Son snuck in girl, tell her parents?

[Anonymous]

I used to sneak my boyfriend in at night to have sex. I don't know how I didn't get caught! I would tell the parents. I now realize how bad that was and would want to know if my daughter was in someone's house at 4:45 am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a riot! The DS was dishing up snacks to serve at 4:30am. What was he thinking?

“Just had sex, hungry now.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to sneak my boyfriend in at night to have sex. I don't know how I didn't get caught! I would tell the parents. I now realize how bad that was and would want to know if my daughter was in someone's house at 4:45 am.

Pretty good chance your parents knew but didn’t say anything. I thought I was being very clever but it was more like DADT with my parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 15 yo son and 13 yo daughter. I would want to know for either of them but I’m trying to figure out how you would actually get the parents contact info. Unless they went true same elementary school or are in sports teams I don’t have the contact info for most friends now, certainly not kids of the opposite sex. That girl isn’t giving your son her mom’s cell number to give to you.

Figure out someone you know that went to her MS or ES call them up and ask them to look in an old directory (if they were pritned recently enough to be useful -- my kids are older and I have a bunch of old printed directories that come in handy). Or contact the volunteer who is doing the HS directory for this year and explain you have an urgent need if the family has already submitted their info for the directory, volunteer might give it to you before the directory is finalized.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I would hope that if the situation were reversed, the parents would tell me.

If reversed the DS would be in jail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is already dealing with her son on her end because of course he is not an innocent bystander. As someone said he helped sneak her in the house and is equally to blame!

Please tell her parents so they can deal with the situation on their end!

Teens are impulsive and sometimes stupid…sigh….

How do you know that? Girls can be very aggressive. She was at his house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is already dealing with her son on her end because of course he is not an innocent bystander. As someone said he helped sneak her in the house and is equally to blame!

Please tell her parents so they can deal with the situation on their end!

Teens are impulsive and sometimes stupid…sigh….

How do you know that? Girls can be very aggressive. She was at his house.

Ummm…who do you think opened either a door or a window to let her in…..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is already dealing with her son on her end because of course he is not an innocent bystander. As someone said he helped sneak her in the house and is equally to blame!

Please tell her parents so they can deal with the situation on their end!

Teens are impulsive and sometimes stupid…sigh….

How do you know that? Girls can be very aggressive. She was at his house.

Ummm…who do you think opened either a door or a window to let her in…..

Ummm..what would you do if you have a friend knocking on your front door? let them in or what? and you are a grown ass adult with maybe some maturity. We can all construct stories but the girl does sound a bit crazy walking about in the middle of the night. I would get the contact of her parents and warn them, the next time she might not get lucky and run into something dangerous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is already dealing with her son on her end because of course he is not an innocent bystander. As someone said he helped sneak her in the house and is equally to blame!

Please tell her parents so they can deal with the situation on their end!

Teens are impulsive and sometimes stupid…sigh….

How do you know that? Girls can be very aggressive. She was at his house.

Because if someone you don't want to have at your house, shows up at your house in the middle of the night, you don't raid the kitchen for snacks, unless, I guess, they have a gun and order you to. But it seems as though, had that happened, OP's kid wouldn't have made a dumb excuse about shoes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a 15 yo son and 13 yo daughter. I would want to know for either of them but I’m trying to figure out how you would actually get the parents contact info. Unless they went true same elementary school or are in sports teams I don’t have the contact info for most friends now, certainly not kids of the opposite sex. That girl isn’t giving your son her mom’s cell number to give to you.

Figure out someone you know that went to her MS or ES call them up and ask them to look in an old directory (if they were pritned recently enough to be useful -- my kids are older and I have a bunch of old printed directories that come in handy). Or contact the volunteer who is doing the HS directory for this year and explain you have an urgent need if the family has already submitted their info for the directory, volunteer might give it to you before the directory is finalized.

Good advice for all. I’m not OP but opted out of the directory past elementary school. It wouldn’t occur to me to look up a family there.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe we're talking about finding the parents of the other kid from the same town like it's impossible.

[Anonymous]

If you really can’t find her, reach to the school guidance counselor. They can facilitate communication.

Yes, 100% tell them. Of she’s already sneaking out at 14, this girl is likely going to make some other seriously bad choices in the coming years. Help the parents so they can try and get her on a better and arguably safer path.

[Anonymous]

I would track down the parents. It's not that hard to find a number if you know the parents' names. But please tell them in a very non blaming way like "our kids are friends and just wanted to let you know your DD was at our house at 4:45am - we are not sure how she got here. We were going to give her a ride home, but she took off on foot. We had to have a talk with our kids about curfews and such after this so we just thought you might want to know"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is already dealing with her son on her end because of course he is not an innocent bystander. As someone said he helped sneak her in the house and is equally to blame!

Please tell her parents so they can deal with the situation on their end!

Teens are impulsive and sometimes stupid…sigh….

How do you know that? Girls can be very aggressive. She was at his house.

Ummm…who do you think opened either a door or a window to let her in…..

Ummm..what would you do if you have a friend knocking on your front door? let them in or what? and you are a grown ass adult with maybe some maturity. We can all construct stories but the girl does sound a bit crazy walking about in the middle of the night. I would get the contact of her parents and warn them, the next time she might not get lucky and run into something dangerous.

I’m not sure why you are so unwilling to admit that the boy was an equal party in this…even his parents say he snuck her in….both kids at fault.

Totally dangerous for a girl to be sneaking out of her house at night but zero chance the boy didn’t know she was coming over….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to sneak my boyfriend in at night to have sex. I don't know how I didn't get caught! I would tell the parents. I now realize how bad that was and would want to know if my daughter was in someone's house at 4:45 am.

At 14?

14 yr olds should not be having sex, period. Girls especially that start having sex that young are generally on a very bad path. It is emotionally destructive and associated with bad outcomes. Then there is an element of a 14 yr old sneaking out of her house and on the streets alone in the middle of the night. Completely unsafe.

You said they are/were friends. How far from you does she live?