Where do I begin with this? --> taking in daughter's kicked out friend

[Anonymous]

My mother let my best friend move in with us during our senior year, her father was abusive. He was agitated at first but ultimately decided not to fight it. She became legally emancipated although it was only a few months until she turned 18. If someone is providing housing and food while the child goes to school the courts will not expect the child to support themselves. The problems will start if the child's parents decide to fight the whole thing. If they kicked the child out, though, that doesn't seem likely.

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Anonymous wrote:Aren’t you worried he may do something in your home? Haven’t you seen the movies?

Huh? what would he do?

Seduce one of the kids or parents, steal money, have parties at home, hire escorts, deal drugs, traffick the mom, etc.

You watch too much TV.

[Anonymous]

We did this for a 17 year old a few years ago. His mother kicked him out because she was having mental health and financial problems after his father passed away. We had her sign a notarized guardianship paper which was only needed at doctors appointments but if I never said that he wasn’t related they would have never asked. He has since graduated college and is in pharmacy school.

[Anonymous]

If you're in Fairfax County, this a teen crisis program. I have a friend who used to work for them as a social worker.

https://www.second-story.org/

[Anonymous]

OP, I just wanted to concur w/the other posters on here that you are a wonderful person for doing this for your daughter’s friend.

I find it despicable that ANY parent would kick a minor child out of the family home, most especially for something like this.

After all - it is 2023 now, not 1953.

I have no advice or suggestions to impart > only wanted to compliment you for stepping in the way that you have. 😀

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, the bottom line is that the kid is a minor. That means his parent has legal custody. You need to make sure the parent really and truly threw him out. Gay or straight.

This. You need to have a conversation with his parents. They need to give permission for him to be staying at your house, know he is there, and importantly be able to communicate with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A few weeks ago, my daughter's friend was kicked out of the house due to being gay. They are 17 and rising HS seniors. There's been a history of tumult in the family, but this was the worst of it. It's pretty clear now, I think, that he's not going to be going back home. He's welcome here for however long he needs, but I want to make sure we're doing this "correctly" and I'm not going to get in trouble with the law or anything. I don't even know where to begin. I've never been in this situation before.

OP I think it's great you're doing this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You begin by confirming with the parents that he was in fact, told to leave. At this point you are harboring a runaway which can have legal consequences.

Please stop it. You clearly have no experience.

This.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Aren’t you worried he may do something in your home? Haven’t you seen the movies?

Huh? what would he do?

Seduce one of the kids or parents, steal money, have parties at home, hire escorts, deal drugs, traffick the mom, etc.

You watch too much TV.

Way too much TV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Look, the bottom line is that the kid is a minor. That means his parent has legal custody. You need to make sure the parent really and truly threw him out. Gay or straight.

This. You need to have a conversation with his parents. They need to give permission for him to be staying at your house, know he is there, and importantly be able to communicate with you.

Lol! You, clearly, have no idea what you’re talking about. Bless your hearts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What parent would kick out their own baby?!?

I don't get how one can be brought to do this.

How did you get to the age you are and not know that some people have horrible families of origin? What a privileged life you lead.

-petson whose older brother was forced to leave home at 17 because he was the primary target of physical abuse by our father. I was forced out 2 years later. Just couldn't take it anymore and was afraid of death/permanent injury from our father, the town doctor.