Ferber isn't going well

[Anonymous]

Is Ferber the one where you go in or the one where you don’t? Going in pissed my kids off, so we did the not going in one.

[Anonymous]

Extinction method.

[Anonymous]

Kids are different. Don't do it if they don't like it. My son cried and cried until he threw up, I regret it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids are different. Don't do it if they don't like it. My son cried and cried until he threw up, I regret it.

+1 my first threw up if we let him cry longer than 10-15 minutes so sleep training never worked. He is four now and a great sleeper but we had a tough couple years trying to get him down. Once he fell asleep he was fine after about 9 months old. My second sleep trained in a snap. It took one night. Kids are just different. But it sounds like OP's 6 month old is picking it up if baby is putting themselves back to sleep unassisted throughout the night! That's awesome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:6 months might be a little early for this. I’d back off and try again in 2-3 months

no, that's too late. Much harder to sleep train closer to one.

[Anonymous]

Just updating that DD is sleeping 8pm-6am eating and then going back down in her crib until 8am I can't even believe it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not going to advise on what to do but will just add that ours didn’t respond to sleep training and we eventually quit. Not sure what your baby’s personality is like otherwise, but it often fails with sensitive/spirited/difficult babies. Wish I’d known.

I was successful sleep training three babies, no problem. I was not successful with one and now that he is much older he still has his strong, stubborn persistent personality. Sleep training was torture for us and I am sure it was torture for him. I regret it.

What no one told me about sleep training was how OFTEN you have to return to it, particularly for spirited children. Any time zone change, illness, vacation, day light savings - right back to cry it out, for years. I gave up as well for this reason. It was sold to me as something you do once and it's over but the Ferber book even says you're repeatedly doing it, for years, any time there's a change in bedtime routines. As we're foreign service and constantly moving several hours ahead and back multiple times/year, I stopped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not going to advise on what to do but will just add that ours didn’t respond to sleep training and we eventually quit. Not sure what your baby’s personality is like otherwise, but it often fails with sensitive/spirited/difficult babies. Wish I’d known.

I was successful sleep training three babies, no problem. I was not successful with one and now that he is much older he still has his strong, stubborn persistent personality. Sleep training was torture for us and I am sure it was torture for him. I regret it.

What no one told me about sleep training was how OFTEN you have to return to it, particularly for spirited children. Any time zone change, illness, vacation, day light savings - right back to cry it out, for years. I gave up as well for this reason. It was sold to me as something you do once and it's over but the Ferber book even says you're repeatedly doing it, for years, any time there's a change in bedtime routines. As we're foreign service and constantly moving several hours ahead and back multiple times/year, I stopped.

That’s how parenting is in general.