Sanity Check - DH in Boxers

[Anonymous]

I don't think I've ever seen a male wearing boxers out in public. Which is a good thing, because it's completely inappropriate. WTF?!?

As for the person above claiming that the boxers he linked to are fine for public wear, WTF?! Those are unquestionably boxers. No. You do not wear boxers in any form or shape or appearance outside, even in your yard. You put on a pair of shorts too. Why is that so complicated?

[Anonymous]

I admit that my DH will grab the mail or take out the trash while in boxers but anything more than that is beyond unacceptable. Running errands? Come on now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know they are boxers?

Exactly. This is the argument—they’re just shorts. They cover as much as most casual shorts with a shorter-side inseam.

Boxers have a gap for urinating. Shorts do not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only person I’ve seen do this was an elderly widower neighbor who was starting to have dementia. Someone called his children who lived out of state and they promptly took their dad back with them.

OK, let’s not go overboard.

To be clear, there are a wide variety of boxer shorts. If I’m grabbing the mail or getting something from the car in a T-shirt and something like this (https://www.hanes.com/hanes-cool-comfort-reg-men-s-boxers-pack-moisture-wicking-plaid-6-pack.html), no one is even going to notice they aren’t just regular shorts.

I’m sure it was a dig but one of the PPs said only in NJ, I do think this may be partly an Italian thing.

No, just no. Those are clearly underwear.

[Anonymous]

Anything with an open fly is not suitable to be worn in public. Like others have said, on your own property taking down the trash or picking up the mail may get a pass, but no, men should not be running errands in their underwear. How is this even a question?

[Anonymous]

My DH does not even do this in the house. We all wear clothing when not in our bedrooms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about him hanging around the house in boxers. That’s bad enough.

Hanging out in the house in boxers is bad? Who are you people?!?

It’s not the hill I’m drying on but I don’t like it. Your wife does not want to see your balls hanging out of your boxers when you shift on the couch. That’s like the biggest turnoff ever. And if you have daughter, they don’t want to see it either. If you live by yourself, have at it. If you are a gay man, you’ll have to ask your husband—maybe men don’t mind

I’ve been teaching my son that this is rude to the women in the house, so he puts on soccer shorts to come downstairs now. If you need to run to laundry room to grab clothes, that’s fine. We’ve all been there. I think anything else, please put on pants.

I agree with buying the husband athletic shorts. That cured my husband of wearing boxers around the house—he just wears the gym shorts now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anything with an open fly is not suitable to be worn in public. Like others have said, on your own property taking down the trash or picking up the mail may get a pass, but no, men should not be running errands in their underwear. How is this even a question?

I don’t think you get a pass on your own property if you live in an urban or densely populated suburban area. I do not want to see my neighbors stuff hanging out of their boxer shorts nor do I want my teen daughters seeing it. If I saw a neighbor doing that, I would seriously worry about dementia and would probably alert his wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about him hanging around the house in boxers. That’s bad enough.

Hanging out in the house in boxers is bad? Who are you people?!?

It’s not the hill I’m drying on but I don’t like it. Your wife does not want to see your balls hanging out of your boxers when you shift on the couch. That’s like the biggest turnoff ever. And if you have daughter, they don’t want to see it either. If you live by yourself, have at it. If you are a gay man, you’ll have to ask your husband—maybe men don’t mind

I’ve been teaching my son that this is rude to the women in the house, so he puts on soccer shorts to come downstairs now. If you need to run to laundry room to grab clothes, that’s fine. We’ve all been there. I think anything else, please put on pants.

I agree with buying the husband athletic shorts. That cured my husband of wearing boxers around the house—he just wears the gym shorts now.

I am PP and female. I couldn’t care less about my husband walking around in his underwear. He does it all the time.

[Anonymous]

My father would not even wear shorts after dark. My husband certainly does not wear his underwear out of the house or even in the house outside of the bedroom. Who are these people?

Is this like a class thing? Regional? We are southern but not conservative. Serious question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about him hanging around the house in boxers. That’s bad enough.

Hanging out in the house in boxers is bad? Who are you people?!?

It’s not the hill I’m drying on but I don’t like it. Your wife does not want to see your balls hanging out of your boxers when you shift on the couch. That’s like the biggest turnoff ever. And if you have daughter, they don’t want to see it either. If you live by yourself, have at it. If you are a gay man, you’ll have to ask your husband—maybe men don’t mind

I’ve been teaching my son that this is rude to the women in the house, so he puts on soccer shorts to come downstairs now. If you need to run to laundry room to grab clothes, that’s fine. We’ve all been there. I think anything else, please put on pants.

I agree with buying the husband athletic shorts. That cured my husband of wearing boxers around the house—he just wears the gym shorts now.

I wear both pretty much interchangeably around the house. They seem the same to me. I happen to wear boxers with a button fly so that isn’t a concern.

But this thread makes me think my nanny could think it’s weird. I’d honestly never thought about it, they’re full coverage shorts—not like briefs or even “boxer briefs”.

Setting aside the nanny thing, those of you who don’t let your male kids walk around their own house in boxers and a t-shirt? That seems really prudish.

And where are all the DCUM posters who pile on in threads about women (and teens!) having every right to “flaunt it” in public in micro shorts, sheer tops with no bra, etc.? Granted an old man’s hairy thighs arguably aren’t as objectively beautiful, but not sure why it’s more inappropriate than underage butt cheeks.

[Anonymous]

Some of you are so damn uptight.

Boxers are fine inside the home. No one's testicles are flying out. FFS

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was going to be about him hanging around the house in boxers. That’s bad enough.

Hanging out in the house in boxers is bad? Who are you people?!?

It’s not the hill I’m drying on but I don’t like it. Your wife does not want to see your balls hanging out of your boxers when you shift on the couch. That’s like the biggest turnoff ever. And if you have daughter, they don’t want to see it either. If you live by yourself, have at it. If you are a gay man, you’ll have to ask your husband—maybe men don’t mind

I’ve been teaching my son that this is rude to the women in the house, so he puts on soccer shorts to come downstairs now. If you need to run to laundry room to grab clothes, that’s fine. We’ve all been there. I think anything else, please put on pants.

I agree with buying the husband athletic shorts. That cured my husband of wearing boxers around the house—he just wears the gym shorts now.

I wear both pretty much interchangeably around the house. They seem the same to me. I happen to wear boxers with a button fly so that isn’t a concern.

But this thread makes me think my nanny could think it’s weird. I’d honestly never thought about it, they’re full coverage shorts—not like briefs or even “boxer briefs”.

Setting aside the nanny thing, those of you who don’t let your male kids walk around their own house in boxers and a t-shirt? That seems really prudish.

And where are all the DCUM posters who pile on in threads about women (and teens!) having every right to “flaunt it” in public in micro shorts, sheer tops with no bra, etc.? Granted an old man’s hairy thighs arguably aren’t as objectively beautiful, but not sure why it’s more inappropriate than underage butt cheeks.

OMFG, please understand that the people who say "it's fine in the house" mean WHEN YOU DON'T HAVE COMPANY. Jesus Hussein Christ, your nanny doesn't think it's "weird" that you wear nothing but underwear around her, she thinks you're a pervert.

[Anonymous]

^^DO NOT wear only underwear when anyone, including your nanny, is in your home aside from your family members. I can't even believe you are asking about doing this in front of a woman who is not your wife.

My teens are girls so it is different, but no, they may not hang around the living room in their undies. In their bedrooms, anything goes.

Little boys can wear their undies at home. After about age 10 or 11 it's time to put some shorts on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I’m talking about things like going out to get the mail, mowing the grass or working on a car in the driveway. Barbecuing. Maybe doing a short errand like driving to KFC or the hardware store.

Man here. The ohter guys are teh hardware store won't care a lick about it.

Hardware stores are not male only places. Plenty of women there who do NOT want to see a man in boxers there.