When your kids start staying up later than you do

[Anonymous]

I clean up the kitchen and lock up the house before I go to bed, and my teen stays up later. These things are easy to do earlier and don’t need to be left to the last person who is up. If my teen were older and coming home late, I would expect him to let himself in and re-lock up.

[Anonymous]

Here's one I had to deal with this year - my 17 year old daughter has friends over; they are in the basement watching a movie till midnight... I want to go to bed at 10 PM. Do I let her friends stay while I head to bed? What about if it's her boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's one I had to deal with this year - my 17 year old daughter has friends over; they are in the basement watching a movie till midnight... I want to go to bed at 10 PM. Do I let her friends stay while I head to bed? What about if it's her boyfriend?

Yes. Go to bed. She’s 17 not 7.

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Anonymous wrote:Just FYI, I was on a video chat the other day with my two adult kids, son and daughter, and they were laughingly telling me about all the different times they snuck out at night, how they got away with it, how their friends got away with it, where they went and what they did, what fun it was, etc.

I was a mom who was more savvy and aware of this type of possibility than most other moms I knew, not in denial about it ("not my kids!") and yet.....they did it and got away with it and I was not aware. Even though I snuck out when I was a teen too.

I wonder now, do most parents just not care about this? And by the way, I have always been one who stays up late myself.

If you raise honest kids with integrity this isn't a concern. I was one of these kids and my kids are also these types of kids..... we do exist.

This. My kids (now 18 and 20) never snuck out. Were they out way past cerfew sometimes? Yes. But they told me. I wasn’t thrilled but didn’t make a big deal about it. I’m just glad they told me. They have friends with super strict parent who actually do sneak out among other things. Some friends went on a 6 hour road trip and didn’t tell the parents, until they broke down.

OP and PP with everyone upstairs at 9 are raising the latter. Super strict parenting often backfires.

Sure they didn't.

I'm talking about kids ages 13-15 or so. If yours didn't sneak out, which I highly doubt, it was because there was no place to go.

DP here. I am 43 and can honestly say I never snuck out in my entire life.

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Anonymous wrote:Just FYI, I was on a video chat the other day with my two adult kids, son and daughter, and they were laughingly telling me about all the different times they snuck out at night, how they got away with it, how their friends got away with it, where they went and what they did, what fun it was, etc.

I was a mom who was more savvy and aware of this type of possibility than most other moms I knew, not in denial about it ("not my kids!") and yet.....they did it and got away with it and I was not aware. Even though I snuck out when I was a teen too.

I wonder now, do most parents just not care about this? And by the way, I have always been one who stays up late myself.

If you raise honest kids with integrity this isn't a concern. I was one of these kids and my kids are also these types of kids..... we do exist.

This. My kids (now 18 and 20) never snuck out. Were they out way past cerfew sometimes? Yes. But they told me. I wasn’t thrilled but didn’t make a big deal about it. I’m just glad they told me. They have friends with super strict parent who actually do sneak out among other things. Some friends went on a 6 hour road trip and didn’t tell the parents, until they broke down.

OP and PP with everyone upstairs at 9 are raising the latter. Super strict parenting often backfires.

Sure they didn't.

I'm talking about kids ages 13-15 or so. If yours didn't sneak out, which I highly doubt, it was because there was no place to go.

DP here. I am 43 and can honestly say I never snuck out in my entire life.

Same here. Nor did my siblings nor my spouse. I don’t think sneaking out is nearly as common as PP seems to believe.

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Anonymous wrote:Just FYI, I was on a video chat the other day with my two adult kids, son and daughter, and they were laughingly telling me about all the different times they snuck out at night, how they got away with it, how their friends got away with it, where they went and what they did, what fun it was, etc.

I was a mom who was more savvy and aware of this type of possibility than most other moms I knew, not in denial about it ("not my kids!") and yet.....they did it and got away with it and I was not aware. Even though I snuck out when I was a teen too.

I wonder now, do most parents just not care about this? And by the way, I have always been one who stays up late myself.

If you raise honest kids with integrity this isn't a concern. I was one of these kids and my kids are also these types of kids..... we do exist.

This. My kids (now 18 and 20) never snuck out. Were they out way past cerfew sometimes? Yes. But they told me. I wasn’t thrilled but didn’t make a big deal about it. I’m just glad they told me. They have friends with super strict parent who actually do sneak out among other things. Some friends went on a 6 hour road trip and didn’t tell the parents, until they broke down.

OP and PP with everyone upstairs at 9 are raising the latter. Super strict parenting often backfires.

Sure they didn't.

I'm talking about kids ages 13-15 or so. If yours didn't sneak out, which I highly doubt, it was because there was no place to go.

DP here. I am 43 and can honestly say I never snuck out in my entire life.

Same here. Nor did my siblings nor my spouse. I don’t think sneaking out is nearly as common as PP seems to believe.

It’s really not. Not sure what kind of kids PP is raising but it’s not that common.