DW refuses to dress out baby in anything but sleepers/rompers

[Anonymous]

I think it would bother me if I dress the kid and then my spouse was changing it at the next diaper change (assuming no blow-out). The implication is that what I’m doing as a parent has to be undone. Sure it seems small, but these slights when you’re both new to this parenting world can feel huge and lead quickly to resentment and score keeping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Essentially anything that’s not a one piece she won’t put on him. We were gifted so many baby outfits and she will not put any two pieces on him and if I do she removes it at the next diaper change.

I asked her why and she claimed the baby pants were too tight on his abdomen and probably uncomfortable. We’re basically wasting the gifts we received from friends and family and she doesn’t seem to care.

Are you really the husband, and is this complaint coming from you?
I feel like a terrible sexist asking, but -- I am.

[Anonymous]

You dress him and then you change his diapers and he stays in the outfit. Take a picture to send to aunt Gertrude to thank her for the outfit. Done!

If she is on maternity leave and you are back at work, then she dresses him however she wants! It is very likely the pants are in fact too small, babies grow SO fast, mine never wore newborn clothes at all. Most of the baby outfits were way too fussy to be practical, and I got a ton in the tiny sizes that only fit for a week or two. And multiple piece outfits are such a pain to put on and change. Taking off pants and then unsnapping onsies or dealing with shirts that ride up and the belly is hanging out, decorations are annoying and uncomfortable when feeding the baby. Unless he is going to the opera or being photographed for a magazine, just let him wear the cotton one piece outfits!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you wan to dress your child you should be able to do so. Why does your wife decide what the baby wears?

Many people dress their babies in clothes, it is normal. If there is an outfit you like or end any to wear (maybe gift giver is visiting), put it on baby.

Is your wife controlling in other ways?

Not usually she’s just very particular about how things are done with him.

She thinks that he doesn’t nurse as well in the outfits with pants because the waistband is too tight on his stomach. It’s not. It fits fine and he doesn’t seem uncomfortable I’m concerned it’s new mom anxiety on a whole new level.

[Anonymous]

They won't be wasted; they will just be passed on to another kid who will use them. I can see why it is mildly annoying that your spouse takes the kid out of the clothes you choose, but I don't think this is a hill to die on. I am team "whoever does most of the diaper changes", but really I think the whole game is a little silly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Essentially anything that’s not a one piece she won’t put on him. We were gifted so many baby outfits and she will not put any two pieces on him and if I do she removes it at the next diaper change.

I asked her why and she claimed the baby pants were too tight on his abdomen and probably uncomfortable. We’re basically wasting the gifts we received from friends and family and she doesn’t seem to care.

I do when I am home. She does primarily. I have to work. Someone must buy these rompers.

You dress him and you change all the diapers. Problem solved!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you wan to dress your child you should be able to do so. Why does your wife decide what the baby wears?

Many people dress their babies in clothes, it is normal. If there is an outfit you like or end any to wear (maybe gift giver is visiting), put it on baby.

Is your wife controlling in other ways?

Not usually she’s just very particular about how things are done with him.

She thinks that he doesn’t nurse as well in the outfits with pants because the waistband is too tight on his stomach. It’s not. It fits fine and he doesn’t seem uncomfortable I’m concerned it’s new mom anxiety on a whole new level.

This is funny because you’re describing your new dad anxiety that’s on a different planet.

It sounds like if you want your son in your special outfits all you have to do is dress him and change his diaper. Instead you want to control how your wife dresses your son. That’s a bit much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you wan to dress your child you should be able to do so. Why does your wife decide what the baby wears?

Many people dress their babies in clothes, it is normal. If there is an outfit you like or end any to wear (maybe gift giver is visiting), put it on baby.

Is your wife controlling in other ways?

Not usually she’s just very particular about how things are done with him.

She thinks that he doesn’t nurse as well in the outfits with pants because the waistband is too tight on his stomach. It’s not. It fits fine and he doesn’t seem uncomfortable I’m concerned it’s new mom anxiety on a whole new level.

It’s postpartum mom anxiety on a very normal level, for one thing.

For another, footy onesies really are the best outfits for newborns. For them and for us. Pants will fall down, shift and mess up the diaper.

But mostly, it’s sort of breathtaking how you’ve picked something so stupid to worry about and how you’re so critical of your wife.

[Anonymous]

This is a thing now. What kinds of sleepers is she buying? Little Sleepies is basically a cult at this point.

I think it's kind of aggressive when people buy clothes for babies. Everyone knows that's the parents favorite thing to do and the giver is usually imposing their own fashion on the baby.

[Anonymous]

Team wife. Both my kids only ever wore rompers and sleepers. The seperate pieces are really impractical on a baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you wan to dress your child you should be able to do so. Why does your wife decide what the baby wears?

Many people dress their babies in clothes, it is normal. If there is an outfit you like or end any to wear (maybe gift giver is visiting), put it on baby.

Is your wife controlling in other ways?

Not usually she’s just very particular about how things are done with him.

She thinks that he doesn’t nurse as well in the outfits with pants because the waistband is too tight on his stomach. It’s not. It fits fine and he doesn’t seem uncomfortable I’m concerned it’s new mom anxiety on a whole new level.

The two piece outfits are a PITA. I think you’re off-base here, op.

[Anonymous]

Dude when you’re getting controlling about a newborn baby’s fashion, it’s time to take a step back and reevaluate your life.

Are you okay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a thing now. What kinds of sleepers is she buying? Little Sleepies is basically a cult at this point.

I think it's kind of aggressive when people buy clothes for babies. Everyone knows that's the parents favorite thing to do and the giver is usually imposing their own fashion on the baby.

Yes. And a few other bamboo brands. She’s really picky about material. She’s always worried he’s uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude when you’re getting controlling about a newborn baby’s fashion, it’s time to take a step back and reevaluate your life.

Are you okay?

She is the controlling one. If it was a dad refusing to allow his wife to put the baby in anything other than sleepers, and taking off any outfit she put on the baby, no one would be okay with that.

[Anonymous]

People gave us a ton of fancy clothes for our newborn. I put every outfit on once, snapped a picture to send the gift-giver and then dressed baby in what was practical: mostly Carter’s stuff.
If you’re that particular then you should take over this job from your wife, OP.