Would you judge - pacifier at bed time.

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Anonymous wrote:DH doesn't mind either, we're in the same boat. It's only a couple of hours a day. We're not limiting her ability to self soothe in the day and is perfectly personable and well adjusted.

Ok then OP - you’re committed to this. What you don’t get to do is dictate how other people respond when your parenting falls outside of the norm.

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Ok then OP - you’re committed to this. What you don’t get to do is dictate how other people respond when your parenting falls outside of the norm.

OP here, yep I made this thread expecting some opinion, so I do apologise for biting back, I can see why people would see it as lazy and I appreciate all viewpoints. I did make the thread to see if I was overwhelmingly in the wrong. It appears whilst it's quite rare it's not unheard of, and not as bad as we're limiting it. So currently not inclined to change now. But will think about it sooner than when she's ready if we're in this position 6-12 months time

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Ya it might be messing up her teeth. I would for sure not allow it once she starts getting her adult teeth in.

Mine used a pacifier until about 3.5, we talked for a few days about how the paci fairy (like tooth fairy) was going to come take the paci to give it to a baby who needed it. I was surprised it worked immediately without fuss.

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You said you haven’t mentioned it to her doctor or dentist but are here asking about it. You need to be asking her health professionals.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - Obviously I wouldn't tell you but it was found out by a visiting relative, who dug into me.

I challenge the lazy parenting she loves cuddling with toys in the day but can't settle with them at night time, I'm not any less loving or patient with her and spend a lot of time with her on bedtime routines, baths reading hugs....

Omg op you don’t need to challenge the lazy parenting thing. There are a few witches on this board who insist if you aren’t doing things their way you’re lazy. Don’t sweat it!

What? The kid is 5, peds recommend pacifiers stop by age 1! This is the epitome of lazy parenting- its harder for OP to actually do anything about it so she doesn't.

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Yep, I’d totally judge.

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Anonymous wrote:

Ok then OP - you’re committed to this. What you don’t get to do is dictate how other people respond when your parenting falls outside of the norm.

OP here, yep I made this thread expecting some opinion, so I do apologise for biting back, I can see why people would see it as lazy and I appreciate all viewpoints. I did make the thread to see if I was overwhelmingly in the wrong. It appears whilst it's quite rare it's not unheard of, and not as bad as we're limiting it. So currently not inclined to change now. But will think about it sooner than when she's ready if we're in this position 6-12 months time

So your cool with it being "lazy" but not cool if it was "horrible". Ok. lol.

Your kid will be super embarrassed when they need to bring their paci on their first sleepover. You aren't doing them any favors.

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Omg she's 5. Teach her healthier ways to self soothe.

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Anonymous wrote:My 5 year old still drinks a 5oz bottle of milk at night. I realize he’s way too old, but he likes it. It takes him less than a minute, so I doubt it is doing much harm to his teeth. And he brushes after.

I wouldn’t worry about the paci if the use is as minimal as you say. Let them move on when they’re ready.

I wouldn't take advice from a woman who gives her Kindergarten aged kid a bottle.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - Obviously I wouldn't tell you but it was found out by a visiting relative, who dug into me.

I challenge the lazy parenting she loves cuddling with toys in the day but can't settle with them at night time, I'm not any less loving or patient with her and spend a lot of time with her on bedtime routines, baths reading hugs....

Omg op you don’t need to challenge the lazy parenting thing. There are a few witches on this board who insist if you aren’t doing things their way you’re lazy. Don’t sweat it!

What? The kid is 5, peds recommend pacifiers stop by age 1! This is the epitome of lazy parenting- its harder for OP to actually do anything about it so she doesn't.

So what? That also recommend breastfeeding until age 1. Some people don’t. But I know you think they’re lazy too. Because they don’t make the same choices as you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - Obviously I wouldn't tell you but it was found out by a visiting relative, who dug into me.

I challenge the lazy parenting she loves cuddling with toys in the day but can't settle with them at night time, I'm not any less loving or patient with her and spend a lot of time with her on bedtime routines, baths reading hugs....

Omg op you don’t need to challenge the lazy parenting thing. There are a few witches on this board who insist if you aren’t doing things their way you’re lazy. Don’t sweat it!

What? The kid is 5, peds recommend pacifiers stop by age 1! This is the epitome of lazy parenting- its harder for OP to actually do anything about it so she doesn't.

+1. We had a thumb sucking issue overnight and we did everything possible to stop it. Gloves, bitter nail polish and finally the one thing that sorta worked was medical tape around her thumb. We also talked to doctors and dentists about how to stop it but you need to do everything in your power to stop it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP - Obviously I wouldn't tell you but it was found out by a visiting relative, who dug into me.

I challenge the lazy parenting she loves cuddling with toys in the day but can't settle with them at night time, I'm not any less loving or patient with her and spend a lot of time with her on bedtime routines, baths reading hugs....

Omg op you don’t need to challenge the lazy parenting thing. There are a few witches on this board who insist if you aren’t doing things their way you’re lazy. Don’t sweat it!

What? The kid is 5, peds recommend pacifiers stop by age 1! This is the epitome of lazy parenting- its harder for OP to actually do anything about it so she doesn't.

So what? That also recommend breastfeeding until age 1. Some people don’t. But I know you think they’re lazy too. Because they don’t make the same choices as you.

Surprised it took until page 4 for la leche to show up.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you are saving for orthodontics.

It’s pretty much the norm for majority of kids to get braces if their parents can afford it. My DD sucked her thumb until she was 8. She wore braces at 13 for about a year, purely for cosmetics, no structural issues. I would say this is very normal

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Anonymous wrote:that’s a lot of pacifier use for a 5 year old and yes I would judge you.

+1 you are the parent, sometimes we have to do hard things. You are asking so you know this isn’t the right thing to do - https://foxkidsdentistry.com/blog/do-pacifiers-cause-dental-problems/ My family member sucked her thumb, she has buck teeth. Yes, orthodontics help. But, no, her palate is misformed so it’s not ever going to be perfect.

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OP here - she will just start with her thumb, it happened last time, at least this is limited to not cause damage. Is it not the best of a bad situation. As I mentioned earlier, whilst I've not brought it up with the dentis, equally the dentist has no concerns over her teeth