Ungrateful and judgmental towards parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP,
I hardly ever post here. My parents were not perfect, but okay.

I believe some of the posters here have experienced a very difficult upbringing that maybe you and I were spared and that they are truly speaking about their lives.

Why should they have gratitude for a bad parents? If these posters could choose, maybe they would rather have your parents.

I guess i disagree. We all have issues and challenges growing up regardless of your background/culture. In many other cultures, blaming on your parents (whether it's justifiable or not) is just unthinkable. Here, people do it without hesitation. Always blaming their upbringing/parents for their own failures.

- np

NP. I guess I'm one of the people you feel so comfortable judging. I DO blame my parents for my failure - my failure to sleep undisturbed.

I'm the OP of this thread
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1161381.page

If you had more life experience or perspective, you'd realize not everyone is impacted by an event in the same way. Some will be fine afterwards, some might not. Some, like me, might experience greater intensity in impact decades later.

I don't know why I've had a resurgence and increased intensity of sleep hypervigilence. I DO know it is a result of PTSD from growing up in a home with DV. That is absolutely my parents' fault. I blame them, do not respect them and have no gratitude.

I survived in spite of my parents.