When do clothing issues become neglect?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a teacher who has made a number of CPS calls. It would never occur to me to call CPS because a kid came to school without a sweatshirt, unless the kid was very young or very disabled and clearly in distress.

Having said that, if I asked my kid to take a sweatshirt to school in their backpack, they would take it to school. I don't think it's an unreasonable thing to ask.

Jeez, what happened?

Not PP - but jeez you are naive to be surprised or think this happens once.

Think kids with suspicious bruises & burns, and flinching. Parents repeatedly missing pickup from the bus or school, and then showing up late & obviously impaired/high/drunk. Kids reporting abusive home situations. Kids not showing up for school, not being able to reach the parents.

Not having a coat is not even near being on the list of things I’d report. I’m glad that there are nice families who think this is the worst you can do as a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol your mom is being an annoying Boomer. Trust me, CPS has much more on their plate than getting involved if little Timmy isn’t wearing a jacket/hoodie on a cool morning.

Not in this case but teachers will call CPS if it 12 degrees in the morning and a child comes in every morning with ripped sweatpants, sneakers. No socks, long sleeve tshirt and nothing else. Not everyone lives in moderate weather. If it’s snowing out let’s hope little Timmy has an adult insisting on appropriate clothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:lol your mom is being an annoying Boomer. Trust me, CPS has much more on their plate than getting involved if little Timmy isn’t wearing a jacket/hoodie on a cool morning.

Not in this case but teachers will call CPS if it 12 degrees in the morning and a child comes in every morning with ripped sweatpants, sneakers. No socks, long sleeve tshirt and nothing else. Not everyone lives in moderate weather. If it’s snowing out let’s hope little Timmy has an adult insisting on appropriate clothing.

Nope. Would warrant a call to the parent, but not a call straight to CPS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What?? No. CPS doesn’t get involved for kids without a coat on.


Put it in his backpack if it makes you feel better - then everyone will know he has one.

A teacher reported my SIL over this but the CPS worker dismissed it very quickly after a meeting with SIL.

[Anonymous]

My boys wear shorts to school year round. The classrooms are really warm, and recess is pretty short, they are running around, and are fine without a sweatshirt.

[Anonymous]

I have a kid like this, but I insist on her carrying weather appropriate clothes in her backpack. Sometimes she comes home in the jacket, but usually not.

[Anonymous]

You must wear weather appropriate clothing sorry not sorry. You can hate me .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 8 year old REFUSES to dress properly for winter. For a long time, I was of the thought that he would be put on jeans and a sweatshirt when he got cold, but another autumn has rolled around, and he's outside in 40-degree weather in a t-shirt and jeans waiting on the bus. At what point do I need to put my foot down? My mom keeps telling me child services is close to getting involved.

Never.

This is the ultimate in natural consequences and the ideal thing to eliminate as a conflict since we all have many other conflicts to deal with that we can't ignore.

They aren't in any danger andit's a self-solving "problem" that they will solved, when they need to solve it.

You're mom is a nut.

[Anonymous]

On the walk to school there are several adult men who wear a hoodie with basketball shorts all winter long - so not everyone grows out of it. Try getting your 5th grade boy to wear pants when it’s 30 degrees only to hear “Ben’s dad wears shorts in January”. Well, Ben’s dad also doesn’t have mandatory outdoor recess!

Also no CPS does not care that my neighbor’s son wore a hoodie and shorts every day for an entire school year in NoVa, including winter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a teacher who has made a number of CPS calls. It would never occur to me to call CPS because a kid came to school without a sweatshirt, unless the kid was very young or very disabled and clearly in distress.

Having said that, if I asked my kid to take a sweatshirt to school in their backpack, they would take it to school. I don't think it's an unreasonable thing to ask.

Jeez, what happened?

NP. CPS calls are *very* private. I’ve made them and will never, ever discuss who or what happened.

[Anonymous]

Also, no teacher will call for no coat. At most, they’ll refer the matter to the guidance counselor who will help the family find a coat, if necessary. If the family has money, they’ll assume the kids if refusing a coat and move on with their life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You must wear weather appropriate clothing sorry not sorry. You can hate me .

I agree. Parents are fooling themselves if they believe their child walking to school in 17 degree weather with a wind chill factor of zero are just fine in shorts and a tshirt.

It’s all about the “popular” boys do it so they let their child do it.

[Anonymous]

I ask my kids to step outside to see how the morning weather feels. I have a 10 year old who strongly prefers biking to school in a sweatshirt and shorts… but she will wear leggings as it gets colder. I don’t force it as long as she has “felt” the weather.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:lol your mom is being an annoying Boomer. Trust me, CPS has much more on their plate than getting involved if little Timmy isn’t wearing a jacket/hoodie on a cool morning.

Not in this case but teachers will call CPS if it 12 degrees in the morning and a child comes in every morning with ripped sweatpants, sneakers. No socks, long sleeve tshirt and nothing else. Not everyone lives in moderate weather. If it’s snowing out let’s hope little Timmy has an adult insisting on appropriate clothing.

Nope. Would warrant a call to the parent, but not a call straight to CPS.

Being poor is not child abuse. They probably would ask if the family needs support

[Anonymous]

Can you pack up the warm weather clothing so he has not choice to wear long sleeves