Our Entire House is DH’s Office

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All that conversational offloading to spouses should occur more appropriately with workmates in the office. Ironically, this is some of the chit-chat that some say is unnecessary and unproductive. The reality is that people like to debrief, talk things over, and bounce ideas off each other. This is oftentimes done spontaneously and with a friendly colleague in the office. I think this type of conversation is productive because it fleshes out the business situation, provides cognitive relief/release, and develops friendships, all of which are important for work satisfaction/engagement and getting stuff done. The notion that one can debrief like that WFH is not supported by the facts. First, spouses are complaining about getting the lowdown. Second, there are many threads here about co-workers not wanting to talk outside scheduled meetings. No one wants to schedule a call for a friendly blow-off.

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Anonymous wrote:Family paperwork is a 15 minute a week task. It would be very easy to ask him to avoid a space while you are on an interview, which is very likely only once in a while.

The real problem is that it seems like he is intruding in your “me” time.

Seriously? It takes me 15 minutes to empty out my kids’ backpacks each day and decide what to keep and what to toss, and that’s before actually DOING anything. Family administration has taken me HOURS over the past month. We’re going to Europe for 2 weeks this summer and researching and booking flights, trains, hotels, and making sure all of our passports are in order is no joke. We’re not hiring a travel agent and DH and kids are counting on me to have a good trip.

So if DH has a bad time he’s going to blame you?

You don’t need a travel agent you need marriage counselor

And it’s 2023 who uses a travel agent for Europe?

No, but the flights and hotels aren’t going to book themselves. It would be pretty bad if we arrived and I didn’t get around to booking us a hotel. Who do you think should make our reservations?

We are going on a trip to Europe next July and it took me one hour last week to book flights, hotels and rental car.
Now I’m just sitting and waiting for the trip. Booking one trip shouldn’t be a full time job taking hours and hours for months.

I think the amount of time it takes depends heavily on how price-sensitive you are. My guess is you're pretty well-off, but if OP can't afford booking the first five star hotel that pops up on Tripadvisor and the quickest direct flight, it takes much, much more time.

No, it depends on how realistic you are. If OP is trying to book a five start hotel but only has the budget to afford a 3 star hotel, she will keep looking and looking forever for something that doesn't exist, and feel like booking a trip is a full time job.