I'm the PP you disagree with. You are right that the specific comments about dress are geared more toward teens; but unfortunately, also our pre-teens. Dress codes and school uniforms still have positive impacts in the elementary setting, nonetheless. As I stated before, they contribute to instilling a sense of discipline and school pride. More importantly, they can contribute to taking pride in one's self. Even at young ages. And they still minimize nonsense distractions such as the cartoon or super hero characters on your classmate's shirt, the economic disparities between those who afford and wear expensive clothing and those coming to school in the same thrift shop hand-me-downs every day. Google it. Oh, and yet there was a sexual assault incident during an elementary school Outdoor Lab field trip. But I don't attribute that to a lack of dress code. Just pointing out that sexual behaviors are occurring at younger and younger ages. |
I have a 5th grader and the kids pretty much wear T-shirts and shorts or T-shirts and leggings/pants. IME, this is a non-issue at our APS elementary school. School clothes don't even make the top 20 list of topics amongst the students. |
Most of these differences only work with home support.
Summer reading...home support. The instrument...home support. The dress code...home support. The homework...home support. Let's be real any homework before about 3rd or 4th grade is a group project with you and your kid. People discounting what a difference it makes to have a student body filled 100 percent with parents who were motivated and interested enough to get the kids there are just naive. |
It's not sexual. Tucked in shirt and belt make a difference. I don't get it. But my kids behave better when thery're dressed up. |
You are a principal’s worst nightmare. What do you do for a living? I’ll tell you how to do YOUR job. |
Growing up "in my day" was about "dress for the occasion" and "dress for the job you want." You know, dress nicely for a wedding or funeral - not cut-offs and crop tops. School was the same - no shorts back then, and no AC! How you dress also reflects how much value you place on the event/situation. I believe even the anti-dress policy adults understand that how you dress affects how you feel and, at least to some degree, how you behave. |
I really need to stop reading the APS threads. They literally raise my blood pressure. You all are completely out of controlled. Obsessed really is the operative word. You will find out soon enough that you are all wasting your energy on meaningless differences between the elementary schools in Arlington - including ATS - in the long run. No matter which school your kids attend, they’re gonna be just fine - because they have to totally stressed out weirdos as parents. |
This is basically the George W Bush era thinking of "the soft bigotry of low expectations". I think it is compelling logic on paper. It's what drove No Child Left Behind, which we still see the impacts of right now. Regular testing and dis-aggregated data exist because of NCLB. The chips falling where they may is a bit trickier You know where they will fall, but it won't be your kid, which is why you don't care. Kids without home support in that type of environment show up in a different place on Day 1. They show up behind. They fall further and further behind over time. I work in a private school and in education. I see it every day. Sometimes the school environment really just isn't going to do it even if the school is doing everything possible to both prop the kid up and set high expectations. The question then is are these "lowered standards" REALLY harming your kid. Are they even lowered standards? A lot of this is what you're used to and what you grew up with and also some amount of hysteria about what is going on that isn't even true, to be honest. I see constant misrepresentation on this site about APS's homework and test re-take policies. The data bears out your typical high-income white kid will do about the same in most environments in terms of academic achievement. |
I just wrote the long post and basically said the same thing at the end. This is it folks. If you are uptight enough to be dithering about this stuff, your kid will be fine. |
Sure. A lot but not all of our elementaries have some of these things. Summer reading, homework, band take some level of parent buy in. I also think more but not all parents would ask their kids do these things if it was expected of them. And why not weekly progress reports sent home to parents? That doesn’t require parent participation but more parents would know how their kid was doing. It opens the door to regular communication. |
Pretty much all of the elementary kids dress for the occasion of "being a kid." They wear comfortable clothes that don't itch, bunch or wrinkle so they can focus in class. They want clothes they can play in at recess or PE or after school. They wear normal, comfortable clothes. |
Teachers are not going to have time for this because they deal with a higher load of discipline and SN kids than ATS (since SN kids who struggle leave ATS for a school without homework) |
I take it your kid has never been in a bad school. We did one South Arlington school (violence, multiple kids on behavior plans in every class, stressed out teachers, overcrowding) and ATS. It was night and day. The school refusal and headaches stopped. They were so happy every day. |
Name the school. |
When high school English classes don't even require their students to read books, it is absolutely a lower standard and absolutely negatively impacts them. Not so much because they may never read Dickens; but because they are not being pushed and challenged. I base this not just on my own high school classes; but on my kids' comments, reactions, and level of engagement in their classes. When the students complain that they aren't doing anything in class, that is lowered standards and negatively impactful. If a student acknowledges the lack of expectations or challenge, that is lowered expectations. These things are a disservice to ALL students. I'm sick of people telling me my white middle class kid will be fine and do just as well no matter which school they go to. I want my kids to be challenged, preferably inspired in some area. I want them to acquire and appreciate the value of working hard and achieving. I expect schools to want the same and to focus on making sure every student strives to achieve their personal potential, not just meet basic standards. And yes, this is focused on the older grades. I don't think homework or no homework in elementary sets the destiny dial on success or failure. But the attitude and philosophy should be at all levels of education. It isn't just about UMC white kids. |