Confronted by another mom about birthday party

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So word. She was trying to guilt you into an invite. What a psycho.

I had the same thing happen to me. My daughter had a small party. Her daughter was not invited because she was a mean girl. My daughter did not talk about it or invite her but the night before, the Mom emailed me and said maybe she accidentally deleted my invite? I politely told her it was a small party and she could only invite a few friends. I did not cave in. What a psycho, loser Mom for sure! I was shocked a mom would do that. I have told my daughter from a very young age, you will not be invited to everything. That is life. Move on!

Psycho loser? That’s your take? That’s not very kind of you. Why am I not surprised.

[Anonymous]

OP Here: I know for a fact my daughter did not say anything. I directly asked her. But her friends might have talked about. I need to be clear that my daughter is no way popular. If anything she could use a few more friends. She is pretty shy. My daughter chose the people who sit with her at lunch. The table is by no means exclusive. There are plenty of seats and they have asked others to join but they have declined. The girl in question is way more popular “cool” than my daughter and sits at a “cool” table.

I told the mom that if it had been a birthday at a venue then of course her daughter would be invited. But I have a small house and this was a sleepover. Again, I was shocked the daughter even cared.

[Anonymous]

LOL, OP is making things up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL, OP is making things up.

And you sound like a bully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOL, OP is making things up.

And you sound like a bully.

+1

[Anonymous]

"shocked"??
stop the drama, Op.

[Anonymous]

did the other girl come to your dd party?

[Anonymous]

I did this once but it was because I knew the entire class was invited and it was a bat mitzvah. It was actually good bc my daughter was indeed invited and we figured out there was a mistake in the school directory and were able to stave off future problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP Here: I know for a fact my daughter did not say anything. I directly asked her. But her friends might have talked about. I need to be clear that my daughter is no way popular. If anything she could use a few more friends. She is pretty shy. My daughter chose the people who sit with her at lunch. The table is by no means exclusive. There are plenty of seats and they have asked others to join but they have declined. The girl in question is way more popular “cool” than my daughter and sits at a “cool” table.

I told the mom that if it had been a birthday at a venue then of course her daughter would be invited. But I have a small house and this was a sleepover. Again, I was shocked the daughter even cared.

Good lord it was one extra. I wouldn’t
have said anything and welcomed her. So mean.

[Anonymous]

When my son was in preschool he got some sort of birthday party class gift (it was like stickers or something). He told me it was part of an invitation to the party and that it got lost. We were new to the school and was excited he got an invite for a class party so I emailed the mom that the invite didn’t make it home (I had searched his bag, etc). It wasn’t till after that that I realized that the girl and her friends were just chatting about the party and mentioned it to my son and he assumed he had an invite. They were so kind and invited him anyways. He was the only boy in a sea of girls but he had a blast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here: I know for a fact my daughter did not say anything. I directly asked her. But her friends might have talked about. I need to be clear that my daughter is no way popular. If anything she could use a few more friends. She is pretty shy. My daughter chose the people who sit with her at lunch. The table is by no means exclusive. There are plenty of seats and they have asked others to join but they have declined. The girl in question is way more popular “cool” than my daughter and sits at a “cool” table.

I told the mom that if it had been a birthday at a venue then of course her daughter would be invited. But I have a small house and this was a sleepover. Again, I was shocked the daughter even cared.

Good lord it was one extra. I wouldn’t
have said anything and welcomed her. So mean.

Agree. Kind of a Bi---, Op. Just b/c you CAN do something, doesn't mean you should. You have no reason why the mom called you. You inferred the worst. But then you stepped past that and acted even worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So word. She was trying to guilt you into an invite. What a psycho.

I had the same thing happen to me. My daughter had a small party. Her daughter was not invited because she was a mean girl. My daughter did not talk about it or invite her but the night before, the Mom emailed me and said maybe she accidentally deleted my invite? I politely told her it was a small party and she could only invite a few friends. I did not cave in. What a psycho, loser Mom for sure! I was shocked a mom would do that. I have told my daughter from a very young age, you will not be invited to everything. That is life. Move on!

Psycho loser? I'm not sure YOU should be lecturing anyone on manners, or anything else. Because, you're pretty gross yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She wasn't confronting you - she probably assumed, incorrectly, that her daughter had been invited because her daughter told her she had been invited. That may have been wishful thinking on the daughter's part, or may have been an actual misunderstanding.

Plus 1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here: I know for a fact my daughter did not say anything. I directly asked her. But her friends might have talked about. I need to be clear that my daughter is no way popular. If anything she could use a few more friends. She is pretty shy. My daughter chose the people who sit with her at lunch. The table is by no means exclusive. There are plenty of seats and they have asked others to join but they have declined. The girl in question is way more popular “cool” than my daughter and sits at a “cool” table.

I told the mom that if it had been a birthday at a venue then of course her daughter would be invited. But I have a small house and this was a sleepover. Again, I was shocked the daughter even cared.

Good lord it was one extra. I wouldn’t
have said anything and welcomed her. So mean.

Agree. Kind of a Bi---, Op. Just b/c you CAN do something, doesn't mean you should. You have no reason why the mom called you. You inferred the worst. But then you stepped past that and acted even worse.

WTF?

OP, you have nothing to be guilty about. Do you really think this popular girl would've invited your DD or the mom would've let your DD come if she wasn't invited? Please. Maybe the mom/daughter couldn't imagine not being invited, so they made the assumption that she was. If I were that mom, I'd be highly embarrassed for calling and asking about being invited.

You're fine, OP. Don't feel guilty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She wasn't confronting you - she probably assumed, incorrectly, that her daughter had been invited because her daughter told her she had been invited. That may have been wishful thinking on the daughter's part, or may have been an actual misunderstanding.

This.
Sometimes my teens tell me they’ve been invited to things, and so I will text the other parent and ask about it. I’m not fishing for an invitation, I’m just trying to clarify if my child was invited or not, and if so, when/where is drop off.