Retired mother's anxiety is through the roof b/c of NextDoor

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: thanks for all of this. We are trying to get her to come out East next month for a week to see grandkids, will do an observation.

The reason they want to move to Vegas is because stepdad is an avid golfer and my mom wants to join the activity clubs at the 55+ community. Mom stopped going to church when she met stepdad. She actually still works 10-15 hours per week for her previous employer, so that keeps her somewhat busy plus they like to have money coming in. They do travel quite a bit - at least one weekend trip per month to the desert, Bay Area, trip to see girlfriends in Seattle, etc. They have a big social network and are always having people over for dinner or lunch.

It's just so odd that they suddenly decided to uproot. Like I said, it feels manic.

ITA with the other poster that you are ignoring/downplaying your mother witnessing the direct aftermath of a violent crime - and in an area she considers safe/part of her daily routine. That's traumatic.

On the rest, you think this is manic and not well thought out, while your mother and stepfather seem to have specific, common sense reasons for wanting to move - golf, activities, etc. Even a well-laid out home is a lot to maintain. I definitely think "go slow" is good advice, and yeah, see if you can get rid of NextDoor and the police scanner, but you are overreaching on the rest IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your parents will be trapped indoors in Vegas for half the year because it is so hot.

“Trapped“? That’s not how my relatives who retired there see it. They spend summers inside, just like how most of us spend winters inside. No big deal.