Kid wearing a tutu to class

[Anonymous]

I’m fine with boys wearing tutus to school, if they want, but those of you acting like it’s something you wouldn’t even notice or think anything of are idiots. It’s like when white people say, “Oh, I never even notice color.” Ooookaaaaay

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've lived in San Francisco a long time apparently - I had to read this twice to try to figure out what the problem is. DD had a friend wear a onesie to school every day for a month. Kids would wear a cape or a tail. Nobody cares here. It's okay to be weird, and self-expression is fine as long as it doesn't endorse violence, drugs, or hate speech.

But even you recognize that it's "weird." Why encourage someone to dress in a way that will ultimately result in teasing?

Too bad this seems to be the ultimate fear of parents these days. Your kid will be teased, your kid will be left out...

See what happens when a basic has kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m fine with boys wearing tutus to school, if they want, but those of you acting like it’s something you wouldn’t even notice or think anything of are idiots. It’s like when white people say, “Oh, I never even notice color.” Ooookaaaaay

Only racists deny seeing somebody’s inalienable trait

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am curious how this is different than students who wear, say, cat ears?

It’s middle school. Some are clinging to their childhood still. Others are trying to shock adults. They’re all trying on identities.

As an adult our job is to give them the safe space to let them do this stuff without judgment. They will grow out of it.

Or become the next Billy Porter. Either way, fine.

I don’t know what that means.

google billy porter- yo are in for some lovely outfits! he is so glam

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am curious how this is different than students who wear, say, cat ears?

It’s middle school. Some are clinging to their childhood still. Others are trying to shock adults. They’re all trying on identities.

As an adult our job is to give them the safe space to let them do this stuff without judgment. They will grow out of it.

Or become the next Billy Porter. Either way, fine.

I don’t know what that means.

google billy porter- yo are in for some lovely outfits! he is so glam

I don’t think so.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand when parents try to prevent their kid from being bullied (by bullying their kids, basically). Especially by middle school kids have a pretty good idea of what will get them bullied. Or the bullying is random. As the parent you have almost zero insight into the social dynamics of your middle schooler and trying to control them is futile. If child wants to wear a tutu, they are obviously consciously signally SOMETHING (could be a variety of things). I'm assuming the child is not an idiot and has some insight into the potential reactions of people at school and is trying to provoke those reactions. This is normal and a part of testing out individual identity. As a parent it's our job to support that process not to add to the kid's stress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand when parents try to prevent their kid from being bullied (by bullying their kids, basically). Especially by middle school kids have a pretty good idea of what will get them bullied. Or the bullying is random. As the parent you have almost zero insight into the social dynamics of your middle schooler and trying to control them is futile. If child wants to wear a tutu, they are obviously consciously signally SOMETHING (could be a variety of things). I'm assuming the child is not an idiot and has some insight into the potential reactions of people at school and is trying to provoke those reactions. This is normal and a part of testing out individual identity. As a parent it's our job to support that process not to add to the kid's stress.

You don’t understand when a parent tries to prevent their child from getting bullied? Seriously?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am curious how this is different than students who wear, say, cat ears?

It’s middle school. Some are clinging to their childhood still. Others are trying to shock adults. They’re all trying on identities.

As an adult our job is to give them the safe space to let them do this stuff without judgment. They will grow out of it.

This. In the scheme of things kids can do to test boundaries, this is an easy one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand when parents try to prevent their kid from being bullied (by bullying their kids, basically). Especially by middle school kids have a pretty good idea of what will get them bullied. Or the bullying is random. As the parent you have almost zero insight into the social dynamics of your middle schooler and trying to control them is futile. If child wants to wear a tutu, they are obviously consciously signally SOMETHING (could be a variety of things). I'm assuming the child is not an idiot and has some insight into the potential reactions of people at school and is trying to provoke those reactions. This is normal and a part of testing out individual identity. As a parent it's our job to support that process not to add to the kid's stress.

You don’t understand when a parent tries to prevent their child from getting bullied? Seriously?

Getting hurt is living life. We can't bubble wrap our kids from everything. Not to mention, we'd probably get it wrong.

Show them what to do in case of bullying. Not just telling them what not to do so they don't get bullied. What if they still get bullied?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand when parents try to prevent their kid from being bullied (by bullying their kids, basically). Especially by middle school kids have a pretty good idea of what will get them bullied. Or the bullying is random. As the parent you have almost zero insight into the social dynamics of your middle schooler and trying to control them is futile. If child wants to wear a tutu, they are obviously consciously signally SOMETHING (could be a variety of things). I'm assuming the child is not an idiot and has some insight into the potential reactions of people at school and is trying to provoke those reactions. This is normal and a part of testing out individual identity. As a parent it's our job to support that process not to add to the kid's stress.

You don’t understand when a parent tries to prevent their child from getting bullied? Seriously?

Getting hurt is living life. We can't bubble wrap our kids from everything. Not to mention, we'd probably get it wrong.

Show them what to do in case of bullying. Not just telling them what not to do so they don't get bullied. What if they still get bullied?

You contradict yourself. And stop with the dramatic hyperbole. No one is wrapping their kids in bubble wrap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand when parents try to prevent their kid from being bullied (by bullying their kids, basically). Especially by middle school kids have a pretty good idea of what will get them bullied. Or the bullying is random. As the parent you have almost zero insight into the social dynamics of your middle schooler and trying to control them is futile. If child wants to wear a tutu, they are obviously consciously signally SOMETHING (could be a variety of things). I'm assuming the child is not an idiot and has some insight into the potential reactions of people at school and is trying to provoke those reactions. This is normal and a part of testing out individual identity. As a parent it's our job to support that process not to add to the kid's stress.

You don’t understand when a parent tries to prevent their child from getting bullied? Seriously?

Getting hurt is living life. We can't bubble wrap our kids from everything. Not to mention, we'd probably get it wrong.

Show them what to do in case of bullying. Not just telling them what not to do so they don't get bullied. What if they still get bullied?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've lived in San Francisco a long time apparently - I had to read this twice to try to figure out what the problem is. DD had a friend wear a onesie to school every day for a month. Kids would wear a cape or a tail. Nobody cares here. It's okay to be weird, and self-expression is fine as long as it doesn't endorse violence, drugs, or hate speech.

^^ and drugs, meaning real drug. like hard drugs. Cannabis is legal in California.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand when parents try to prevent their kid from being bullied (by bullying their kids, basically). Especially by middle school kids have a pretty good idea of what will get them bullied. Or the bullying is random. As the parent you have almost zero insight into the social dynamics of your middle schooler and trying to control them is futile. If child wants to wear a tutu, they are obviously consciously signally SOMETHING (could be a variety of things). I'm assuming the child is not an idiot and has some insight into the potential reactions of people at school and is trying to provoke those reactions. This is normal and a part of testing out individual identity. As a parent it's our job to support that process not to add to the kid's stress.

You don’t understand when a parent tries to prevent their child from getting bullied? Seriously?

Getting hurt is living life. We can't bubble wrap our kids from everything. Not to mention, we'd probably get it wrong.

Show them what to do in case of bullying. Not just telling them what not to do so they don't get bullied. What if they still get bullied?

+1

Nope

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand when parents try to prevent their kid from being bullied (by bullying their kids, basically). Especially by middle school kids have a pretty good idea of what will get them bullied. Or the bullying is random. As the parent you have almost zero insight into the social dynamics of your middle schooler and trying to control them is futile. If child wants to wear a tutu, they are obviously consciously signally SOMETHING (could be a variety of things). I'm assuming the child is not an idiot and has some insight into the potential reactions of people at school and is trying to provoke those reactions. This is normal and a part of testing out individual identity. As a parent it's our job to support that process not to add to the kid's stress.

You don’t understand when a parent tries to prevent their child from getting bullied? Seriously?

Getting hurt is living life. We can't bubble wrap our kids from everything. Not to mention, we'd probably get it wrong.

Show them what to do in case of bullying. Not just telling them what not to do so they don't get bullied. What if they still get bullied?

We are talking about kids here. Not adults who can handle themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand when parents try to prevent their kid from being bullied (by bullying their kids, basically). Especially by middle school kids have a pretty good idea of what will get them bullied. Or the bullying is random. As the parent you have almost zero insight into the social dynamics of your middle schooler and trying to control them is futile. If child wants to wear a tutu, they are obviously consciously signally SOMETHING (could be a variety of things). I'm assuming the child is not an idiot and has some insight into the potential reactions of people at school and is trying to provoke those reactions. This is normal and a part of testing out individual identity. As a parent it's our job to support that process not to add to the kid's stress.

You don’t understand when a parent tries to prevent their child from getting bullied? Seriously?

Getting hurt is living life. We can't bubble wrap our kids from everything. Not to mention, we'd probably get it wrong.

Show them what to do in case of bullying. Not just telling them what not to do so they don't get bullied. What if they still get bullied?

+1

Nope

Yes. This is middle school. They learn best from their peers.

Step away from the bubble wrap, Karen.