How does a woman know she’s attractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People tell you that you are beautiful, men pursue you, women hate you, sometimes men (women) can't make eye contact with you, strangers stare or at least turn their heads.

If these things don't happen, you ain't got it.

Honestly all those things would happen if the woman had big fake jugs and showing cleavage. Men don't care about the face. Buttafaxe is fine with them.
Also women with gigantic butts get attention.

I'm picturing a certain demographic, because I've seen it first hand. No this is not universal, except for the what-the-hell-is-this aspect of it.

[Anonymous]

People who aren’t your family comment on your looks (because of course your family thinks you’re the prettiest girl in the world). For example, my friend’s older sister asked me how it felt to be the prettiest girl in the 6th grade. My gay friend commented that he loved walking into places with me and watching people stare or check me out. The hottest, most popular boys ask you out. People ask if you’ve ever modeled.

You know.

[Anonymous]

I think I’m attractive but definitely not drop dead hot like some people here seem to be. Mid-40s and look my age. Not particularly skinny but sort of mid sized and hourglass figure. I’m not the type to get catcalled on the street and never have been. But other women often compliment me and kids have always told me I’m pretty and many times people have told me I look like xyz celebrity. I think I have a pleasant Midwestern sort of vibe which makes me non threatening and attractive. I also spent time on hair/clothes which are fairly basic but I know compliment my shape. I think there are a lot of different types of attractive and most people can fall somewhere within the spectrum if they have a little time and $$ to spend. That’s different than crazy hot which seems like what some people are talking about. The true model types are few and far between

[Anonymous]

Pp here- I’m married now but even when I was younger guys rarely asked me out and definitely not hot guys. I think there’s pretty to girls and general pretty vs hot to guys which often is a completely different aesthetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who aren’t your family comment on your looks (because of course your family thinks you’re the prettiest girl in the world). For example, my friend’s older sister asked me how it felt to be the prettiest girl in the 6th grade. My gay friend commented that he loved walking into places with me and watching people stare or check me out. The hottest, most popular boys ask you out. People ask if you’ve ever modeled.

You know.

Oh jezus, I am not nearly as gorgeous as that! I think I was an 8 at my prime. But older men acted foolish, and guys my same age either loved me or tried that "negging" strategy. It was confusing, and I had poor self esteem, so it was a mess some of the time.

I have many beautiful friends, and the most beautiful one is kinda effed up from improper male attention and trauma. She is married to a wealthy guy who is abusive and she can't get out because of kids. I love her and can't help her.

[Anonymous]

People trust me immediately or think I’m competent even though they have zero reason to.

[Anonymous]

There are some general rules for our culture--fairly thin, symmetrical face, shiny hair, clear skin, straight teeth. If you have those things, you're 80% of the way there. Dressing well and confidence take you the rest of the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:the volume of men who compliment you, hit on you. That's how.

yes, beauty is subjective, people will be beautiful to you because you know them... but there are objectively beautiful women, and they know because they are told and it on multiple times a day.

Men have no real standards. They will cat call and hit on anything moving. To me the real sign is if a woman flirts with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the volume of men who compliment you, hit on you. That's how.

yes, beauty is subjective, people will be beautiful to you because you know them... but there are objectively beautiful women, and they know because they are told and it on multiple times a day.

Men have no real standards. They will cat call and hit on anything moving. To me the real sign is if a woman flirts with you.

How about a gay man who hit on me telling me I'd turn him straight lol

[Anonymous]

I ask for rules to be broken and am catered to. A bicyclist has run into a car while staring at me. I’ve been asked out at bars even when I say I’m there with someone else (“you deserve better than him.”)

It’s not all rainbows and sunshine. I am sometimes not taken seriously at work. I never knew if a guy was genuinely interested in being friends or just wanted to sleep with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember staring at my friend around 5th or 6th grade and thinking "She's plain looking, but beautiful to me because I like her as a person" and having the realization that some people will only be attractive because of their personality and thinking how lucky I was that I looked good AND had a good personality.

Wow you are horrible

^+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are some general rules for our culture--fairly thin, symmetrical face, shiny hair, clear skin, straight teeth. If you have those things, you're 80% of the way there. Dressing well and confidence take you the rest of the way.

What if you have a large crooked nose?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I’m attractive but definitely not drop dead hot like some people here seem to be. Mid-40s and look my age. Not particularly skinny but sort of mid sized and hourglass figure. I’m not the type to get catcalled on the street and never have been. But other women often compliment me and kids have always told me I’m pretty and many times people have told me I look like xyz celebrity. I think I have a pleasant Midwestern sort of vibe which makes me non threatening and attractive. I also spent time on hair/clothes which are fairly basic but I know compliment my shape. I think there are a lot of different types of attractive and most people can fall somewhere within the spectrum if they have a little time and $$ to spend. That’s different than crazy hot which seems like what some people are talking about. The true model types are few and far between

I started getting cat called at 11...exactly what "type" am I? Cat calling says more about the disgusting dog men who do it than the (usually young) girls and women who are their targets. Ffs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the volume of men who compliment you, hit on you. That's how.

yes, beauty is subjective, people will be beautiful to you because you know them... but there are objectively beautiful women, and they know because they are told and it on multiple times a day.

Men have no real standards. They will cat call and hit on anything moving. To me the real sign is if a woman flirts with you.

How about a gay man who hit on me telling me I'd turn him straight lol

Or a closeted gay man choosing you as his girlfriend? They only pick the most beautiful women, I hear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the volume of men who compliment you, hit on you. That's how.

yes, beauty is subjective, people will be beautiful to you because you know them... but there are objectively beautiful women, and they know because they are told and it on multiple times a day.

Men have no real standards. They will cat call and hit on anything moving. To me the real sign is if a woman flirts with you.

How about a gay man who hit on me telling me I'd turn him straight lol

Or a closeted gay man choosing you as his girlfriend? They only pick the most beautiful women, I hear.

Huh?