Men messaging exgirlfriend things like "it should have been you" when their wife gives birth

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:On Tiktok there is a lot of discussion about men who do this. Men who are messaging their exgirlfriends saying things like they named their daughter after them, they wish it was them, "I was it was you", etc.

It just seems awful to the wife who the guy doesnt really love. Why are people marrying people they don't really love? Is it just about convenience?

I highly, highly doubt these alleged men are married to a wife when they allegedly make these comments. Why is it “I wish you had my baby” rather than “I wish you were the one I married” around the time of the wedding then?

This content (fake ofc, because it’s for engagement, duh?) is very much giving baby momma-baby daddy culture dysfunction.

This is giving "wife who's triggered" energy, tbh. Other people even just within this thread have confirmed things like these have happened to them or people they know. but you can believe whatever makes you feel better

Exactly zero people on this thread have said a man has texted them that they wish it were her after their wife pushed a new human out of her birth canal, or that they named their newborn daughter after them. Zero!!! Delusional.

You really can't read, huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On Tiktok there is a lot of discussion about men who do this. Men who are messaging their exgirlfriends saying things like they named their daughter after them, they wish it was them, "I was it was you", etc.

It just seems awful to the wife who the guy doesnt really love. Why are people marrying people they don't really love? Is it just about convenience?

I highly, highly doubt these alleged men are married to a wife when they allegedly make these comments. Why is it “I wish you had my baby” rather than “I wish you were the one I married” around the time of the wedding then?

This content (fake ofc, because it’s for engagement, duh?) is very much giving baby momma-baby daddy culture dysfunction.

This is giving "wife who's triggered" energy, tbh. Other people even just within this thread have confirmed things like these have happened to them or people they know. but you can believe whatever makes you feel better

Exactly zero people on this thread have said a man has texted them that they wish it were her after their wife pushed a new human out of her birth canal, or that they named their newborn daughter after them. Zero!!! Delusional.

I retract this—one woman did say this, about a guy literally waiting outside of the delivery room (?) that had a “crush” on her and never slept with or dated her a day in his natural born life which sounds either frankly preposterous, or like the guy was mentally ill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On Tiktok there is a lot of discussion about men who do this. Men who are messaging their exgirlfriends saying things like they named their daughter after them, they wish it was them, "I was it was you", etc.

It just seems awful to the wife who the guy doesnt really love. Why are people marrying people they don't really love? Is it just about convenience?

I highly, highly doubt these alleged men are married to a wife when they allegedly make these comments. Why is it “I wish you had my baby” rather than “I wish you were the one I married” around the time of the wedding then?

This content (fake ofc, because it’s for engagement, duh?) is very much giving baby momma-baby daddy culture dysfunction.

This is giving "wife who's triggered" energy, tbh. Other people even just within this thread have confirmed things like these have happened to them or people they know. but you can believe whatever makes you feel better

Exactly zero people on this thread have said a man has texted them that they wish it were her after their wife pushed a new human out of her birth canal, or that they named their newborn daughter after them. Zero!!! Delusional.

I retract this—one woman did say this, about a guy literally waiting outside of the delivery room (?) that had a “crush” on her and never slept with or dated her a day in his natural born life which sounds either frankly preposterous, or like the guy was mentally ill.

Still can't read. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Your child has just been born and you're texting someone else, "I wish you had borne my seed instead of this sad wench"? No way, don't buy it. That's just not a plausible scenario.

Telling someone they're the one they got away is fishing to see if they're up for an affair.

[Anonymous]

Regarding the topic of this thread, a reason why a person might say this is because they are really uncomfortable feeling “Big Feelings.” So rather than be all in and feel love and attachment for the wife and baby he actually has, his mind goes to some fantasy wife and fantasy baby that he does not have.

Other examples are the guy who wants to spend time together, then is texting others or is on his phone most of the time. Or “forgets” or is emotionally detached during your birthday or other holiday. Then when you distance yourself due to his behavior he comes running back. Dollars to donuts he’d go running back to his real wife if fantasy wife ever made the moves to have a real actual baby, complete with real world responsibilities, with him.

[Anonymous]

A lot of times people are able to settle, to content themselves with a mediocre life, to kind of forget their emotions, distract themselves from what theyre feeling. Than some major, sentimental life event happens and WHAM theyre hit with a blast of what could have been, should have been. The guy who tolerates his middling office job has a near fatal car accident and decides he has to leave and pursue his true passion of carpentry. Or decides to call the brother he hasn't talked to in years. Or... yes, realizes the woman he married isn't the woman he ever really loved.

These massive events have a way of putting things into perspective. Sometimes in ways that can seem shocking to the rest of us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Damn if I put myself at risk for birthing some lout's baby and saw that text, we'd be done.

I'd be beside myself. Can't even imagine.

[Anonymous]

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I think less of you, OP, for having that sort of feed. Water finds its own level.

Yeah! My feed is full of dancing cats and gardening videos. Do Better.

[Anonymous]

I'm a man and this just seems completely weird to me. I have some remnants of past relationships buried deep within my psyche (I dream about a couple of them occasionally) can't comprehend even thinking about an ex while my own wife gives birth.