asked me for the receipt. I told her to give it to someone that might appreciate it. GD then said she'll take the money I spent on it instead. She was 9 at the time. After that we never saw her again. Her mother's choice.

Current grand daughter is 11. She told us she wanted some headphones. She texted her grandfather a picture. When I saw the price I said hell no. A child does not need expensive headphones. Her mother said we had the means to buy those headphones so it's our duty to make the child happy. I said no. Pick something else or not. Yesterday that witch had the nerve to text Grandpa asking for $1000 to finish her Christmas shopping for the grandchild.

So yes, parenting 101 is a FAIL.

It sounds like the problem is the with the kids YOU raised (or their spouses, but you raised your kids to pick those people to procreate with, so it’s still partially on you)