Confronted by another mom about birthday party
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Anonymous
| You said "this year" you had this party and have been feeling guilty all weekend? This doesn't sound legit. |
Anonymous
I’m curious too. Either Mom is overbearing and is self-inviting her DD or OPs daughter or another slumber party guest invited this girl without tour knowledge. The later seems more likely. |
Anonymous
| I’ve been the other mom in this situation. Birthday kid invited my kid at school and tells my kid that I should reach out to the other parent to get details. I did and turns out my kid was not really invited bc of limited numbers. My kid was hurt and disappointed but we moved on. |
Anonymous
| In this age group, another possibility is that the girl told her mom she was invited to the sleepover as a "cover" for something else, and mom was doing due diligence. Very curious as to how OP handled it? |
Anonymous
| Your kid probably invited her but in any cases I usually say to my kid are you sure you were invited? Can you double check on time? Who else is going? This is usually enough to find out if the invite is legit. |
Anonymous
And this happened to me except the opposite was the case. I asked the other mom (sheepishly, and I said of course it's no big deal if it's just a smaller guest list). It turned out she had mistakenly used an old class roster to send the invite, and the whole class including my kid was supposed to have been invited. |
Anonymous
| That wasn’t a confrontation! That was a miscommunication! |
Anonymous
| No way of knowing. I have k own psycho moms who do this sort of passive aggressive confrontations but it also could have been a scenario where the girls had invited her. |
Anonymous
Yeah, I caught that, too. It’s Thursday and you’ve been “feeling guilty all weekend?” Is it the weekend already in Troll Land? |
Anonymous
| Also, it really does stink when your DD is left out. Obviously, there is some miscommunication here but being the mom of the daughter who has been left out a number of times you don't seem to feel badly for her at all. Tween girls have it rough, try to be kind and inclusive whenever possible. |
Anonymous
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I’ve been the other mom. Birthday kid verbally invited mine and said his mom would text parents with details, which is the normal route for this group; I actually overheard this when a small group were at my house and the kids were excited about the party venue. Never received the info, so my kid asked me to reach out. The mom acted cagey and weird, “What? Ha ha, I don’t know where your kid got that?!! Ha, haaaa!”
Turns out that after planning everything and her kid telling everyone about it, she’d decided the venue of choice was too pricey so changed plans and had kid pick just 2 friends for a sleepover. But she didn’t share this; I found out through another parent who’s kid was also not included. So…this can go both ways, OP. My kid wound up feeling left out (but recovered quickly), and I wound up feeling annoyed because a gift had already been purchased and wrapped. |
Anonymous
| Why did OP hide the ball on what she told the mom? |
Anonymous
You can tell from the first word of the title that OP was stirring the pot. |
Anonymous
Wow, friend's mom really went to the mattresses over the mattresses 
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Anonymous
If the girls were kind, they wouldn't have talked about it in front of an uninvited kid. There is literally no way that this girl's mom could have known that didn't involve OP's kid, or another invited kid being cruel. I would cancel the party and tell my daughter that if she wasn't the cruel one she should rethink her friends. |