Is this a unicorn? I'm looking for a companion for my mom, but not a set schedule.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What you want is yes, a unicorn - an independently wealthy person who just happens to love hanging out with strangers who have various health needs including maybe combative dementia. Good luck finding that!

I'm the PP who posted about Naborforce and I would say that's a decent description of their employee base!

What kind of rates do they charge? I didn't see rates on the website.

[Anonymous]

I would look into churches that might have volunteers that might be willing to do this.

I would also structure it so the person you hire is paid something, even if you don't use them. Like $25/hr when working, $15/when not.
So have them on standby for 4hrs on Wednesday night and 8hrs on the Saturday. So they are guaranteed $180/ week. (you have to pick specific days so it's consistant), but if you use them, let's say 6 hours on Saturday, they would get paid that week $240.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would look into churches that might have volunteers that might be willing to do this.

I would also structure it so the person you hire is paid something, even if you don't use them. Like $25/hr when working, $15/when not.
So have them on standby for 4hrs on Wednesday night and 8hrs on the Saturday. So they are guaranteed $180/ week. (you have to pick specific days so it's consistant), but if you use them, let's say 6 hours on Saturday, they would get paid that week $240.

That's a really big ask of volunteers from a church where OP and her mom don't even attend-late at night (10 pm+) on weeknights and all day on weekends!

[Anonymous]

Awhile back I used ComforCare. They were able to do 1.5 hour shifts. It was $40 an hour so at the high end. Relative would get restless before dinner (sun downing) so the aide would take them on a walk.

[Anonymous]

I guess I am the kind of unicorn you are looking for. My kids are getting older and don't need me as much so I was looking for short-term work and accepted a care job to cover a private hire caregiver taking leave. It worked out so I stayed on as a back up caregiver when the regular caregivers got sick or needed a day off. Dementia patient. I like to cook so make healthier meals and snacks than she'd normally get and we watch TV or I scroll on my phone while she reads. She always remembers me so that's nice. I think looking for a mom who wants something to do is probably your best bet. I don't need the money or any benefits. I consider everything I learned to be helpful when my mom suddenly needed me.

[Anonymous]

Naborforce is really great.
https://naborforce.com/bethesda-md/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would look into churches that might have volunteers that might be willing to do this.

I would also structure it so the person you hire is paid something, even if you don't use them. Like $25/hr when working, $15/when not.
So have them on standby for 4hrs on Wednesday night and 8hrs on the Saturday. So they are guaranteed $180/ week. (you have to pick specific days so it's consistant), but if you use them, let's say 6 hours on Saturday, they would get paid that week $240.

That's a really big ask of volunteers from a church where OP and her mom don't even attend-late at night (10 pm+) on weeknights and all day on weekends!

The volunteer groups in churches, etc are to help their own members when hard times hit and to help the poor and other charities. It is not to help a middle class non-church member looking for a great deal on a potentially challenging job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I am the kind of unicorn you are looking for. My kids are getting older and don't need me as much so I was looking for short-term work and accepted a care job to cover a private hire caregiver taking leave. It worked out so I stayed on as a back up caregiver when the regular caregivers got sick or needed a day off. Dementia patient. I like to cook so make healthier meals and snacks than she'd normally get and we watch TV or I scroll on my phone while she reads. She always remembers me so that's nice. I think looking for a mom who wants something to do is probably your best bet. I don't need the money or any benefits. I consider everything I learned to be helpful when my mom suddenly needed me.

How old are they? If they are middle school/high school age, don't they need you to drive them to sports practice or club events? Don't you want to be able to see their games or do stuff with them on the weekends? OP wants a companion for evenings (sometimes as late as 10 pm) and weekends--isn't that when you actually get to see your older kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would look into churches that might have volunteers that might be willing to do this.

I would also structure it so the person you hire is paid something, even if you don't use them. Like $25/hr when working, $15/when not.
So have them on standby for 4hrs on Wednesday night and 8hrs on the Saturday. So they are guaranteed $180/ week. (you have to pick specific days so it's consistant), but if you use them, let's say 6 hours on Saturday, they would get paid that week $240.

That's a really big ask of volunteers from a church where OP and her mom don't even attend-late at night (10 pm+) on weeknights and all day on weekends!

The volunteer groups in churches, etc are to help their own members when hard times hit and to help the poor and other charities. It is not to help a middle class non-church member looking for a great deal on a potentially challenging job.

Exactly. I'm not sure why you quoted my post.

[Anonymous]

Try https://seniorshelpingseniors.com/

They seem to do hourly help

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is the situation that your mom can’t be left alone at all?

She can be left alone, but I prefer not at times when it's dinner. I'd like someone to take her to dinner vs. her sitting and eating alone or on a weekend when we are gone most of the day. More of companionship and take her out so she's not sitting around bored and watching tv all day.

That seems really unnecessary. Let her watch TV and eat alone.

Yeah, does your mom even want someone with her when you’re out?

I can’t imagine someone with the level of independence you describe being okay with that. It’s not like she would have doctors appointments at 8pm.

The situation sounds uncomfortable for everyone involved. Why do you want this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like an easy job. I would do it, and I'm a middle-aged woman with a full-time job. My kids are teens so not around much anyway. Seems like an easy way to earn a bit extra here and there.

What's key here: you already have a FT job, so are just learning to make extra. Most people in this line of work need to cobble together hours for FT pay. Also, you don't need to work, so you can pass on picking up a gig when OP may need it.

[Anonymous]

Who would actually want a job like this? I’m sorry but you are looking for a unicorn OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who would actually want a job like this? I’m sorry but you are looking for a unicorn OP.

Actually I would want a job like this. OP what city are you in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who would actually want a job like this? I’m sorry but you are looking for a unicorn OP.

Actually I would want a job like this. OP what city are you in?

Out of curiosity, how can you swing a job like this?