Fighting at the very last day of vacation

[Anonymous]

I cannot believe how many people fell for this... It is obviously a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH picked this city as family vacation, and he just wanted to enjoy vacation. I was the one looking for flights, hotels, tickets for paid admissions, daily plan etc. Kids also looked forward to this vacation. Kids are handy, but things have been so far so good until tonight which is the last day of vacation. What happened was 1 kid ate 2 crackers against DH's not to eat snack order, and the reason behind was that we were about to head out to eat dinner after my shower. I and 2 kids went to the hotel pool before dinner ,and 1 kid got hungry and ate snacks while I was showering. Once I was done of showering and came out, and all I heard was DH's yelling at 1 kid about his behavior, not listening and how unhappy and unenjoyable this vacation was, how regretable that he had kid, and he would definitely kick him out of house at age 18 etc. He said we could go on with our dinner plan and be a happy family without him and he would not join us to have dinner. It was agreed that he goggled/picked dinner restaurant choice while I took kids to play at hotel pool.

I was furious that that's how our vacation ended on the last day, and I asked him a few times if he really meant that and so. It was dead silence and cold war. Anyways, long story short, no one had dinner and everyone just went to bed with hunger. The youngest, age 3, got freaked out a bit, and she fell asleep by herself. The kid that got in trouble was the oldest, age 7. Kids are young, so I planned our family vacation with zoo, aquarium, kid museum, hotel pool, and some playground time. I told him about that in advance, and he never commented it was bad idea. He hate pool and beach, so we don't do beach trip and he never go to hotel pool/swimming pool with kids ever. I know he regrets to have kids because kids are handful and life/vacation is not fun anymore compared to childless life. What did I do wrong at vacation that we deserve to have no dinner like this? He is a jerk, right? I was mad for everything, and I could not take kids out to dinner under those atmosphere or to make things worse.

You did nothing wrong. Yes, he is a jerk. In fact, a bad enough one that you need to seriously consider the effects of his behavior on the welfare of your children and what you might do to protect them.

Are you high?

She did plenty wrong. She should have taken both kids out to dinner without her husband. He needed time to cool off and the kids needed time away from the out of control parent.

Instead, she kept everyone in the tense situation and forced two very young kids to go to bed without dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe how many people fell for this... It is obviously a troll.

You’re lucky that you’ve had such a sheltered life that you think this.

[Anonymous]

Can you give the exact reasons why you didn’t take the kids out to dinner by yourself? Were you scared to be alone with kids in a foreign country? Did you know exactly where you were going? Or was it all just because you didn’t want to upset your husband more? If the last one, you need to find out where the DV shelters are in your city and see a lawyer about leaving your husband.

[Anonymous]

Two wrong does not equal right...
Op, not right to let children go hungry and being freaked out no less, this is causing trauma 😞 for your kids.

[Anonymous]

If you got “furious” you contributed to the dysfunction.

[Anonymous]

Your DH is abusive. Your poor children. WTF.

[Anonymous]

Holy shit, your DH told your 7 y/o he wishes they had never been born because the starving out of their routine kid ate a couple crackers? Your DH owes your child a huge apology.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I cannot believe how many people fell for this... It is obviously a troll.

A troll would come back and engage with posters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy shit, your DH told your 7 y/o he wishes they had never been born because the starving out of their routine kid ate a couple crackers? Your DH owes your child a huge apology.

An apology doesn't erase what this child heard his father say. The trust has been broken between child and parent and it is irreparable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is abusive. The 7 year old had two crackers, and dad tells him he’s going to be kicked out at 18, dad regrets having kids, and he has to stay home while the rest of the family eats dinner? That’s emotionally abusive.

THIS

Refusing to go to dinner as planned is a form of the silent treatment, used by emotional abusers to punish the people around them. This is 100% emotional abuse. You and your kids deserve better.

[Anonymous]

OP, it sounds like you are scared of your husband given the fact you let your kids starve to not “make things worse”. Why is that? Leave him Behind and get your children food. You clearly have a horrible relationship dynamic and you/your children are dealing with emotional abuse. Surely this isn’t the first time he has acted this way and why are you allowing it? Be better for your kids, this is not the type of crap I would allow or have my children endure. Stop being a doormat.