Do you drink alcohol while ToTing with your kids?

[Anonymous]

We have a party every year going on 25 years.

I make dinner, my neighbor (teacher) and I gets all the kids in their costumes.

We light a firepit in my driveway and about 3-7 families (depending on the year) sit around and hand out candy.

The husbands/teens/young adult walk the kids around. The Moms relax.

We drink beer and wine, generally ... or bring your own.

We will give beer and wine out to moms/dad walking we usually have about 5-10 takers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

Multiple times the word “need.” Babe I don’t need alcohol, or coffee, or chocolate. These are wants that I sometimes take pleasure in. If you are struggling with “need” that is on you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

Ok, kids... So, when you troll, subtlety is killer. The above is not a good effort at trolling. I give it a grade of D-

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

DP
You sound insufferable and judgmental. Glad you're so perfect.

Read the responses on this thread. There is a reason people are judgmental about it. Some parents turn Halloween, a children's event that often takes place on a weeknight, into an excuse to get trashed with their friends. It's weird. There's nothing wrong with drinking but this need some parents have to turn kid-centric events into an excuse to get drunk is a sign of a drinking problem. Sorry if that hits close to home for you.

Can you point out the posts where people said they use it as an excuse to get trashed? Please be specific.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

Where does it say anyone NEEDS it? Why do you feel like it’s a problem if someone takes their kid and enjoys a beer at the same time? Why does everyone NEED to do it your way, or else be labeled an alcoholic?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

Multiple times the word “need.” Babe I don’t need alcohol, or coffee, or chocolate. These are wants that I sometimes take pleasure in. If you are struggling with “need” that is on you.

If it's a want, not a need, why is it important that it happens during ToTing instead of later when the kid portion of the evening is over? I like having a drink but I don't do so at work or while driving or while chaperoning my kid through ToTing.

Babe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

Where does it say anyone NEEDS it? Why do you feel like it’s a problem if someone takes their kid and enjoys a beer at the same time? Why does everyone NEED to do it your way, or else be labeled an alcoholic?

Why are you so triggered by someone pointing out that alcohol is not a necessary component to this activity? Why are you so defensive, if your way of doing it is so self-evidently good?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

I was the first responder and am not defensive at all. I am the person who posted that she had actual issues with alcohol so so don’t drink while trick or treating but I have zero judgment of those that have the ability and desire to do so. Why would I be defensive if I don’t, in fact drink while trick or treating?

The poster has no idea what an actual alcoholic is and by saying that someone who wants to drink a beer while trick or treating is an alcoholic she is minimizing the struggles of actual addicts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

DP
You sound insufferable and judgmental. Glad you're so perfect.

Read the responses on this thread. There is a reason people are judgmental about it. Some parents turn Halloween, a children's event that often takes place on a weeknight, into an excuse to get trashed with their friends. It's weird. There's nothing wrong with drinking but this need some parents have to turn kid-centric events into an excuse to get drunk is a sign of a drinking problem. Sorry if that hits close to home for you.

Can you point out the posts where people said they use it as an excuse to get trashed? Please be specific.

Multiple posts about people giving out jello-shots or alcohol to other parents when giving out candy to kids, plus this gem:

I thought I’d carry on my mom's 1970s tradition of handing out hot cider to adults on Halloween. I did it Halloween 2003 when we moved to our current dcumlandia suburban neighborhood. Never again because every other parent asked if it was spiked/refused or held up a cup saying they already had their boozy beverage!

An adjacent court puts up cones at dusk. The parents gather to pre party with a keg. By the time actual ToT begins, one semi drunk dad stands over each residents’ huge bowl of candy lined up in from of the cones and instructs TOTers not to go any further, “jusstake shumcandees frumeach boll.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We do a spiked hot coffee or cider drink.

I thought I’d carry on my mom's 1970s tradition of handing out hot cider to adults on Halloween. I did it Halloween 2003 when we moved to our current dcumlandia suburban neighborhood. Never again because every other parent asked if it was spiked/refused or held up a cup saying they already had their boozy beverage!

An adjacent court puts up cones at dusk. The parents gather to pre party with a keg. By the time actual ToT begins, one semi drunk dad stands over each residents’ huge bowl of candy lined up in from of the cones and instructs TOTers not to go any further, “jusstake shumcandees frumeach boll.”

I'm confused. Was your cider spiked with alcohol? Or were parents wishing it was spiked? Cider is normally spiked for adults. Grocery stores sell cider that's non alcoholic for kids, but it's more like spiced apple juice.

PP and no alcohol- hot cider if the adults wanted to warm up. No takers cuz all wanted booze.

[Anonymous]

No, b.c if there's an emergency I want to be able to drive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

I was the first responder and am not defensive at all. I am the person who posted that she had actual issues with alcohol so so don’t drink while trick or treating but I have zero judgment of those that have the ability and desire to do so. Why would I be defensive if I don’t, in fact drink while trick or treating?

The poster has no idea what an actual alcoholic is and by saying that someone who wants to drink a beer while trick or treating is an alcoholic she is minimizing the struggles of actual addicts.

Why can't you just drink the beer when you get home? Why is it important to walk around the neighborhood drinking? Why do the parent gatherings on Halloween so often emphasize alcohol as a central component? Not just "oh yeah there are beers in the cooler" but "let me spike your cider there, it's fun!"

The stories of people giving out beer or spiked cider or jello shots to parents during ToTing. Like "well kids love candy and parents love alcohol!"

It's weird. I don't care if people drink or not but I find it weird that people are so eager to turn Halloween into an alcohol-focused activity. It's Tuesday. It is a holiday for children. So why is it so boozy for people?

[Anonymous]

Stop trying to normalize alcohol culture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

So your kids are so awful that you need to find solace in a glass of wine at the end of the night after spending an hour with them? I am sorry you are such a bad parent that you can't take your kids ToTing without having to drink way your troubles with "mommy juice" at the end of the night.

I had the same thought! She’s still drinking yet trying to frame it in a way that makes her look superior. Gave me a good chuckle.

You both sound defensive. No one said drinking is wrong, but why do you need to drink WHILE trick or treating with your kids? What is so hard about walking around the neighborhood for a little while that you feel you need that?

Multiple times the word “need.” Babe I don’t need alcohol, or coffee, or chocolate. These are wants that I sometimes take pleasure in. If you are struggling with “need” that is on you.

If it's a want, not a need, why is it important that it happens during ToTing instead of later when the kid portion of the evening is over? I like having a drink but I don't do so at work or while driving or while chaperoning my kid through ToTing.

Babe.

It’s not “important” or necessary or needed but it is my tradition with my neighbors. Sorry if you’re struggling hon. There are programs for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm not an alcoholic though.

What's it like in your black and white world?

It's great. I am capable of spending an hour walking my kid around the neighborhood and then enjoying a glass of wine at home, without needing to carry a little "mommy juice" around with me while I make a nice memory with my kid.

I'm sorry that you can't do normal parenting activities without alcohol. That sounds difficult.

DP
You sound insufferable and judgmental. Glad you're so perfect.

Read the responses on this thread. There is a reason people are judgmental about it. Some parents turn Halloween, a children's event that often takes place on a weeknight, into an excuse to get trashed with their friends. It's weird. There's nothing wrong with drinking but this need some parents have to turn kid-centric events into an excuse to get drunk is a sign of a drinking problem. Sorry if that hits close to home for you.

Can you point out the posts where people said they use it as an excuse to get trashed? Please be specific.

Multiple posts about people giving out jello-shots or alcohol to other parents when giving out candy to kids, plus this gem:

I thought I’d carry on my mom's 1970s tradition of handing out hot cider to adults on Halloween. I did it Halloween 2003 when we moved to our current dcumlandia suburban neighborhood. Never again because every other parent asked if it was spiked/refused or held up a cup saying they already had their boozy beverage!

An adjacent court puts up cones at dusk. The parents gather to pre party with a keg. By the time actual ToT begins, one semi drunk dad stands over each residents’ huge bowl of candy lined up in from of the cones and instructs TOTers not to go any further, “jusstake shumcandees frumeach boll.”

Still don’t see any posters using it as an excuse to get trashed. But nice try.