DW refuses to dress out baby in anything but sleepers/rompers

[Anonymous]

You care more about the happiness of people who don't even know if your kid is wearing the stuff than your own wife? Newborns look dumb in two piece outfits. Team wife.

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Anonymous wrote:If you wan to dress your child you should be able to do so. Why does your wife decide what the baby wears?

Many people dress their babies in clothes, it is normal. If there is an outfit you like or end any to wear (maybe gift giver is visiting), put it on baby.

Is your wife controlling in other ways?

Not usually she’s just very particular about how things are done with him.

She thinks that he doesn’t nurse as well in the outfits with pants because the waistband is too tight on his stomach. It’s not. It fits fine and he doesn’t seem uncomfortable I’m concerned it’s new mom anxiety on a whole new level.

Is she usually anxious? How old is the baby? If she starts to get anxious about regular everyday things or starts to try to control you and the environment, that is definitely worth a talk with the doctor.

3.5 weeks. I will keep that in mind to bring up at 6 weeks Appointment

And what are you going to do about your own anxiety?

You realize it’s not normal to fixate this much on how your wife dresses your newborn, right?

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Anonymous wrote:If you wan to dress your child you should be able to do so. Why does your wife decide what the baby wears?

Many people dress their babies in clothes, it is normal. If there is an outfit you like or end any to wear (maybe gift giver is visiting), put it on baby.

Is your wife controlling in other ways?

Not usually she’s just very particular about how things are done with him.

She thinks that he doesn’t nurse as well in the outfits with pants because the waistband is too tight on his stomach. It’s not. It fits fine and he doesn’t seem uncomfortable I’m concerned it’s new mom anxiety on a whole new level.

Is she usually anxious? How old is the baby? If she starts to get anxious about regular everyday things or starts to try to control you and the environment, that is definitely worth a talk with the doctor.

3.5 weeks. I will keep that in mind to bring up at 6 weeks Appointment

For heavens sake. 3.5 weeks.

My kids lived in baby gowns for the first month. Open at the bottom was easiest for changing so that’s what we did. With a swaddle most of the day.
Worry about what is easy and comfortable, not what present gets used.

If you bring this up at the check up I hope your wife and the doctor both laugh at you.

+1 I think OP is the controlling one. At that age we baby was always swaddled arms in, no one would see outfits.

I thought this was a baby who was a couple months old.

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Anonymous wrote:Dude when you’re getting controlling about a newborn baby’s fashion, it’s time to take a step back and reevaluate your life.

Are you okay?

She is the controlling one. If it was a dad refusing to allow his wife to put the baby in anything other than sleepers, and taking off any outfit she put on the baby, no one would be okay with that.

He says the wife changes the baby’s clothes when she does a diaper change. All he’d have to do to keep the baby wearing button down shirts slacks and sweaters would be to dress the baby himself.

He doesn’t want to actually take care of the baby. He wants to control how his wife dresses the baby and dictate the baby’s outfits.

I think OP needs to see a therapist to talk about his anxiety and control issues.

Men can also deal with mental health problems after the arrival of a new baby. His whole clothing fixation sounds so bizarre that I really hope he gets help.

[Anonymous]

Team wife.

I usually dressed the baby in the (impractical) outfit for a photo, then changed baby back into something comfy. Then I’d send photo of baby in the outfit to the gift giver. Why does it even matter if the outfit is “wasted”? Most baby clothes are barely worn before outgrown anyway.

[Anonymous]

I’m dying over the fact that it’s 3.5 weeks and this guy thinks his wife is wasting baby clothes and that SHE’s the controlling one.

[Anonymous]

$1,000,000 on this post is from the MIL not the husband. Granny is upset that baby isn’t wearing the little suit she bought or the Prince George look a like outfit. No self respecting guy would notice let alone care that his baby son isn’t being dressed up in impractical gift outfits.

[Anonymous]

3.5 weeks? I assume mom is on maternity leave and does the bulk of newborn care- so she gets to dress the baby. Mom privilege. Sorry, not sorry.

If you want to put an outfit on for a photo op, by all means do.

You’ll be able to dress baby how you like when he/she is a bit older.

I can’t even imagine my DH giving AF what our newborns wore? LOL. He chose a lot of their clothes once they hit toddlerhood+ plus newborns who cares…

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Anonymous wrote:$1,000,000 on this post is from the MIL not the husband. Granny is upset that baby isn’t wearing the little suit she bought or the Prince George look a like outfit. No self respecting guy would notice let alone care that his baby son isn’t being dressed up in impractical gift outfits.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP is such a dimwit. At 3.5 weeks!

Way to not see the forest for the trees.

Hopefully due to sleep deprivation and not natural IQ.

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Anonymous wrote:Essentially anything that’s not a one piece she won’t put on him. We were gifted so many baby outfits and she will not put any two pieces on him and if I do she removes it at the next diaper change.

I asked her why and she claimed the baby pants were too tight on his abdomen and probably uncomfortable. We’re basically wasting the gifts we received from friends and family and she doesn’t seem to care.

Baby pants? She'd likely do the onesie [long or short sleeve] and pants if they fit properly. Sorry new dad but there is a wide variability even within some brands.

You want pants? Get Hanna Andersson baby wiggle pants- soft plus soft waist and consistent in sizing as the baby grows. I don't buy people baby clothes except for close family on the back end to replace gifts with what is needed.

[Anonymous]

I’m just imagining some itchy polyester outfit from Kohl’s rubbing up against me while I’m nursing. No thanks. Team wife all the way.

Also, the only comment my husband ever makes is “oh what cute pajamas”. He has no input or clue about baby clothes lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$1,000,000 on this post is from the MIL not the husband. Granny is upset that baby isn’t wearing the little suit she bought or the Prince George look a like outfit. No self respecting guy would notice let alone care that his baby son isn’t being dressed up in impractical gift outfits.

This.

Exactly this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:$1,000,000 on this post is from the MIL not the husband. Granny is upset that baby isn’t wearing the little suit she bought or the Prince George look a like outfit. No self respecting guy would notice let alone care that his baby son isn’t being dressed up in impractical gift outfits.

This.

Exactly this.

Omg, yes. Totally.

[Anonymous]

Does she have other signs of postpartum anxiety?