HATE OUR BIG 3 too late to leave?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At least name the school, if you're going to avoid the specific issues.

You know the school. Just look up her previous posts

How do you look at an anonymous poster's previous posts?

I don’t know. How do you do an anonymous petition? Ask the OP.

[Anonymous]

Have you reached out to the schools and let them know of your concerns? Could help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yea you’ve made this about you when it shouldn’t be. School is about your kids, not you. That seems to be a thing with the private school crowd. Many think it’s like the whole family joined a country club or something. You know, “we” got in, etc.

If your kid is happy, your kid stays where he is, and you, yourself, avoid having anything to do with the school as much as possible. End of story.

No OP is upset about how the school treated a kid or her kid. OP did not talk about socializing with other parents.

NP. She’s posted here repeatedly. She’s upset about the parent social scene.

Then help me out here, because I don't recognize her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, why was it necessary to mention that the school is a Big 3?

Insecurity. Which is driving the unhappiness. Not snark, but I think a good therapist would help. Even in mediating with the school if the issue has legs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you reached out to the schools and let them know of your concerns? Could help.

I just called all 3 and they said it wasn’t them. Also denied any knowledge of what Big 3 was.

[Anonymous]

Enough with the coyness...will someone just say which school is being discussed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Enough with the coyness...will someone just say which school is being discussed?

I'm guessing OP doesn't want to be "outed"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Enough with the coyness...will someone just say which school is being discussed?

I'm guessing OP doesn't want to be "outed"

I would never out her. That doesn’t mean I agree. I’ve said enough

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You have a junior and a sophomore - why can't you say that? If your younger one is happy at the school what is the problem? I think you just have to deal with it.

Children's experiences with the same school can be quite different.

A little confused at this too. OP, please believe that there are plenty of unhappy parents at Big 3's. At this point I would try to ride it out. You've spent and are going to spend a ton of money and it's easy to fantasize about being punitive and going scorched earth but doing so would probably only hurt your kids.

DH and I are sending our oldest to PreK at a Big 3 and I'm already regretting it. It's a huge pile of money and I keep telling myself I'm going to see how this year goes and reevaluate (we have two younger kids to consider too). The parents who we know attending the school range from insufferable and snobby to just ridiculously wealthy and out of touch (playdate this weekend reveled that ridiculously wealthy parents had to scramble to get their $$ out of First Republic after taking on a $5M loan to to side-by-side deals...how relatable! They were shocked that we only had one nanny... husband commenting that we couldn't stop up because we were overextended with childcare costs was met with silence...so many of these families live in a bubble).

Sorry, you know about the plenty unhappy parents how? You’re sending your oldest to PREK next year for chrissakes
You guys are too much

I agree. People with high school kids (like me) literally don’t care what a mom of four years has to say about this.

Because it’s too late for you and your kids. You will defend your parenting choices to the death because you have to. But posts like the pre-k PP make you see what you have done and bring out your insecurity.

It’s ok. It will all be over soon and you can put your Big3 behind you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is making you so unhappy? I think you can speak broadly without identifying yourself and maybe some people can help. It seems impractical to leave at this point, so maybe there are steps you could take to help you feel better about the school. We have had kids at two of these schools and they can be frustrating, but sometimes its about finding the right person at the school to vent your concerns.

It’s probably a lower GPA and a different college list than they thought.

I can’t imagine a situation in which I’d sit such a big family decision on the internet. So I think she’ll never tell because nothing happened

it's too early for that

Nope. It’s right on time in Big3. Got released a few weeks ago; family counseling meetings just happened

You don't get a "college list" at the first meeting

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:What is making you so unhappy? I think you can speak broadly without identifying yourself and maybe some people can help. It seems impractical to leave at this point, so maybe there are steps you could take to help you feel better about the school. We have had kids at two of these schools and they can be frustrating, but sometimes its about finding the right person at the school to vent your concerns.

It’s probably a lower GPA and a different college list than they thought.

I can’t imagine a situation in which I’d sit such a big family decision on the internet. So I think she’ll never tell because nothing happened

it's too early for that

Nope. It’s right on time in Big3. Got released a few weeks ago; family counseling meetings just happened

You don't get a "college list" at the first meeting

So you agree that’s the school?

Stop trying to throw people off the scent. It’s something to do with a delta between the family’s self perceptions and expectations (whether a child or parents or both) and the way they are perceived (whether through academic results or something else; I can’t imagine an adult woman would let a social context rule her feelings to this extent so don’t subscribe to that theory — I suspecting she does thrive on the clicks and speculation, the breathlessness, the all caps, the woe is me!). I’m guessing it’s the college prospects

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a junior and a sophomore - why can't you say that? If your younger one is happy at the school what is the problem? I think you just have to deal with it.

Children's experiences with the same school can be quite different.

A little confused at this too. OP, please believe that there are plenty of unhappy parents at Big 3's. At this point I would try to ride it out. You've spent and are going to spend a ton of money and it's easy to fantasize about being punitive and going scorched earth but doing so would probably only hurt your kids.

DH and I are sending our oldest to PreK at a Big 3 and I'm already regretting it. It's a huge pile of money and I keep telling myself I'm going to see how this year goes and reevaluate (we have two younger kids to consider too). The parents who we know attending the school range from insufferable and snobby to just ridiculously wealthy and out of touch (playdate this weekend reveled that ridiculously wealthy parents had to scramble to get their $$ out of First Republic after taking on a $5M loan to to side-by-side deals...how relatable! They were shocked that we only had one nanny... husband commenting that we couldn't stop up because we were overextended with childcare costs was met with silence...so many of these families live in a bubble).

Sorry, you know about the plenty unhappy parents how? You’re sending your oldest to PREK next year for chrissakes
You guys are too much

I agree. People with high school kids (like me) literally don’t care what a mom of four years has to say about this.

Because it’s too late for you and your kids. You will defend your parenting choices to the death because you have to. But posts like the pre-k PP make you see what you have done and bring out your insecurity.

It’s ok. It will all be over soon and you can put your Big3 behind you.

Hehehe
This lady posts this crap in every private school thread
I’m not the PP but this is laughable; please tell me you mind isn’t this narrow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well I can see OP's point of view. DC's friend experienced really unfair treatment at one of these schools because they are not white and are not connected. It almost made us pull out the school and if DC were younger we might have.

For me it would depend on how happy younger DC is. You said "pretty happy." Would your child be okay in public or another school too? If it's a child who makes friends easily and is easy going I would consider moving. If you have a child who is more anxious or attached to certain friends I'd suck it up and stay.

Please say how. That’s a serious accusation. If there’s anything to it, I would do better

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is making you so unhappy? I think you can speak broadly without identifying yourself and maybe some people can help. It seems impractical to leave at this point, so maybe there are steps you could take to help you feel better about the school. We have had kids at two of these schools and they can be frustrating, but sometimes its about finding the right person at the school to vent your concerns.

It’s probably a lower GPA and a different college list than they thought.

I can’t imagine a situation in which I’d sit such a big family decision on the internet. So I think she’ll never tell because nothing happened

it's too early for that

Nope. It’s right on time in Big3. Got released a few weeks ago; family counseling meetings just happened

You don't get a "college list" at the first meeting

So you agree that’s the school?

Stop trying to throw people off the scent. It’s something to do with a delta between the family’s self perceptions and expectations (whether a child or parents or both) and the way they are perceived (whether through academic results or something else; I can’t imagine an adult woman would let a social context rule her feelings to this extent so don’t subscribe to that theory — I suspecting she does thrive on the clicks and speculation, the breathlessness, the all caps, the woe is me!). I’m guessing it’s the college prospects

I'm not the person trying to figure out the school. I'm the person saying I don't think the issue was GPA and college list - because it sounds like the person's issue regarding older child is longer standing than a college related beef that just arose in the first steps of college counseling.

I have no idea which school this is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a junior and a sophomore - why can't you say that? If your younger one is happy at the school what is the problem? I think you just have to deal with it.

Children's experiences with the same school can be quite different.

A little confused at this too. OP, please believe that there are plenty of unhappy parents at Big 3's. At this point I would try to ride it out. You've spent and are going to spend a ton of money and it's easy to fantasize about being punitive and going scorched earth but doing so would probably only hurt your kids.

DH and I are sending our oldest to PreK at a Big 3 and I'm already regretting it. It's a huge pile of money and I keep telling myself I'm going to see how this year goes and reevaluate (we have two younger kids to consider too). The parents who we know attending the school range from insufferable and snobby to just ridiculously wealthy and out of touch (playdate this weekend reveled that ridiculously wealthy parents had to scramble to get their $$ out of First Republic after taking on a $5M loan to to side-by-side deals...how relatable! They were shocked that we only had one nanny... husband commenting that we couldn't stop up because we were overextended with childcare costs was met with silence...so many of these families live in a bubble).

Sorry, you know about the plenty unhappy parents how? You’re sending your oldest to PREK next year for chrissakes
You guys are too much

I agree. People with high school kids (like me) literally don’t care what a mom of four years has to say about this.

Because it’s too late for you and your kids. You will defend your parenting choices to the death because you have to. But posts like the pre-k PP make you see what you have done and bring out your insecurity.

It’s ok. It will all be over soon and you can put your Big3 behind you.

Hehehe
This lady posts this crap in every private school thread
I’m not the PP but this is laughable; please tell me you mind isn’t this narrow

Pls tell me your heart is not so small that you have no room to care about new parents of young children at your school. Unless you are the PP because then we already know how small your heart is.