Are posters here really this spineless, or just bidding for attention on DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Because people want to be liked and can’t believe there’s no way for them to voice their opinion in a way that won’t cause friction. Sometimes there isn’t and then they have to decide if it’s worth it. My mom caters to my occasionally annoying siblings and I have to decide if I am going to put up with it or not, because she will never risk cutting them out of her life. So if I ever make people choose sides, I will be out of every family event forever. There are things that would push me that far but nothing has yet. Most families are not homogeneously bad or perfect. My mom is fantastic aside from her blind spot around my brother. Now that I have kids I understand it more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I crossed the Atlantic at 21 and never looked back. My mother is a hyperanxious control freak. I had to cut her off for 6 months just to get her to act normal, and not call my husband a jerk loser and my toddler daughter fat.

Now we're good. She's older, she sees how successful we are at life and parenting, and it's making her think twice about challenging us now. And every time she tries to push me, I now have the stature (in her eyes) that a humorous response or a blunt "cut that out" will make her stop. It did not use to before: she'd have a complete meltdown and cry to my father and pretend to be a victim, and then he'd rush to her defense. Not anymore. She knows she won't win, and my father finally understands he doesn't need to be her side kick. They finally see me as my own person. In my 20s and part of my 30s, I was just an extension of themselves and nothing I said or did had any effect on their conviction that my life needed to be micromanaged by them.

Like others have said, it starts with dysfunction. Even perfectly intelligent, patient and reasonable individuals have a hard time extirpating themselves from Scylla and Charybdis when their parents are like this.

Good for you, PP. You are living proof that taking a stand and standing your ground works.

This is why some of the DCUM weaklings are so maddening. “Oh, but my parents would throw a fit and give me the silent treatment.” UM, OK. So either you don’t need them at all and good riddance, or they will come around and fall in line, as evidenced by PP’s story right here.

[Anonymous]

OP, where were you when they local priest sexuall y abused me?

Where

[Anonymous]

OP, go after the pedo priests. Instead of whining here about other people's posts online

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, where were you when they local priest sexuall y abused me?

Where

I’m sorry, PP. I would honestly light him on fire. And I mean that quite literally. I would be in a courtroom, advocating for you. I would be calling Child Protective Services on your behalf. I would give you money and a place to stay. I would stand in front of you and harm. I really mean that. I’m so sorry to hear that happened to you. -OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, go after the pedo priests. Instead of whining here about other people's posts online

Actually? I have, thanks for asking. I left the church myself, and I supported a friend of mine who was abused. I’m part of an organization that fights exactly this. I have several causes, because I know how to use my voice, my time, and my resources. I hope you get help. Look into groups like Survivors Unite. Good luck to you. If you make up a random, anonymous email address and post it here, I will reach out to you to offer my direct help.