millennials terrible parents

[Anonymous]

Social media now going off about how terrible millennials tend to be as parents, letting their kids run around like wild untamed animals. Boomers were already lax, now it has snowballed with millennials basically acting as their kids' best friends rather than act as their parents. Is millennial parenting as bad as they say? It does seem like a ton of kids these days could use a good ass whoopin'.

[Anonymous]

I’m a nanny and a millennial and there’s some truth to this.

Millennials have done a 180 from their Boomer parents strict Authoritarian, hands off, corporal punishment parenting by being overbearing, coddling permissive parents.

And no, the answer isn’t to spank or hit your children.

Many millennial parents co-opted Gentle Parenting and misunderstood it and became very passive and permissive parents. No boundaries, no rules, no expectations. They think to have happy, well-rounded kids you must make sure you meet every wish and need and destroy any potential struggle or obstacle that may be in your child’s path. (Look up snowplow parenting). These parents have the best of intentions, but end up raising miserable, lazy, disregulated children.

Of course this is not all millennial parents, probably not even close to most. But it’s a significant enough of a problem that people notice. Especially those who work with these families and children (teachers, coaches, therapists).

I’ve seen it with many families but not all. But it seems like every generation is going to f___ up their kids in some way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny and a millennial and there’s some truth to this.

Millennials have done a 180 from their Boomer parents strict Authoritarian, hands off, corporal punishment parenting by being overbearing, coddling permissive parents.

And no, the answer isn’t to spank or hit your children.

Many millennial parents co-opted Gentle Parenting and misunderstood it and became very passive and permissive parents. No boundaries, no rules, no expectations. They think to have happy, well-rounded kids you must make sure you meet every wish and need and destroy any potential struggle or obstacle that may be in your child’s path. (Look up snowplow parenting). These parents have the best of intentions, but end up raising miserable, lazy, disregulated children.

Of course this is not all millennial parents, probably not even close to most. But it’s a significant enough of a problem that people notice. Especially those who work with these families and children (teachers, coaches, therapists).

I’ve seen it with many families but not all. But it seems like every generation is going to f___ up their kids in some way.

If you’re a nanny why are you in the parenting forum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny and a millennial and there’s some truth to this.

Millennials have done a 180 from their Boomer parents strict Authoritarian, hands off, corporal punishment parenting by being overbearing, coddling permissive parents.

And no, the answer isn’t to spank or hit your children.

Many millennial parents co-opted Gentle Parenting and misunderstood it and became very passive and permissive parents. No boundaries, no rules, no expectations. They think to have happy, well-rounded kids you must make sure you meet every wish and need and destroy any potential struggle or obstacle that may be in your child’s path. (Look up snowplow parenting). These parents have the best of intentions, but end up raising miserable, lazy, disregulated children.

Of course this is not all millennial parents, probably not even close to most. But it’s a significant enough of a problem that people notice. Especially those who work with these families and children (teachers, coaches, therapists).

I’ve seen it with many families but not all. But it seems like every generation is going to f___ up their kids in some way.

If you’re a nanny why are you in the parenting forum?

Believe it or not, we are allowed to have our own children as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny and a millennial and there’s some truth to this.

Millennials have done a 180 from their Boomer parents strict Authoritarian, hands off, corporal punishment parenting by being overbearing, coddling permissive parents.

And no, the answer isn’t to spank or hit your children.

Many millennial parents co-opted Gentle Parenting and misunderstood it and became very passive and permissive parents. No boundaries, no rules, no expectations. They think to have happy, well-rounded kids you must make sure you meet every wish and need and destroy any potential struggle or obstacle that may be in your child’s path. (Look up snowplow parenting). These parents have the best of intentions, but end up raising miserable, lazy, disregulated children.

Of course this is not all millennial parents, probably not even close to most. But it’s a significant enough of a problem that people notice. Especially those who work with these families and children (teachers, coaches, therapists).

I’ve seen it with many families but not all. But it seems like every generation is going to f___ up their kids in some way.

If you’re a nanny why are you in the parenting forum?

Not a nanny, but probably because per the site owner, the site is public and anyone may participate who chooses to participate.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure when our kids are parents this will swing in the other direction. Some people don't want to parent anything like how their parents parented them. I'm an old millennial and definitely tend to lean a bit more on the permissive and coddling side of things. Not overbearing though. It has nothing to do with being a millennial though. My mom was strict, overbearing, controlling and borderline emotionally abusive. I vowed to be nothing like her because it was awful growing up in that environment. So at times, that leads to me swinging a bit too far in the opposite direction and thankfully DH is much more in the middle and can reel me back in.

[Anonymous]

I agree op!

[Anonymous]

A lot of millennials are ignoring the “parenting” part of gentle parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny and a millennial and there’s some truth to this.

Millennials have done a 180 from their Boomer parents strict Authoritarian, hands off, corporal punishment parenting by being overbearing, coddling permissive parents.

And no, the answer isn’t to spank or hit your children.

Many millennial parents co-opted Gentle Parenting and misunderstood it and became very passive and permissive parents. No boundaries, no rules, no expectations. They think to have happy, well-rounded kids you must make sure you meet every wish and need and destroy any potential struggle or obstacle that may be in your child’s path. (Look up snowplow parenting). These parents have the best of intentions, but end up raising miserable, lazy, disregulated children.

Of course this is not all millennial parents, probably not even close to most. But it’s a significant enough of a problem that people notice. Especially those who work with these families and children (teachers, coaches, therapists).

I’ve seen it with many families but not all. But it seems like every generation is going to f___ up their kids in some way.

If you’re a nanny why are you in the parenting forum?

Are you actually smart enough to be raising kids yourself? What a dumb question!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Social media now going off about how terrible millennials tend to be as parents, letting their kids run around like wild untamed animals. Boomers were already lax, now it has snowballed with millennials basically acting as their kids' best friends rather than act as their parents. Is millennial parenting as bad as they say? It does seem like a ton of kids these days could use a good ass whoopin'.

Wut

[Anonymous]

I though millennials were helicopters who hover too close and don't let their children make independent decisions.

Boomers let their children run feral around the neighborhood and settle fights without any adult supervision or intervention.

[Anonymous]

I think part of it is that to survive these days, most families have to have both parents working. It’s very difficult to get by on a single income.

And I think when neither parent spends full days with their kids, they don’t develop the skills needed to parent them effectively. So they go the path of least resistance, let them have screens, snowplow for them, do what they need to do to get through the day.

[Anonymous]

My dad got into a top 5 law school by showing up the month before classes began and chatting with the dean and showing them his LSAT score. No, it wasn't a perfect score. That's how easy it was to get into school back then. The generation gap has 100% to do with scare resources. We millennials go nuts trying to optimize kids to get into college because it's now impossible. That leads to all sorts of parenting decisions that seem baffling and wrong and pathetic to previous generations who weren't under this pressure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad got into a top 5 law school by showing up the month before classes began and chatting with the dean and showing them his LSAT score. No, it wasn't a perfect score. That's how easy it was to get into school back then. The generation gap has 100% to do with scare resources. We millennials go nuts trying to optimize kids to get into college because it's now impossible. That leads to all sorts of parenting decisions that seem baffling and wrong and pathetic to previous generations who weren't under this pressure.

Elite overproduction. I find it a fascinating concept and it’s exactly what you are describing. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elite_overproduction

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad got into a top 5 law school by showing up the month before classes began and chatting with the dean and showing them his LSAT score. No, it wasn't a perfect score. That's how easy it was to get into school back then. The generation gap has 100% to do with scare resources. We millennials go nuts trying to optimize kids to get into college because it's now impossible. That leads to all sorts of parenting decisions that seem baffling and wrong and pathetic to previous generations who weren't under this pressure.

What if I told you that raising happy, resilient, well-rounded and kind kids was as equally as important (if not more) than big earners?