How older women react when they see me with younger GF

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I'm a few years over 50. GF is more than 20 years younger.

Based on conversations I've had with women my own age and based on comments here on DCUM, I figured I'd encounter a lot of hostility or negativity when older women saw me with GF. That hasn't happened much. I'm sure some older women are just being polite and really think I'm a disgusting lech.

But...

I've noticed a lot of older women now smile at me, flirt with me, and even ask me out on "not a date" dates. They constantly tell me they want to go out for walks in the park or meals or coffee. It's pretty obvious that they think I'm more attractive because of GF. I'm talking both about women I know pretty well and about women I don't know but meet briefly in public places.

GF is not a bimbo or a sugar baby. She's smart, accomplished and interesting. She's also very attractive. I guess other women assume that I must have something going for me if I can get a woman like GF.

For the first month or so I was with GF, she became angry when I brought up her age. She said I was being condescending when I talked about the age gap. She said she was attracted to me, she knew what she wanted, and I should respect her. She's a serious person. I think this comes across when we are out in public.

No normal young (or old) woman would want your saggy balls. Happy for both of you though. You are doing a great public service by being out of the dating pool!

[Anonymous]

This is actually believable to me but it takes place in the Villages, the OP is 70.

[Anonymous]

No one cares. Older women have BTDT and know that men aren't worth the trouble.

[Anonymous]

Lmao. “Older women”

[Anonymous]

As a 30-something DCUM poster I really wanna know why you assume people who diss age gaps on this board are your age? You mean you just assumed anyone dissing them is a jealous old lady? Well consider yourself corrected. It makes me gag because those women are my age, not because I’m your age!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is actually believable to me but it takes place in the Villages, the OP is 70.

Right? Hahahaha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend's 58 yr old husband was having an affair with his 25 yr old assistant. The assistant had been sexually abused by her own dad and so did not find being with my friend's hubby yucky in any way.

that is so sad.

But, if I see a much older man with a much younger woman, I do automatically think: 1. she has daddy issues OR 2. he is wealthy.

There is no way in h3ll Melania Trump would've given DJT a second look if not for his money. She is my age, and the thought of having sex with a man DJT's age is gross.

[Anonymous]

Don’t listen to these naysayers. I for one want to hear more about these 50 year old women constantly pleading with OP to go for walks in the park while his hot 30 year old GF seriously insists that she is serious and furrows her hot and smart brows at these aged wenches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I'm a few years over 50. GF is more than 20 years younger.

Based on conversations I've had with women my own age and based on comments here on DCUM, I figured I'd encounter a lot of hostility or negativity when older women saw me with GF. That hasn't happened much. I'm sure some older women are just being polite and really think I'm a disgusting lech.

But...

I've noticed a lot of older women now smile at me, flirt with me, and even ask me out on "not a date" dates. They constantly tell me they want to go out for walks in the park or meals or coffee. It's pretty obvious that they think I'm more attractive because of GF. I'm talking both about women I know pretty well and about women I don't know but meet briefly in public places.

GF is not a bimbo or a sugar baby. She's smart, accomplished and interesting. She's also very attractive. I guess other women assume that I must have something going for me if I can get a woman like GF.

For the first month or so I was with GF, she became angry when I brought up her age. She said I was being condescending when I talked about the age gap. She said she was attracted to me, she knew what she wanted, and I should respect her. She's a serious person. I think this comes across when we are out in public.

Love how you respect this request of hers by posting about your age gap relationship on this board absolutely nonstop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was that GF. Now I'm his wife. No one with decent manners is going to criticize you to your face, OP. All the "pervert lecher" and "robbing the cradle" talk is going on behind your back. Also, yes, women are going to simultaneously claim to despise you and wonder what you're giving this young lady that she's foregoing younger men for you. Especially if you're not that rich, like my husband was at the time.

The only people who ever talked about this in front of us were/are my BILs, my husband's brothers. But we're all good friends, so it's fine they're making jokes about it. And 20 years on, we're all complaining about our teenagers and helping our elderly parents and talking wealth management. We all have the same problems.

Just live your life, OP, and try not to troll on the web.

So you became the nurse.

PP you replied to. We're not there yet, but I might. I know you're trying to rude, but I married someone way older: I don't get offended easily

[Anonymous]

Here’s a lesson you should have learned much younger in life, but here, let me help you.

What you’re suffering from is called Main Character Syndrome. However much you think people care about you, your choices and what you’re doing, divide that by 1,000 and then maybe you’ll start to get close.

You’re welcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I'm a few years over 50. GF is more than 20 years younger.

Based on conversations I've had with women my own age and based on comments here on DCUM, I figured I'd encounter a lot of hostility or negativity when older women saw me with GF. That hasn't happened much. I'm sure some older women are just being polite and really think I'm a disgusting lech.

But...

I've noticed a lot of older women now smile at me, flirt with me, and even ask me out on "not a date" dates. They constantly tell me they want to go out for walks in the park or meals or coffee. It's pretty obvious that they think I'm more attractive because of GF. I'm talking both about women I know pretty well and about women I don't know but meet briefly in public places.

GF is not a bimbo or a sugar baby. She's smart, accomplished and interesting. She's also very attractive. I guess other women assume that I must have something going for me if I can get a woman like GF.

For the first month or so I was with GF, she became angry when I brought up her age. She said I was being condescending when I talked about the age gap. She said she was attracted to me, she knew what she wanted, and I should respect her. She's a serious person. I think this comes across when we are out in public.

Am a woman, and I can absolutely promise you that is NOT the thought that people have. People see a middle aged man with a young 20’s girl and absolutely, 100% assume father / daughter. It doesn’t matter if you LOOK like her; I don’t look like my middle aged dad either and neither do any of my friends I can think of. These women think it’s sweet you’re spending time with your daughter.

And if they were to find out what’s going on, I PROMISE you, “oh wow, dating someone half his age? Hemust be such a CATCH!” is not the mindset. I assume there is a fundamental flaw or shortcoming in your personality…which is being proven here by your incessant posting about this and refusal to see that the simplest explanation is the most obvious one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is actually believable to me but it takes place in the Villages, the OP is 70.

Cracking up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP here. This was my reaction to another thread in which many women were expressing hostility to older men who date younger women.

Nobody thinks I am her father. We look nothing alike.

By "constantly" I mean 2-3 times per week. Many women my age do like going for walks, going out for coffee, and going out for meals. The invitations have gone way up in the last few months.

I don't think the negative reactions on DCUM are anywhere close to universal.

You are wrong. Most people are talking about you and your GF's daddy issues behind your back. On DCUM, people can be more blunt because it's anonymous.

Yeah. People here are saying what everyone who knows you is thinking, trust. You don’t look like a stud, you look pathetic and predatory and also lacking in self-assurance (which your posts here confirm.)

[Anonymous]

You are like a gay guy now, you are very safe and we don't have to worry about you hitting on us.