How does a woman know she’s attractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People will tell you.

This. And they will be genuinely surprised, almost taken aback. It’s unpleasant about 80% of the time.

OP said attractive, not Helen of Troy.

[Anonymous]

It's tricky since we blind all female babies at birth. But I think that you can figure it out by feel, if enough strangers let you touch their face for comparison.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember staring at my friend around 5th or 6th grade and thinking "She's plain looking, but beautiful to me because I like her as a person" and having the realization that some people will only be attractive because of their personality and thinking how lucky I was that I looked good AND had a good personality.

But your soul is black. Little girls change dramatically as they grow up.

[Anonymous]

Started with my mother always telling me sincerely how pretty I was. As I grew into a teen I was approached often by model scouts. As I grew into a woman I was approached often by men in everyday cafes, coffee shops, gas stations, grocery stores. When I travel abroad or across the USA I’m told I’m beautiful by complete strangers even to this day. I’m 50, and was just asked if I’m a model at my old age. I have a beauty that men and women find attractive. It doesn’t go to my head, but I do use it to my advantage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember staring at my friend around 5th or 6th grade and thinking "She's plain looking, but beautiful to me because I like her as a person" and having the realization that some people will only be attractive because of their personality and thinking how lucky I was that I looked good AND had a good personality.

No one is thinking that in 5th or 6th grade troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If only men felt confident commenting on women’s appearances and hitting on them aggressively! Including loudly, in public! Then we might know. But alas

That’s not always about her looks, though. Sometimes it’s about dominance. It’s also subjective.

If you have ever had a glow-up you know that most of it is definitely about being attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If only men felt confident commenting on women’s appearances and hitting on them aggressively! Including loudly, in public! Then we might know. But alas

That’s not always about her looks, though. Sometimes it’s about dominance. It’s also subjective.

If you have ever had a glow-up you know that most of it is definitely about being attractive.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People tell you that you are beautiful, men pursue you, women hate you, sometimes men (women) can't make eye contact with you, strangers stare or at least turn their heads.

If these things don't happen, you ain't got it.

Honestly all those things would happen if the woman had big fake jugs and showing cleavage. Men don't care about the face. Buttafaxe is fine with them.
Also women with gigantic butts get attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In an overall, general sense, how does a woman know she’s attractive?

I was listening to a book analysis podcast which got me thinking. The hosts mentioned the supposed attractiveness of a main character from the view of the narrator, and then posed the point that, a woman can’t know for certain she’s generally/overall attractive just because her partner is attracted to her, because that’s subjective. She also can’t use her own perspective because she could be viewing herself narcissistically.

So how does a woman know she’s objectively attractive?

I know because people have told me throughout my life that I am beautiful. This includes men and wonen of all ages as well as children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People tell you that you are beautiful, men pursue you, women hate you, sometimes men (women) can't make eye contact with you, strangers stare or at least turn their heads.

If these things don't happen, you ain't got it.

Honestly all those things would happen if the woman had big fake jugs and showing cleavage. Men don't care about the face. Buttafaxe is fine with them.
Also women with gigantic butts get attention.

It's gawking when you look freaky vs. beautiful. If someone is pumped full of silicone, tatted up or has ring in the nose people gawk and think WTF?

[Anonymous]

She looks in the mirror

[Anonymous]

Petite, small featured, baby faced, fair skinned 52 female. I am often told I’m cute or pretty.

I get lots of smiles from men (and children). Hispanic men especially seem to find me attractive - become a joke w/ DH.

I am also smiley and bubbly, energetic and friendly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People tell you that you are beautiful, men pursue you, women hate you, sometimes men (women) can't make eye contact with you, strangers stare or at least turn their heads.

If these things don't happen, you ain't got it.

Honestly all those things would happen if the woman had big fake jugs and showing cleavage. Men don't care about the face. Buttafaxe is fine with them.
Also women with gigantic butts get attention.

Or women with food or a plate of cookies...men are easy and kind of dumb. A woman knows for sure she is attractive when women compliment them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If only men felt confident commenting on women’s appearances and hitting on them aggressively! Including loudly, in public! Then we might know. But alas

Cat calling?

[Anonymous]

I think adults treat attractive babies differently and it continues in childhood and youth. Heck even in old age people assume pretty seniors lived a good life, it shows on face. No, character doesn't show on face. They just look better because they had an easier life.