DH doesn't help enforce bedtime

[Anonymous]

I think you need to figure out what the actual issue is. Does you husband literally disagree about how much sleep she needs? Or is he ADHD with time blindness and so he just doesn’t realize how late it is? Or something else?

My husband is pretty time blind. But the time he spends with my kid before bed is important (same for me). It builds a lot of bonding and closeness. So, I can be ok with reminding them “hey, it is 8:30 now get out of her room.” It just isn’t that big of a deal. You could also put an echo dot in her room with a reminder each night “it is 8:30, daddy get out of the room.” This assumes you are not actually disagreeing about bedtime.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he agree with the bedtime? Who decided that was her bedtime?

OP here. I don't know if he agrees. But for her age, 10 hours appears to be appropriate. If she was showing me she could be pleasant in the morning, I'd be more inclined to push it a little later. She's always been a high sleep needs kid though.

What you've got is a communication problem.

I doubt it. How many men do you know that have strong opinions on bedtime?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does he say when you clearly and directly tell him that she is having trouble in the mornings because of the late bedtimes and ask for support? Where is he in the mornings?

OP here. Just acts like I'm blowing it out of proportion. He's still sleeping. I supervise her to make sure she gets dressed, brushes teeth, gets her backpack together, eats breakfast, I help her with her hair, etc. Then I leave when he's getting up and he takes her to the bus.

Then on days when she stays up late he needs to be the one to handle mornings.

You guys need to switch up responsibilities. He is sabotaging your mornings. From now on you do morning immediately following the night you do bedtime. Let him handle it all. He’s making a mess and he doesn’t care because you clean it up.

Leave the house and go to the gym or get coffee before work. Do not bail him out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he agree with the bedtime? Who decided that was her bedtime?

OP here. I don't know if he agrees. But for her age, 10 hours appears to be appropriate. If she was showing me she could be pleasant in the morning, I'd be more inclined to push it a little later. She's always been a high sleep needs kid though.

What you've got is a communication problem.

I doubt it. How many men do you know that have strong opinions on bedtime?

NP, I am one of those men, But my only strong opinion is that if its still bright outside kids should be outside playing not laying in bed.