Is it okay to ask ILs to stay in a hotel?

[Anonymous]

Of course it is. They’ll be more comfortable there than in boxes, a mattress on the floor because the guest bed has to be disassembled etc.

[Anonymous]

Please tell me by helping you move they are entertaining your kids or helping you organize as opposed to lifting things.

I think it's fine as long as you for a hotel and you don't go for a cheap hotel, but somewhere decent where they might get a free buffet breakfast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please tell me by helping you move they are entertaining your kids or helping you organize as opposed to lifting things.

I think it's fine as long as you for a hotel and you don't go for a cheap hotel, but somewhere decent where they might get a free buffet breakfast.

Posting again. I see they insist on helping. Yes, pay for hotel. Your husband's idea is rude.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You should offer the hotel room and obviously be the one to pay for it. If they insist on staying with you, they should sleep in your bed and you and DH can set up an air mattress.

Either way seems fine to me TBH.

Oh hell to the no. OP doesn't even want them there, and has hired professional movers. ILs are bored and want to feel needed/wanted/loved/included. Which is fine, but if they are not willing to at least stay in a hotel, there is no way in HELL OP should sleep on a floor because ILs are pushy. "Help" that is not wanted or needed is not "help," it is indulging old folks so they feel needed. No way in hell should OP sleep on the floor because they are butting in.

You're nuts. Nowhere does it say any of that. I feel sorry for your ILs.

If it's all so easy peasy, then why is OP wringing her hands and talking about how "offended" her ILs will be if she dares not invite them until they are guest-ready? Apparently OP is afraid they will be "offended"--her word--over a freaking hotel room that she would pay for. So what's the problem if they are so wonderful?

+100

That's the part of this entire thread that makes no sense. In-laws who would be "hurt" not to stay in the new house the first night, causing OP all kinds of mental gyrations about buying a cheap bed/giving up her bed so the older folks wouldn't have to sleep on the floor and so forth, are not going to provide much in the way of assistance.

Exactly this! Why are so many people acting like it is so obvious that there is no possible problem. If that is the case, why is OP so anxious about them being hurt or offended by the simple matter of a hotel room for a few nights?