Where do I begin with this? --> taking in daughter's kicked out friend

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would see if it’s possible to help him get emancipated so he can go to college without including his parents’ income on FAFSA.

Generally not possible unless he is self-supporting financially.

Yes, it is possible. That is why PP recommended OP help this child become emancipated.

https://studentaid.gov/help-center/answers/article/emancipated-minor

You misunderstand me. It’s generally not possible in a court of law to become emancipated without financial means.

To wit:

Necessary Findings for Child Emancipation
Emancipation may be declared following the hearing if: (1) the minor has entered into a valid marriage (whether or not it has been dissolved since); (2) the minor is on active duty in the U.S. armed service; or (3) the minor willingly lives separately and apart from his/her parents or guardian, with the consent of the parents or guardian, and is capable of supporting himself/herself and completely managing his/her own financial affairs.”

https://www.novaestatelawyers.com/child-emancipation-in-virginia/

This isn’t insurmountable. OP could charge a nominal rent amount, like $100 that can be paid from a part-time job. It’s worth pursuing for the child to pursue better financial aid options if college is where they want to go post-grad.

Some private college counselors can help with this process too, if you want to emancipate your child to help with college apps and aid, and don't have a low-income relative available to adopt.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Confirm by speaking directly to the parents that they have in fact licked him out and the reason.

+2

Although your heart is in the right place, you're teetering on a can of worms since you have no legal guardianship of said minor.

There are a lot of what-if scenarios: expenses are the biggest one, school expectations, medical attention (what if kid gets injured/sick/prescription, for example), and discipline (complying with your house rules, but what if he doesn't?).

I'd give it a trial run for a few days, but I'd really tread carefully.

All of those things can be worked out. The kid applies to be emancipated, gives you medical power of attorney, ability to interact with school if necessary etc etc.

[Anonymous]

You begin by confirming with the parents that he was in fact, told to leave. At this point you are harboring a runaway which can have legal consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You begin by confirming with the parents that he was in fact, told to leave. At this point you are harboring a runaway which can have legal consequences.

Please stop it. You clearly have no experience.

[Anonymous]

OP, are both parents in the picture and are they married? I have been in the situation of taking in a teenager who could not stay at home but it was a single parent situation and his parent was putting him in danger. I would call Child Welfare Services in your area and report the situation. I would report this child's whereabouts to his parents. There should be a Family Law center in your area that will provide you with a limited amount of time speaking to an attorney who specializes in family law issues for no cost. Does this child have his documents? Does he have a drivers license or state ID, does he have his birth certificate, social security card or passport? Has he already approached a counselor at school to discuss his situation? He really needs to do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What parent would kick out their own baby?!?

I don't get how one can be brought to do this.

Or maybe kid just didn’t like any rules at home. It happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What parent would kick out their own baby?!?

I don't get how one can be brought to do this.

Usually super religious families. My friend formerly adopted her niece after she was kicked out by her religious mother at 16. After that the niece was able to transfer from Oregon and complete high school in Fairfax county. My friend was 28 and not married.

[Anonymous]

No you don't take in kids that aren't yours.

People did this for my very mentally ill neice. That did not help the situation and the police did get involved.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Confirm by speaking directly to the parents that they have in fact licked him out and the reason.

+2

Although your heart is in the right place, you're teetering on a can of worms since you have no legal guardianship of said minor.

There are a lot of what-if scenarios: expenses are the biggest one, school expectations, medical attention (what if kid gets injured/sick/prescription, for example), and discipline (complying with your house rules, but what if he doesn't?).

I'd give it a trial run for a few days, but I'd really tread carefully.

All of those things can be worked out. The kid applies to be emancipated, gives you medical power of attorney, ability to interact with school if necessary etc etc.

Who pays the 30K in legal bills for all that?

[Anonymous]

Aren’t you worried he may do something in your home? Haven’t you seen the movies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No you don't take in kids that aren't yours.

People did this for my very mentally ill neice. That did not help the situation and the police did get involved.

What the heck does this have to do with anything? Sounds like it is a totally different situation.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you are in Loudoun, and even if you aren't consider contacting Mobile Hope. They deal specifically with homeless teens and young adults and may be able to offer you guidance.

https://mobile-hope.org/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would see if it’s possible to help him get emancipated so he can go to college without including his parents’ income on FAFSA.

This is a big step that might be needed eventually, but seems extreme in the short term.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Aren’t you worried he may do something in your home? Haven’t you seen the movies?

Huh? what would he do?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Aren’t you worried he may do something in your home? Haven’t you seen the movies?

Huh? what would he do?

Seduce one of the kids or parents, steal money, have parties at home, hire escorts, deal drugs, traffick the mom, etc.