Fighting at the very last day of vacation

[Anonymous]

I hope you're planning a divorce otherwise you're failing your children.

[Anonymous]

So you let your children go to bed hungry because their dad is an abusive jerk? You do realize that's insane right?

[Anonymous]

He’s abusive and you’re a pathetic enabler.

[Anonymous]

He's AWFUL and you let him control all. You absolutely should have taken those kids to get dinner. He's convinced you this is normal and his behavior is acceptable, that's why you all bend to him.

Ask for counseling. Either couples counseling or he gets counseling. Your 7 year old ate two crackers and your husband lost his s--t and told him he can't wait to kick him out of the house? This is ABUSE. Don't make your kids suffer his bulls--t for years because you're afraid to stand up for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s abusive and you’re a pathetic enabler.

This. I get why people enable but come on OP. You let your children go to bed hungry, you must realize how crazy it is that you did this in order to prevent your husband from getting more upset. Please get therapy and get your kids out of this situation. The reality is that you're setting yourself up for a CPS investigation. I'm NOT saying that your kids will be taken away or anything like that. But your kid goes to school saying how daddy yells at him saying he wishes he never exists and how they go to bed without eating because mommy doesn't want to make daddy angrier? Yeah, a mandated reporter is going to start paying real close attention to what other stories from home your kid tells.

[Anonymous]

Dad is an abusive ahole with clear anger issues. But mom is also abusive by letting this happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH picked this city as family vacation, and he just wanted to enjoy vacation. I was the one looking for flights, hotels, tickets for paid admissions, daily plan etc. Kids also looked forward to this vacation. Kids are handy, but things have been so far so good until tonight which is the last day of vacation. What happened was 1 kid ate 2 crackers against DH's not to eat snack order, and the reason behind was that we were about to head out to eat dinner after my shower. I and 2 kids went to the hotel pool before dinner ,and 1 kid got hungry and ate snacks while I was showering. Once I was done of showering and came out, and all I heard was DH's yelling at 1 kid about his behavior, not listening and how unhappy and unenjoyable this vacation was, how regretable that he had kid, and he would definitely kick him out of house at age 18 etc. He said we could go on with our dinner plan and be a happy family without him and he would not join us to have dinner. It was agreed that he goggled/picked dinner restaurant choice while I took kids to play at hotel pool.

I was furious that that's how our vacation ended on the last day, and I asked him a few times if he really meant that and so. It was dead silence and cold war. Anyways, long story short, no one had dinner and everyone just went to bed with hunger. The youngest, age 3, got freaked out a bit, and she fell asleep by herself. The kid that got in trouble was the oldest, age 7. Kids are young, so I planned our family vacation with zoo, aquarium, kid museum, hotel pool, and some playground time. I told him about that in advance, and he never commented it was bad idea. He hate pool and beach, so we don't do beach trip and he never go to hotel pool/swimming pool with kids ever. I know he regrets to have kids because kids are handful and life/vacation is not fun anymore compared to childless life. What did I do wrong at vacation that we deserve to have no dinner like this? He is a jerk, right? I was mad for everything, and I could not take kids out to dinner under those atmosphere or to make things worse.

Your poor kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s abusive and you’re a pathetic enabler.

Worse, she failed to meet her childrens' basic need -food. That is neglect.

[Anonymous]

I would have taken the kids out to dinner and let the DH pout in the room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have taken the kids out to dinner and let the DH pout in the room.

I can't imagine neglecting your kids basic needs because of your husband's anger issues.

[Anonymous]

The OP sounds familiar, something about a husband who won’t take the kids to the pool/beach. If that’s the case then his behavior cannot be a surprise to her. Who lets their small kids go to bed hungry?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes divorce is the best, most reasonable answer.

[Anonymous]

Divorce

[Anonymous]

When I read the part about your husband saying he regretted having the kid in your post, I hoped the kid was a teenager. Cause I cannot imagine saying that to my kid ever--let alone to a 7 year old. You sound afraid of your husband. I'm sorry. That's really tough with little kids. Please do what you can to protect yourself and them from him. Just picturing my 3yo scared and hungry putting himself to bed.... I'm at a loss. Please know none of this is ok or normal.

[Anonymous]

Your husband is abusive. The 7 year old had two crackers, and dad tells him he’s going to be kicked out at 18, dad regrets having kids, and he has to stay home while the rest of the family eats dinner? That’s emotionally abusive.