Would you judge - pacifier at bed time.

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Anonymous wrote:Hopefully you are saving for orthodontics.

Everyone gets braces now anyway.

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I would think that either your child had some special needs (sensory or tantrums you are soothing) or that you are an extremely permissive parent.

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5 year old with a pacifier is weird… sorry. I would think it’s weird at 4 too (I have a 4.5 year old). But it does not hurt anyone and I doubt that a few minutes per day will ruin teeth.

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Not normal at 5 and can cause damage to teeth, mouth and speech (thumbs are not the only things that are a problem).

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Anonymous wrote:Had a comment from a relative, didn't think this was as bad as was mentioned. Daughter 5 years old has a pacifier at bedtime. Limited to only bedtime routine and occasional steady morning wake up or long early morning or evening car journeys.

She'll want to suck on anything when we tried to take it away coldnl turkey. With this she's not sucking on her thumb in the night and causing damage to her teeth. The dummy doesn't affect speech and hasn't affected speech. We will remove in a year or two but in no huge rush.

Is this awful parenting or something others have done?

I'm not looking for advice unless the whole consensus is that this is terrible as it works great for us.

Honestly, I would wonder about it to myself, but I wouldn’t say anything or think that you were not a good parent. When your kids get older, you actually do come across bad parenting and giving a kid a pacifier ain’t it.

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OP - thanks all for the replies, I understand it isn't the norm and totally expect judgement and difference of opinions, but glad it's not horrible parenting as was insinuated to me.

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How would I even know unless you told me? I mean, I might think it odd, but I'd not mention it.

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I took my kid’s away around age 1 and I thought that was a bit late. As long as you don’t care if it messes up your kid’s mouth and teeth, go for it.

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It's time to give her other ways to self soothe. The paci won't keep working and you could have her sucking her thumb at school. Eventually kids will make fun of that.

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5!? Oh my.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - thanks all for the replies, I understand it isn't the norm and totally expect judgement and difference of opinions, but glad it's not horrible parenting as was insinuated to me.

It’s lazy parenting.

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Anonymous wrote:OP - thanks all for the replies, I understand it isn't the norm and totally expect judgement and difference of opinions, but glad it's not horrible parenting as was insinuated to me.

It’s lazy parenting.

Yeah it may not be horrible parenting, but it’s definitely lazy parenting. You should see the contraptions they put in a kid’s mouth to stop them from sucking them thumbs. I would much rather find ways to stop this now, than put them through that.

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I would probably assume special needs before judging but yeah OP this is just lazy.

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OP, I transitioned my kid from the paci to a "chew stick" similar to chew necklaces but of course not a necklace. That avoids the sucking motion that can damage teeth. Get something rated for adults, ours was Chewy Tube brand.

I used this to replace the paci at 2, and kid phased out of the chew on her own by 5.

A doc or dentist will absolutely tell you to drop the paci. But if your kid has an emotional need for this kind of soothng behavior, I think that is something to look into with the doc.

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At 5? Yeah you gotta take that thing