Another mom invited herself to my kid’s birthday party

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What would you do op if the mom does still convince her anxious kid to go and when she arrives to drop him off there are two other parents from the class there staying? OF COURSE is truly the only appropriate answer here.

Right? You tell her she can't stay, and then she shows up and other parents are staying?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't even ask. It's a public venue not your house. Also a good opportunity to meet other parents. My kid has allergies so I always stay and there are always other parents who stay too. If the host was going to be as stuck up as OP, I would just sit somewhere far away and make a mental note to avoid her and her kid in the future.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes tell her you can’t accommodate her as the venue has a strict count. She can choose to drop off her child or not bro if him at all. I would be miffed too. Does she stay at school with him too? Ridiculous

Wow. Now I know where the mean kids get it from. Is having to talk to someone other than your bestie so awful that a child should be excluded from the party?

These boards always make me understand where the kids being exclusionary at school learn it. I’m always shocked at these responses honestly.

I really think some people assume everyone is just like themselves and cannot fathom that another person has different needs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes tell her you can’t accommodate her as the venue has a strict count. She can choose to drop off her child or not bro if him at all. I would be miffed too. Does she stay at school with him too? Ridiculous

Wow. Now I know where the mean kids get it from. Is having to talk to someone other than your bestie so awful that a child should be excluded from the party?

These boards always make me understand where the kids being exclusionary at school learn it. I’m always shocked at these responses honestly.

I can only imagine the conversation between OP and her DD regarding this child’s anxiety and whatever other issues and mom’s feelings about making small accommodations.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Be gracious. I hosted a kids party and one of the moms stayed because her DS had a lot of different allergies (vanilla, citrus fruit, nuts) and wanted to provide an epi pen, just in case.

With that many allergies she should not even attend.

Is it one person or multiple people who think that only perfect children should be allowed to leave their homes?

I hope you never need support for anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't even ask. It's a public venue not your house. Also a good opportunity to meet other parents. My kid has allergies so I always stay and there are always other parents who stay too. If the host was going to be as stuck up as OP, I would just sit somewhere far away and make a mental note to avoid her and her kid in the future.

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Yup, at parties like this at least half the parents are going to stay. At least this mom asked.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Be gracious. I hosted a kids party and one of the moms stayed because her DS had a lot of different allergies (vanilla, citrus fruit, nuts) and wanted to provide an epi pen, just in case.

With that many allergies she should not even attend.

OK, now we know you're a troll. Go away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would you do op if the mom does still convince her anxious kid to go and when she arrives to drop him off there are two other parents from the class there staying? OF COURSE is truly the only appropriate answer here.

Right? You tell her she can't stay, and then she shows up and other parents are staying?

And if she does let him go without her, how are you planning to handle his inevitable melt down? You should be glad she plans to stay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes tell her you can’t accommodate her as the venue has a strict count. She can choose to drop off her child or not bro if him at all. I would be miffed too. Does she stay at school with him too? Ridiculous

Wow. Now I know where the mean kids get it from. Is having to talk to someone other than your bestie so awful that a child should be excluded from the party?

These boards always make me understand where the kids being exclusionary at school learn it. I’m always shocked at these responses honestly.

I can only imagine the conversation between OP and her DD regarding this child’s anxiety and whatever other issues and mom’s feelings about making small accommodations.

It really explains why my autistic child didn't get a single party or playdate invitation while in public school (she was fully mainstreamed). People suck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Also, if you are asking 20 parents to drop off their kids you REALLY shouldn’t expect to be catching up with your friends as you need to be supervising said 20 children and corralling them. This whole thing is really confusing to me. And I’m sure you mean well op I think I’m reacting because there have been a lot of pretty insensitive posts about birthday parties here lately

Right?!? You can't just sit back and sip sangria, lady.

Good news: all the parents will now be staying, since they know OP is not planning to supervise.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would you do op if the mom does still convince her anxious kid to go and when she arrives to drop him off there are two other parents from the class there staying? OF COURSE is truly the only appropriate answer here.

Right? You tell her she can't stay, and then she shows up and other parents are staying?

And if she does let him go without her, how are you planning to handle his inevitable melt down? You should be glad she plans to stay.

This. For that age honestly I would prefer if some parents stay. Managing all of those kids can be a handful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be gracious. I hosted a kids party and one of the moms stayed because her DS had a lot of different allergies (vanilla, citrus fruit, nuts) and wanted to provide an epi pen, just in case.

With that many allergies she should not even attend.

Are you kidding me? Some of you are really mean and lacking in empathy. I hope this is a troll. And no I am not a parent of a kid with allergies, just have some general empathy that accommodations need to be made sometimes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes tell her you can’t accommodate her as the venue has a strict count. She can choose to drop off her child or not bro if him at all. I would be miffed too. Does she stay at school with him too? Ridiculous

Wow. Now I know where the mean kids get it from. Is having to talk to someone other than your bestie so awful that a child should be excluded from the party?

Maybe it’s too early for them to be at a drop off party and that’s ok

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes tell her you can’t accommodate her as the venue has a strict count. She can choose to drop off her child or not bro if him at all. I would be miffed too. Does she stay at school with him too? Ridiculous

Wow. Now I know where the mean kids get it from. Is having to talk to someone other than your bestie so awful that a child should be excluded from the party?

These boards always make me understand where the kids being exclusionary at school learn it. I’m always shocked at these responses honestly.

I can only imagine the conversation between OP and her DD regarding this child’s anxiety and whatever other issues and mom’s feelings about making small accommodations.

It really explains why my autistic child didn't get a single party or playdate invitation while in public school (she was fully mainstreamed). People suck.

No it doesn’t really explain it
For some kids it’s harder to make friends and it’s sad but true

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What would you do op if the mom does still convince her anxious kid to go and when she arrives to drop him off there are two other parents from the class there staying? OF COURSE is truly the only appropriate answer here.

Right? You tell her she can't stay, and then she shows up and other parents are staying?

And if she does let him go without her, how are you planning to handle his inevitable melt down? You should be glad she plans to stay.

She can call the mom to pick him up