People who do nothing all day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Define do nothing?

I would mean nothing as not earning a paycheck, but also contributing as little as possible to the family, not even going to a workout class, barely leaving the house. Not adding to society - not providing a positive contribution (not just money). Maybe going to the grocery store, but little else. Perhaps taking days to leave the house. Is it depression, anxiety, self entitlement? All of the above?

You are making weird assumptions here.

First, one need not leave the house to be productive. I sometimes stay home all day and clean the house, care for our animals, do planning and administrative work for the kids, and work on a longterm freelance project. I might also read a book, do some yoga, enjoy some quite moments drinking my tea or eating lunch. If you were my nosy neighbor trying to figure out what I do with my days, you might conclude I "do nothing" because you don't see me hurrying about. That would be your problem, not mine.

But if someone was really just sitting in their home doing nothing all day, every day, yes I would assume they were depressed. I would not be angry at them or resent them, I'd feel bad and want to help them. Does that sound like a good life to you? It sounds horrible to me. I don't understand why you would be hostile to someone like this; I would assume they were struggling and needed some help in order to instill more purpose and joy in their lives.

Who is hostile?

What about people who watch television most of the day? Honest question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clearly OP has somebody in mind but refuses to tell us who they are.

Is it you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Define do nothing?

I would mean nothing as not earning a paycheck, but also contributing as little as possible to the family, not even going to a workout class, barely leaving the house. Not adding to society - not providing a positive contribution (not just money). Maybe going to the grocery store, but little else. Perhaps taking days to leave the house. Is it depression, anxiety, self entitlement? All of the above?

You are making weird assumptions here.

First, one need not leave the house to be productive. I sometimes stay home all day and clean the house, care for our animals, do planning and administrative work for the kids, and work on a longterm freelance project. I might also read a book, do some yoga, enjoy some quite moments drinking my tea or eating lunch. If you were my nosy neighbor trying to figure out what I do with my days, you might conclude I "do nothing" because you don't see me hurrying about. That would be your problem, not mine.

But if someone was really just sitting in their home doing nothing all day, every day, yes I would assume they were depressed. I would not be angry at them or resent them, I'd feel bad and want to help them. Does that sound like a good life to you? It sounds horrible to me. I don't understand why you would be hostile to someone like this; I would assume they were struggling and needed some help in order to instill more purpose and joy in their lives.

If you have kids you can’t say you do nothing. You’re not a member of the club. By definition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Define do nothing?

I would mean nothing as not earning a paycheck, but also contributing as little as possible to the family, not even going to a workout class, barely leaving the house. Not adding to society - not providing a positive contribution (not just money). Maybe going to the grocery store, but little else. Perhaps taking days to leave the house. Is it depression, anxiety, self entitlement? All of the above?

You are making weird assumptions here.

First, one need not leave the house to be productive. I sometimes stay home all day and clean the house, care for our animals, do planning and administrative work for the kids, and work on a longterm freelance project. I might also read a book, do some yoga, enjoy some quite moments drinking my tea or eating lunch. If you were my nosy neighbor trying to figure out what I do with my days, you might conclude I "do nothing" because you don't see me hurrying about. That would be your problem, not mine.

But if someone was really just sitting in their home doing nothing all day, every day, yes I would assume they were depressed. I would not be angry at them or resent them, I'd feel bad and want to help them. Does that sound like a good life to you? It sounds horrible to me. I don't understand why you would be hostile to someone like this; I would assume they were struggling and needed some help in order to instill more purpose and joy in their lives.

Who is hostile?

What about people who watch television most of the day? Honest question.

I would assume someone who sits around watching TV all day was depressed and/or lonely and feel bad for them. But I wouldn't judge them and I would waste a bunch time pondering their productivity on the internet because it's none of my business.

Worry about yourself, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Literally, nothing. Why aren't you working, or contributing to society?

Cause they don't have to and don't want to. You should mind the business that pays you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t do anything and it’s awesome. I don’t work, I don’t volunteer, and I don’t help anyone out outside of family. Most mornings I wake up not fully aware of what day it is. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Same. It’s great. Why would someone WANT to work when they can support family in this broken world? I also have health challenges and it takes a lot of time and effort for me to stay alive. I don’t even like to commit to a lunch date next Tuesday. I am very grateful that I can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Literally, nothing. Why aren't you working, or contributing to society?

1. Just because people are not doing paid work in the formal economy does not mean they are doing nothing or not contributing to society.

2. The only People who actually do next to nothing all day usually have either mental illness or substance abuse issues or chronic health mobility issues. None of these problems are fixed by judging them harshly.

[Anonymous]

Dear OP,

We don’t win awards for who did the most things in life. A person who is able to spend their days as they want is incredibly fortunate and just because they are not contributing as YOU feel they should, does not mean they don’t contribute in other ways. It sounds like deep down you may wish you could do the same. If so, I urge you to try to find ways to spend your days doing things that fulfill you. If you are worried about not being able to meet your needs, how can you save so you can leave the rat race and escape to where you truly want to be? There is always a way, but in order to find that way, sometimes we have have to make sacrifices.

Also, a lot of times people who are constantly on the go, or doing things, or feel they always have to be contributing are running from something in their life. If this is you, what is it you are trying to escape?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dear OP,

We don’t win awards for who did the most things in life. A person who is able to spend their days as they want is incredibly fortunate and just because they are not contributing as YOU feel they should, does not mean they don’t contribute in other ways. It sounds like deep down you may wish you could do the same. If so, I urge you to try to find ways to spend your days doing things that fulfill you. If you are worried about not being able to meet your needs, how can you save so you can leave the rat race and escape to where you truly want to be? There is always a way, but in order to find that way, sometimes we have have to make sacrifices.

Also, a lot of times people who are constantly on the go, or doing things, or feel they always have to be contributing are running from something in their life. If this is you, what is it you are trying to escape?

Np
I definitely try to fill my time with busy work to keep my mind off certain anxieties. I can slow down and do much less when my mind is clear and content. It's very helpful so I get why anyone else would do the same.

[Anonymous]

So are people low energy or just lazy, ultimately? Not talking about people who put forth serious effort each day, talking about those who do not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So are people low energy or just lazy, ultimately? Not talking about people who put forth serious effort each day, talking about those who do not.

Me? ADHD, social anxiety, low energy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Literally, nothing. Why aren't you working, or contributing to society?

Your question seems kinda racist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Literally, nothing. Why aren't you working, or contributing to society?

Your question seems kinda racist.

Why on earth would that question be racist? That makes zero sense. People of all types do nothing. People have a right to ask, but you are trying to shut down the question, instead of answering it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Literally, nothing. Why aren't you working, or contributing to society?

I am waiting for my DH to retire and we can move. I don’t want to start new activities for just one year. It’s nice to just be quiet for a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Define do nothing?

Not being a corporate minion.