Beach week house rules contract

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None of this is helpful to OP. Here you go:

Make use every adult of every student, and every student, has a copy of an emergency contact list with cell numbers for each student and each parent

Make sure every adult has a copy of a list of who is driving to and from the beach with whom

Legal (I am not a lawyer!):

All parties agree to share equally in the costs (rental fee, shared food and beverages)

All parties agree to indemnify and hold harmless all parties from all claims, costs liabilities, loses, damages and expenses, including but not limited to court ot arbitration costs, attorneys fees, etc.

The exception to the above is "you break it, you pay for it" if one parties acts, activities, accidents, negligent or intentional acts cause damage, that person pays

Waiver and release of claims against the rentor (adult who signed lease) for personal injury, bodily harm or death

Rules that all must agree to:
-Buddy system when in the ocean and after dark
-Driving under the influence will not be tolerated - no one gets into a car with someone they know or suspect is under the influence
-no swimming in the ocean after dark
-no going on the roof or jumping off anything
-no cigarettes, vaping, vaping devices, drugs, or fireworks in the house or on the premises
-all must be back in the house for the night by 2am
-no additional guests in the house after 2am/no sleepovers
-no large gatherings/parties at the house
-any guests must follow the rules of the house or will he asked to leave
-guests in common areas of the house only
-no destructive behavior to the house or its contents. If damage occurs an no one claims responsibility, costs will be divided equally among families in the house
-noise levels kept to a minimum
-every morning students must clean up any trash, spills or dishes
-fighting of any kind will not be tolerated and will be grounds for dismissal from the house (no refunds or partial refunds)
--on the last day, all must clean the house until it is in the condition it was upon arrival
-no one leaves without checking in with chaperone to confirm they have cleaned up after themselves and contributed to the overall cleanup efforts of the group, and to confirm to chaperone they are departing for home

You lost every 18yr old by saying buddy system. This is not Girl Scouts.

Also, I personally rather have a bunch of people smoking pot or eating edibles than drinking a bunch of hard liquor. I don't understand parents who think drinking is ok, but smoking a joint is horrific

[Anonymous]

I had so much fun at beach week in 2002.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I can’t. You let your kids go to beach week but want them to sign a contact you think they will obey?

What a laugh

Kids going to beach week will be leaving for college two months or less later. If you can't give your child some freedom, with limits, eight weeks before they leave for college then you did something wrong.

It's the soon to be leaving for college that's a big party of the problem IMHO.

You hook up with someone at beach week or get crazy drunk or high because it feels like there are no consequences or it's the last chance to be with these people.

In college, you at least have to think about whether you'll see these people again in your dorm or in class.

two words: spring break.

[Anonymous]

My DH chaperoned DS and 10 friends (save the judgement) and at the advice of a lawyer friend, he emailed all the parents with his rules and expectations and had them each acknowledge the risks and take responsibility for their own child.

Trip was a success. Boys had "enough" fun. House was not trashed. Husband was exhausted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH chaperoned DS and 10 friends (save the judgement) and at the advice of a lawyer friend, he emailed all the parents with his rules and expectations and had them each acknowledge the risks and take responsibility for their own child.

Trip was a success. Boys had "enough" fun. House was not trashed. Husband was exhausted.

Was he the husband that had sex with one of the girls in Corolla last year and SA another? I rather my daughter be in a house without a husband willing to be the fun Dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH chaperoned DS and 10 friends (save the judgement) and at the advice of a lawyer friend, he emailed all the parents with his rules and expectations and had them each acknowledge the risks and take responsibility for their own child.

Trip was a success. Boys had "enough" fun. House was not trashed. Husband was exhausted.

Was he the husband that had sex with one of the girls in Corolla last year and SA another? I rather my daughter be in a house without a husband willing to be the fun Dad.

[Anonymous]

Rule #1- Wear a condom
Rule #2- See rule #1

[Anonymous]

Op here: I was more looking for a contract of house rules like who is bringing cleaning supplies, taking out trash, if one cleans the others clean up. If one drives then the others will pay for gas/tolls. That kind of stuff. Not a contract between parent and child. I assumed something like what roommates in college discuss. I’ve never really traveled outside my family/home group and figured you all would have some ideas but this seemed to go in another direction. And at most my dd has done a slumber party so may not really think through house rules. Thanks to those that responded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had so much fun at beach week in 2002.

Tell us some fun stories, Mee-maw!

[Anonymous]

1. Herpes are forever
2. I'm not ready to be a grandparent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you for starting this threat OP. I have a group of 18 year olds going on a weekend trip to a friend’s beach house after graduation (I won’t call it beach week because that seems to trigger many people on this thread) and we do want to talk through expectations and safety precautions in advance. Its not a hard partying group (full of nerds that will be going to highly selective colleges) but I also get that those who worked the hardest in high school may also be ready to blow off some steam. I don’t have anything constructive to offer at this point but I appreciate all of the constructive responses so far.

See the movie"Book smart" asap

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No permanent mistakes:

1) No arrests
2) No pregnancy and/or STD
3) No addiction
4) No tattoos

A bunch of these aren't actually permanent, you know...

As conditions, maybe not. As mistakes they absolutely are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None of this is helpful to OP. Here you go:

Make use every adult of every student, and every student, has a copy of an emergency contact list with cell numbers for each student and each parent

Make sure every adult has a copy of a list of who is driving to and from the beach with whom

Legal (I am not a lawyer!):

All parties agree to share equally in the costs (rental fee, shared food and beverages)

All parties agree to indemnify and hold harmless all parties from all claims, costs liabilities, loses, damages and expenses, including but not limited to court ot arbitration costs, attorneys fees, etc.

The exception to the above is "you break it, you pay for it" if one parties acts, activities, accidents, negligent or intentional acts cause damage, that person pays

Waiver and release of claims against the rentor (adult who signed lease) for personal injury, bodily harm or death

Rules that all must agree to:
-Buddy system when in the ocean and after dark
-Driving under the influence will not be tolerated - no one gets into a car with someone they know or suspect is under the influence
-no swimming in the ocean after dark
-no going on the roof or jumping off anything
-no cigarettes, vaping, vaping devices, drugs, or fireworks in the house or on the premises
-all must be back in the house for the night by 2am
-no additional guests in the house after 2am/no sleepovers
-no large gatherings/parties at the house
-any guests must follow the rules of the house or will he asked to leave
-guests in common areas of the house only
-no destructive behavior to the house or its contents. If damage occurs an no one claims responsibility, costs will be divided equally among families in the house
-noise levels kept to a minimum
-every morning students must clean up any trash, spills or dishes
-fighting of any kind will not be tolerated and will be grounds for dismissal from the house (no refunds or partial refunds)
--on the last day, all must clean the house until it is in the condition it was upon arrival
-no one leaves without checking in with chaperone to confirm they have cleaned up after themselves and contributed to the overall cleanup efforts of the group, and to confirm to chaperone they are departing for home

You lost every 18yr old by saying buddy system. This is not Girl Scouts.

Also, I personally rather have a bunch of people smoking pot or eating edibles than drinking a bunch of hard liquor. I don't understand parents who think drinking is ok, but smoking a joint is horrific

No Fentanyl in vodka.

[Anonymous]

For girls, only drink from cans or bottles that you see opened and that you control at all times

[Anonymous]

I can’t remember all but some of the rules my DD had to agree to last year were
All kids must eat dinner at the house
There was a curfew
All kids had to check in with the chaperones
None of the kids drove there so then driving was not an issue
I believe there was something having to do with helping to do dishes and cleaning uo