When do clothing issues become neglect?

[Anonymous]

My DD was like this. She did crew and hockey in high school. Cold just doesn't bother her the way it bothers other people.

[Anonymous]

Lol not at all worth the fight. Offer the correct items and then let it go.

I am 40 and almost never wear a coat. I just dont find them comfortable. If im out for an extended period of time ill layer in fleece items. If im taking the metro and walking a few blocks id just rather do without. A few minutes of cold isnt a big deal to me and I hate carrying a coat.

At that age and in these temperatures its definitely not neccessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 8 year old REFUSES to dress properly for winter. For a long time, I was of the thought that he would be put on jeans and a sweatshirt when he got cold, but another autumn has rolled around, and he's outside in 40-degree weather in a t-shirt and jeans waiting on the bus. At what point do I need to put my foot down? My mom keeps telling me child services is close to getting involved.

Your child can determine whether they are cold or not. Seriously, they can. As long as the weather is not cold enough for frostbite then its a moot point. The only rule you should have is that a jacket or hoodie must be in his backpack and available should he get cold. Thats it.

[Anonymous]

We told our son that he needed to be appropriately dressed for the weather because the Teachers would not allow the class out to recess if there were kids who were not dressed for the cold. We had emails from the Teachers telling us this, it was the lack of hat and gloves and coats in the winter. When it gets to be colder out we will remind DS that he needs a hoodie or a coat and that he doesn’t want to be the kid who causes everyone to have indoor recess.

[Anonymous]

Kids do not get cold the way adults do. My kids wear shorts until it snows and rarely wear a coat even when it snows. Most of their friends are the same way.

[Anonymous]

My kid will not wear pants. Last year I bought him the cheapest coat I could find because I knew that he would not wear it unless he was sledding. It never snowed, so he never wore it. He did have one sports game that was very very cold and he actually wore tights and pants for that, but mostly just wears tights and shorts.
What's stranger is that your 8 year old wears jeans. I haven't seen a kid wearing jeans in years.
Some kids just do not get cold.

[Anonymous]

I am a teacher who has made a number of CPS calls. It would never occur to me to call CPS because a kid came to school without a sweatshirt, unless the kid was very young or very disabled and clearly in distress.

Having said that, if I asked my kid to take a sweatshirt to school in their backpack, they would take it to school. I don't think it's an unreasonable thing to ask.

[Anonymous]

I would get him the least bulky long-sleeved shirt you can find and require him to have it in his backpack.

I would never call CPS about this issue alone because I do not want to waste their time, nor do I want to be laughed at! Anyone who has a son, nephew, or brother knows this is just how it goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a teacher who has made a number of CPS calls. It would never occur to me to call CPS because a kid came to school without a sweatshirt, unless the kid was very young or very disabled and clearly in distress.

Having said that, if I asked my kid to take a sweatshirt to school in their backpack, they would take it to school. I don't think it's an unreasonable thing to ask.

Jeez, what happened?

[Anonymous]

His body his choice. My kids were like this too. Not to worry, if/when they get cold, they'll put on something to keep warm.

FWIW, both kids are currently in college in New England. Both have warm coats, sweaters, hoodies, gloves, hats, and scarves. I don't know if they'll wear any of it, but they have it if they want it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What?? No. CPS doesn’t get involved for kids without a coat on.


Put it in his backpack if it makes you feel better - then everyone will know he has one.

They might. The school pays attention to these things. The school would approach you about it before anybody calls CPS, to make sure he has a coat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 8 year old REFUSES to dress properly for winter. For a long time, I was of the thought that he would be put on jeans and a sweatshirt when he got cold, but another autumn has rolled around, and he's outside in 40-degree weather in a t-shirt and jeans waiting on the bus. At what point do I need to put my foot down? My mom keeps telling me child services is close to getting involved.

Hide the short sleeved shirts and shorts in a bag or box. The only choices should be long sleeved shirts and pants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a teacher who has made a number of CPS calls. It would never occur to me to call CPS because a kid came to school without a sweatshirt, unless the kid was very young or very disabled and clearly in distress.

Having said that, if I asked my kid to take a sweatshirt to school in their backpack, they would take it to school. I don't think it's an unreasonable thing to ask.

Jeez, what happened?

Kids coming to school with multiple bruises in the shape of adult hands or the buckle of a belt.

5 year olds telling me stories of being left home alone overnight with their 3 year old sister.

That kind of thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 8 year old REFUSES to dress properly for winter. For a long time, I was of the thought that he would be put on jeans and a sweatshirt when he got cold, but another autumn has rolled around, and he's outside in 40-degree weather in a t-shirt and jeans waiting on the bus. At what point do I need to put my foot down? My mom keeps telling me child services is close to getting involved.

Hide the short sleeved shirts and shorts in a bag or box. The only choices should be long sleeved shirts and pants.

Why though? Like seriously why? Its not a danger to your child and no one else around them cares at all.

[Anonymous]

I've called CPS on a student who said her dad hit her. CPS said if there wasn't a mark, they couldn't do anything. I think you're safe OP.