Lying about Divorce

[Anonymous]

Huge dealbreaker. Poor character displayed by her. RED flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:why did she lie? Maybe she just recently decided to finalize the divorce and was using you earlier on and going back and forth with her soon to be ex. very shady.

Op here. How much I know she doesn’t go back to her exH but have dated in last 2 years, which doesn’t bother me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:why did she lie? Maybe she just recently decided to finalize the divorce and was using you earlier on and going back and forth with her soon to be ex. very shady.

Op here. How much I know she doesn’t go back to her exH but have dated in last 2 years, which doesn’t bother me.

So she’s been lying and dating a whole lot of guys while still married.

Why are you on this forum asking at all if you don’t care about this stuff?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:why did she lie? Maybe she just recently decided to finalize the divorce and was using you earlier on and going back and forth with her soon to be ex. very shady.

Op here. How much I know she doesn’t go back to her exH but have dated in last 2 years, which doesn’t bother me.

So she’s been lying and dating a whole lot of guys while still married.

Why are you on this forum asking at all if you don’t care about this stuff?

I see nothing wrong with dating if you've been separated for 3 years. Not OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:why did she lie? Maybe she just recently decided to finalize the divorce and was using you earlier on and going back and forth with her soon to be ex. very shady.

Op here. How much I know she doesn’t go back to her exH but have dated in last 2 years, which doesn’t bother me.

So she’s been lying and dating a whole lot of guys while still married.

Why are you on this forum asking at all if you don’t care about this stuff?

I see nothing wrong with dating if you've been separated for 3 years. Not OP.

But if what she told OP is true, she’s been lying the whole time. And at some point, she had only been separated for 1 year. She is a walking red flag. OP is walking right into a huge problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:why did she lie? Maybe she just recently decided to finalize the divorce and was using you earlier on and going back and forth with her soon to be ex. very shady.

Op here. How much I know she doesn’t go back to her exH but have dated in last 2 years, which doesn’t bother me.

So she’s been lying and dating a whole lot of guys while still married.

Why are you on this forum asking at all if you don’t care about this stuff?

I see nothing wrong with dating if you've been separated for 3 years. Not OP.

But if what she told OP is true, she’s been lying the whole time. And at some point, she had only been separated for 1 year. She is a walking red flag. OP is walking right into a huge problem.

Guarantee she got caught cheating- hence the separation/divorce…why would she stop “dating” when she had been doing it for awhile in her marriage looking for a sucker for an exit affair. She sounds co-dependent looking for the next wallet.

[Anonymous]

I don't think this is a big deal given how long she's been separated. Love in middle age is HARD to come by. I wouldn't give this relationship up! She should've been honest, but its not the end of the world. You've met the kids which means she's serious. As long as there are no other instances of huge dishonesty I would let this slide. It's easy for married people behind a screen to make her into a monster, but they've got someone to have and to hold.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:why did she lie? Maybe she just recently decided to finalize the divorce and was using you earlier on and going back and forth with her soon to be ex. very shady.

Op here. How much I know she doesn’t go back to her exH but have dated in last 2 years, which doesn’t bother me.

So she’s been lying and dating a whole lot of guys while still married.

Why are you on this forum asking at all if you don’t care about this stuff?

I see nothing wrong with dating if you've been separated for 3 years. Not OP.

But if what she told OP is true, she’s been lying the whole time. And at some point, she had only been separated for 1 year. She is a walking red flag. OP is walking right into a huge problem.

Guarantee she got caught cheating- hence the separation/divorce…why would she stop “dating” when she had been doing it for awhile in her marriage looking for a sucker for an exit affair. She sounds co-dependent looking for the next wallet.

You're exhausting....and stupid.

[Anonymous]

this will give me a pause... relationship is nothing without trust. yes, I am old.

[Anonymous]

Same thing happened to my dad. He decided to overlook it. He and my stepmom have been happily married for 31 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think this is a big deal given how long she's been separated. Love in middle age is HARD to come by. I wouldn't give this relationship up! She should've been honest, but its not the end of the world. You've met the kids which means she's serious. As long as there are no other instances of huge dishonesty I would let this slide. It's easy for married people behind a screen to make her into a monster, but they've got someone to have and to hold.

Agree with this but I’d also be very cautious and be looking out for signs she is dishonest.

[Anonymous]

I would question a) her maturity and courage and integrity and b) her sense of what your relationship is about. Apparently she thinks that 8 months of dating was not enough of a commitment to share this but the next step is.

[Anonymous]

I don't think this is a big deal. She shared when it became serious.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry. It's just not adding up for me

She had to wait for the kids to graduate to divorce because ex was verbally abusive.
But ex was totally okay with her dating others for 3 years and the kids meeting you.

Or did she force the kids to keep the meetings a secret.

This lady sounds like bad news and drama. If it were just you I'd say it's up to you just keep your eyes open but since you have kids I really think you should end your involvement with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry. It's just not adding up for me

She had to wait for the kids to graduate to divorce because ex was verbally abusive.
But ex was totally okay with her dating others for 3 years and the kids meeting you.

Or did she force the kids to keep the meetings a secret.

This lady sounds like bad news and drama. If it were just you I'd say it's up to you just keep your eyes open but since you have kids I really think you should end your involvement with her.

He never said her ex was verbally abusive. In fact, he said things were amicable and there was no drama. What are you going on about?