Ferber isn't going well

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am going to tell you what you don't want to hear.
If Ferber isn't working on your kid, don't do it.
Don't punish them, don't punish yourself.
I tried it and regret it. Not all babies can get on a sleep schedule that young. Just give the baby the love it is craving.

She wants to be asleep. We are very against co sleeping. Family members lost their baby that way. So we won't bed share- she would likely sleep all night if we did. During the night she wakes hourly for patting or pacifier replacement or holding. But we both have jobs and can't continue to that. We've done it for 6 months. She wants to be asleep but needs help. She loves a schedule and eats like clockwork.

You don't need to include yourself in every conversation. I'm sorry you regret it. But you can keep scrolling

Np. You could also scroll on by. You don't get to chose who gets to posy. Everyone is allowed to share their opinion particularly if they are polite.

How is that helpful or polite when the op says please don't tell me to not sleep train

[Anonymous]

6 months might be a little early for this. I’d back off and try again in 2-3 months

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Curious if anyone with a reflux baby had success? Ours cried 90+ minutes for multiple weeks until I gave up, poor baby has bad reflux ( medicated) and some food allergies and often wakes with gas pain. I can't tell it's the reflux contributing as we had to forego medicine for a while to do allergy testing and the baby screamed in pain all night unless held and even then a good half of the time.

We started sleep training at 4 months so maybe it was too soon ( the pediatrician recommended it bc we were getting no sleep) but then kinda backtracked and said maybe baby isn't ready at 5 months. At 6 months a saw a different pediatrician in the office who said to hold off until we could figure out all the digestive stuff. I want hope that it's possible but also hate ignoring her when she's in pain and not just struggling to connect sleep cycles

[Anonymous]

We were having issues with my 6-month old while trying Ferber and switched our schedule so she was in bed by 7:30 (wake up at ~7:30AM and last nap awake by 4:30PM, now at 9 months it’s awake by 4PM). Changing the schedule really helped. I also heard it’s better to be more awake than drowsy which helped our daughter - it took a lot of trial and error to figure it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were having issues with my 6-month old while trying Ferber and switched our schedule so she was in bed by 7:30 (wake up at ~7:30AM and last nap awake by 4:30PM, now at 9 months it’s awake by 4PM). Changing the schedule really helped. I also heard it’s better to be more awake than drowsy which helped our daughter - it took a lot of trial and error to figure it out.

I should add that some online moms recommended the schedule change as did my pediatrician when we talked about the difficulty we had with sleep training.

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks all! She is really doing it! I'm going to try for an earlier bedtime tonight. She woke up at 5 ready to go this morning. We didn't get her up for a feeding until 6 though. She wasn't crying the whole hour just not going back to sleep. She even took a break to play with her feet for a while. Cautiously attempting an earlier bedtime to see if that helps.

What does everyone do when their baby puts their arms and legs through the crib slats or pushes their head up to the bars? Do you leave them? Move them? Out girl is TALL I'm worried she's going to push off on one side and hit her head really hard. She's sleeping better but I'm glued to the monitor haha

Can she roll in both directions? If so I wouldn’t worry about it. She’ll probably get stuck and upset a few times and you might need to help but there’s kind of nothing you can do about it except mesh bumpers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious if anyone with a reflux baby had success? Ours cried 90+ minutes for multiple weeks until I gave up, poor baby has bad reflux ( medicated) and some food allergies and often wakes with gas pain. I can't tell it's the reflux contributing as we had to forego medicine for a while to do allergy testing and the baby screamed in pain all night unless held and even then a good half of the time.

We started sleep training at 4 months so maybe it was too soon ( the pediatrician recommended it bc we were getting no sleep) but then kinda backtracked and said maybe baby isn't ready at 5 months. At 6 months a saw a different pediatrician in the office who said to hold off until we could figure out all the digestive stuff. I want hope that it's possible but also hate ignoring her when she's in pain and not just struggling to connect sleep cycles

You don’t sleep train a baby like this because there’s no real way to know if they are in pain. It’s easier to tell when they’re older but too hard when they are this young. This is part of why I regret trying with ours who has gas issues and CMPA and probably other undiagnosed sensitivities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ferber worked for my sensitive/difficult kid and also my more mellow kid. I'm definitely pro sleep training and my kids were SO much happier during their waking period once they had more solid sleep cycles.

I would consider checking for silent reflux though--does she spit up a lot?

She doesn't spit up too much anymore. She did around 3 months but it's gotten so much better. Now we just have a non stop drool monster

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks all! She is really doing it! I'm going to try for an earlier bedtime tonight. She woke up at 5 ready to go this morning. We didn't get her up for a feeding until 6 though. She wasn't crying the whole hour just not going back to sleep. She even took a break to play with her feet for a while. Cautiously attempting an earlier bedtime to see if that helps.

What does everyone do when their baby puts their arms and legs through the crib slats or pushes their head up to the bars? Do you leave them? Move them? Out girl is TALL I'm worried she's going to push off on one side and hit her head really hard. She's sleeping better but I'm glued to the monitor haha

Can she roll in both directions? If so I wouldn’t worry about it. She’ll probably get stuck and upset a few times and you might need to help but there’s kind of nothing you can do about it except mesh bumpers.

She can! She's all over the crib like a bowling ball

[Anonymous]

15 min of crying tonight and I went in for a check and then she fell asleep 2 minutes later. Feels like a success. Surprised the checks actually work. And so far tonight we haven't had any 1-2 minute cries between sleep cycles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:15 min of crying tonight and I went in for a check and then she fell asleep 2 minutes later. Feels like a success. Surprised the checks actually work. And so far tonight we haven't had any 1-2 minute cries between sleep cycles.

Great to hear, OP!

[Anonymous]

People over complicate baby sleep. You put them in the crib and tell them you’ll be back in the morning. The end. Wear ear plugs if necessary. Eventually they will learn that your family members sleep at night.

[Anonymous]

If your baby needs a paci to sleep, we were told to leave a bunch of pacis in the crib. If they wake up and are looking for a paci they can easily find one and pop it back in. As long as our first kid could find his pacifier on his own, he was good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your baby needs a paci to sleep, we were told to leave a bunch of pacis in the crib. If they wake up and are looking for a paci they can easily find one and pop it back in. As long as our first kid could find his pacifier on his own, he was good.

She would toss them all out of the crib. We went cold turkey for nighttime. She hasn't seemed to mind too much

[Anonymous]

Give it a few more days OP. You don’t want to quit and then regret you quit too soon.