Ferber isn't going well

[Anonymous]

Yes! That schedule looks reasonable and if she is falling asleep 15 minutes after you say Goodnight I don’t know how you can ask for better than that. It takes me longer than that to get to sleep myself a lot of the time and I have a lot of experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our first was a stubborn one, too. I think it was a solid week. You’re doing fine, don’t make any big changes. White knuckle it a few more days. You’re doing great.

And ohmygod your life is about to get amazing. You won’t realize just how sleep deprived you are until you start getting a full nights sleep EVERY NIGHT and it’s like being reborn. Sooooo worth a crap week!!

PP just to add - you might get luckier on kid #2. We were all set for another supremely awful week when our 2nd was old enough to sleep train. The first night she cried for 30 seconds, rolled over and fell asleep. Cried once in the night for 15 minutes. The end. Never cried before bed or nap or during the night again. Ha.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes! That schedule looks reasonable and if she is falling asleep 15 minutes after you say Goodnight I don’t know how you can ask for better than that. It takes me longer than that to get to sleep myself a lot of the time and I have a lot of experience.

A good night. Tonight was 45 min later. I worry that 3 hours is too long before bed? Tonight she seemed ready closer to 2.5 hours awake. She's just 6 months. As of this week so maybe that's too long?also naps were short today.

[Anonymous]

I 100% believe and empathize with the people who had very strong willed babies who didn’t sleep train but it honestly sounds like OP’s baby is doing great and is just a little noisy about connecting sleep cycles in the night right now.

OP even when sleep training has worked there will be weird stuff ahead. When my baby learned to stand up she would stand there, fall asleep, and startle herself awake from falling, cry, and do that again for HOURS. For like a week! It suuuucked. Then it was over until the next thing. They simply can’t fall asleep perfectly every single bedtime right away forever. That’s not human. Sometimes they’re not tired enough, sometimes they’re too tired, sometimes they finally learned all the words to twinkle twinkle and need to sing it 50 times before they fall asleep. It’s all okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes! That schedule looks reasonable and if she is falling asleep 15 minutes after you say Goodnight I don’t know how you can ask for better than that. It takes me longer than that to get to sleep myself a lot of the time and I have a lot of experience.

A good night. Tonight was 45 min later. I worry that 3 hours is too long before bed? Tonight she seemed ready closer to 2.5 hours awake. She's just 6 months. As of this week so maybe that's too long?also naps were short today.

Yeah I mean just adjust based on your gut and sleepiness signs. It’s all fine and this week is weird anyway because of the sleep training so don’t worry about it too much.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for all the encouragement in this thread. It's really nice while I watch the monitor and stress eat chocolate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for all the encouragement in this thread. It's really nice while I watch the monitor and stress eat chocolate

Yes also highly recommend leaving the house if your spouse is less sensitive to it. Leave at bedtime and come back after an hour. Go to Target or whatever.

[Anonymous]

We had about 15 minutes of on and off fussing tonight! A few one minute wakings but right back to sleep. Hopefully I can sleep through those eventually. By the time I sit up in bed she's back asleep.

[Anonymous]

Give it a solid week or two and then reassess if you don’t see any progress. I also recommend joining Respectful Sleep Training/Learning group on Facebook. They can help spot check your schedule and give you tips and solidarity. Good luck! She sounds like she’s doing fine!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had about 15 minutes of on and off fussing tonight! A few one minute wakings but right back to sleep. Hopefully I can sleep through those eventually. By the time I sit up in bed she's back asleep.

Woo hoo!! Don’t sit up until it’s been five minutes. You’ll know right away if it’s something more serious, like injury or illness.

[Anonymous]

Yeah this actually sounds like it is working, OP! I would be really encouraged. I know crying is hard to hear, though -- recommend noise-canceling headphones or taking a walk if it bothers you

[Anonymous]

Keep going night 2 and 3 tell you its working. Maybe to bed a bit earlier.

[Anonymous]

Thanks all! She is really doing it! I'm going to try for an earlier bedtime tonight. She woke up at 5 ready to go this morning. We didn't get her up for a feeding until 6 though. She wasn't crying the whole hour just not going back to sleep. She even took a break to play with her feet for a while. Cautiously attempting an earlier bedtime to see if that helps.

What does everyone do when their baby puts their arms and legs through the crib slats or pushes their head up to the bars? Do you leave them? Move them? Out girl is TALL I'm worried she's going to push off on one side and hit her head really hard. She's sleeping better but I'm glued to the monitor haha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am going to tell you what you don't want to hear.
If Ferber isn't working on your kid, don't do it.
Don't punish them, don't punish yourself.
I tried it and regret it. Not all babies can get on a sleep schedule that young. Just give the baby the love it is craving.

She wants to be asleep. We are very against co sleeping. Family members lost their baby that way. So we won't bed share- she would likely sleep all night if we did. During the night she wakes hourly for patting or pacifier replacement or holding. But we both have jobs and can't continue to that. We've done it for 6 months. She wants to be asleep but needs help. She loves a schedule and eats like clockwork.

You don't need to include yourself in every conversation. I'm sorry you regret it. But you can keep scrolling

Np. You could also scroll on by. You don't get to chose who gets to posy. Everyone is allowed to share their opinion particularly if they are polite.

[Anonymous]

Ferber worked for my sensitive/difficult kid and also my more mellow kid. I'm definitely pro sleep training and my kids were SO much happier during their waking period once they had more solid sleep cycles.

I would consider checking for silent reflux though--does she spit up a lot?