36 year old Indian woman on dating apps

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want an Indian man?

No Indian man from a decent family is going to date op seriously.

Why? Because she is divorced? Most Indian-American guys do not care about that. If she does not have kids, is good natured, comes from a good family, attractive and in a well paying job, most Indian-American single men of the same age will not care.

eligible Indian-American guys from good families 100% will care. You are crazy if you don’t think so. Yeah it’s 2022, but some things haven’t changed much.

She’s aged out and has baggage. But that is ok, she’s pretty open minded so she’s not limiting herself.

I would suggest she move out west to the Bay Area or Seattle.

The west? Are you crazy? Too much competition with people half her age. Tons of Asians (SEA and Indian) to choose from there. She is better off here or in a location where she may stand out.

Yeah, SF or Seattle would be an even worse dating market for the OP. There are so many young, successful women there, especially Asian.

The sheer overwhelming deluge of men though makes that irrelevant

The gender ratio out west is hyper skewed in favor of women

Maybe, but women on the west coast are generally more attractive than those here. I am Asian and from that area - I'm considered slightly above average there but very beautiful in DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Very low right swipes. The only men who appear to want to date me are working class and low quality. Why? Do white women have better odds on dating apps?

I am slender and am told I am attractive.

That's surprising. You should redo your profile.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want an Indian man?

No Indian man from a decent family is going to date op seriously.

Why? Because she is divorced? Most Indian-American guys do not care about that. If she does not have kids, is good natured, comes from a good family, attractive and in a well paying job, most Indian-American single men of the same age will not care.

eligible Indian-American guys from good families 100% will care. You are crazy if you don’t think so. Yeah it’s 2022, but some things haven’t changed much.

She’s aged out and has baggage. But that is ok, she’s pretty open minded so she’s not limiting herself.

I would suggest she move out west to the Bay Area or Seattle.

The west? Are you crazy? Too much competition with people half her age. Tons of Asians (SEA and Indian) to choose from there. She is better off here or in a location where she may stand out.

Yeah, SF or Seattle would be an even worse dating market for the OP. There are so many young, successful women there, especially Asian.

The sheer overwhelming deluge of men though makes that irrelevant

The gender ratio out west is hyper skewed in favor of women

Maybe, but women on the west coast are generally more attractive than those here. I am Asian and from that area - I'm considered slightly above average there but very beautiful in DC.

True , you have a good point

dc is Hollywood for ugly people and West coast Asians are prettier.

BUt…I think for Indians tho, the westcoast vs eastcoast skew doesn’t really exist as it does for East or se Asians

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Anonymous wrote:I always thought it was Asian women that had the better responses on apps.

This. I thought the highest response rate was Asian women, particularly if good looking, employed, no kids.

That is typically applied to East Asian women, moreso than South Asian.

OP here. I think men don't like South Asian women?

It depends on the men. I've never heard anyone disparage South Asian women but yes South East Asian women are the "Asians" who are most coveted for IR dating so it seems.
OP are you fair or darker skinned? Generally speaking Indian women are not on the radar for Black men. I'm a Black woman fwiw. If you're fairer, then I don't get the lack of responses. If you're darker, sadly, that could be it.

Madame you are misinformed. I have a number of Indian friends and they get deluged by black men on the dating apps in the DC area.

[Anonymous]

OP should change her age on the app to 29. Second, switch up the profile pictures since they are not working. Choose fitness based and outdoorsy pictures.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want an Indian man?

No Indian man from a decent family is going to date op seriously.

Why? Because she is divorced? Most Indian-American guys do not care about that. If she does not have kids, is good natured, comes from a good family, attractive and in a well paying job, most Indian-American single men of the same age will not care.

eligible Indian-American guys from good families 100% will care. You are crazy if you don’t think so. Yeah it’s 2022, but some things haven’t changed much.

She’s aged out and has baggage. But that is ok, she’s pretty open minded so she’s not limiting herself.

I would suggest she move out west to the Bay Area or Seattle.

The west? Are you crazy? Too much competition with people half her age. Tons of Asians (SEA and Indian) to choose from there. She is better off here or in a location where she may stand out.

Yeah, SF or Seattle would be an even worse dating market for the OP. There are so many young, successful women there, especially Asian.

The sheer overwhelming deluge of men though makes that irrelevant

The gender ratio out west is hyper skewed in favor of women

Maybe, but women on the west coast are generally more attractive than those here. I am Asian and from that area - I'm considered slightly above average there but very beautiful in DC.

Yeah and west coast Asians tend to be successful, too, in addition to being better looking. Like they’re good looking and work at a FAANG.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want an Indian man?

No Indian man from a decent family is going to date op seriously.

Why? Because she is divorced? Most Indian-American guys do not care about that. If she does not have kids, is good natured, comes from a good family, attractive and in a well paying job, most Indian-American single men of the same age will not care.

eligible Indian-American guys from good families 100% will care. You are crazy if you don’t think so. Yeah it’s 2022, but some things haven’t changed much.

She’s aged out and has baggage. But that is ok, she’s pretty open minded so she’s not limiting herself.

I would suggest she move out west to the Bay Area or Seattle.

The west? Are you crazy? Too much competition with people half her age. Tons of Asians (SEA and Indian) to choose from there. She is better off here or in a location where she may stand out.

Yeah, SF or Seattle would be an even worse dating market for the OP. There are so many young, successful women there, especially Asian.

The sheer overwhelming deluge of men though makes that irrelevant

The gender ratio out west is hyper skewed in favor of women

This was true in the 90s and early 2000's but not anymore.

I'm East Asian female, and lived in the Bay Area for 20 years during the tech boom. There were definitely more single men than women back then, but not anymore.

CO, however, has more men than women. I'd go there if I was really desperate to find a man. And most of them are very fit and outdoorsy. So, you'd have to be, too.

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Anonymous wrote:You missed your boat by 10 years

Every eligible Indian-American woman I know was married before 27

Blair magnet alums, w school alums, t20 ug, t14 law, top tier medical/residencies

The ones who didn’t get married by then:

1. Ran thru/dated out since they were like 16 and worked in stuff like PR or politics

2. Were very unattractive and/or came from families of questionable background

But your typical umc Indian American woman in the dc area that was born here, went to school here, and is a MD or some other stem job…:they are off the market early

Wow! You could be talking about my ABCD ( ) DD. High achieving magnet alum, well paying STEM field, good looking (slim, pretty, taller than average, athletic north Indian, well groomed, fitness buff), UMC family, started dating in college. BF is White but of similar background (intact UMC family, STEM, DMV, good looking, high paying field) and they are on track to get married in two years. I really thought that my DD will not marry until she was in her 30s.

Wow so much snark! I am an attractive well educated ( Ivy) and high earning (120k) woman who was married to an umc white well educated high earning man at 27! Bad fortune and mental illness derailed my marriage.

Hope your perfect daughter doesn’t encounter any misfortune as you’ll apparently think she’s faulty.

Op ignore the nasty responses, easy to be mean behind the screen good things will happen to you. I am Indian and very happily married. My white husband always says- I don't understand why most Indian women don't put any efforts on their looks. Invest in yourself, feel and look your best and the right man will come around. I wish you good luck 🤞

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want an Indian man?

No Indian man from a decent family is going to date op seriously.

Why? Because she is divorced? Most Indian-American guys do not care about that. If she does not have kids, is good natured, comes from a good family, attractive and in a well paying job, most Indian-American single men of the same age will not care.

eligible Indian-American guys from good families 100% will care. You are crazy if you don’t think so. Yeah it’s 2022, but some things haven’t changed much.

She’s aged out and has baggage. But that is ok, she’s pretty open minded so she’s not limiting herself.

I would suggest she move out west to the Bay Area or Seattle.

The west? Are you crazy? Too much competition with people half her age. Tons of Asians (SEA and Indian) to choose from there. She is better off here or in a location where she may stand out.

Yeah, SF or Seattle would be an even worse dating market for the OP. There are so many young, successful women there, especially Asian.

The sheer overwhelming deluge of men though makes that irrelevant

The gender ratio out west is hyper skewed in favor of women

Maybe, but women on the west coast are generally more attractive than those here. I am Asian and from that area - I'm considered slightly above average there but very beautiful in DC.

Yeah and west coast Asians tend to be successful, too, in addition to being better looking. Like they’re good looking and work at a FAANG.

what? That all depends on what area you work in.

I worked for a FAANG, and I'm an Asian female. Most of the Asian female software engineers are not good looking. Where do you guys get this stuff?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always thought it was Asian women that had the better responses on apps.

This. I thought the highest response rate was Asian women, particularly if good looking, employed, no kids.

That is typically applied to East Asian women, moreso than South Asian.

OP here. I think men don't like South Asian women?

It depends on the men. I've never heard anyone disparage South Asian women but yes South East Asian women are the "Asians" who are most coveted for IR dating so it seems.
OP are you fair or darker skinned? Generally speaking Indian women are not on the radar for Black men. I'm a Black woman fwiw. If you're fairer, then I don't get the lack of responses. If you're darker, sadly, that could be it.

what is IR dating? -Not op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want an Indian man?

No Indian man from a decent family is going to date op seriously.

Why? Because she is divorced? Most Indian-American guys do not care about that. If she does not have kids, is good natured, comes from a good family, attractive and in a well paying job, most Indian-American single men of the same age will not care.

eligible Indian-American guys from good families 100% will care. You are crazy if you don’t think so. Yeah it’s 2022, but some things haven’t changed much.

She’s aged out and has baggage. But that is ok, she’s pretty open minded so she’s not limiting herself.

I would suggest she move out west to the Bay Area or Seattle.

The west? Are you crazy? Too much competition with people half her age. Tons of Asians (SEA and Indian) to choose from there. She is better off here or in a location where she may stand out.

Yeah, SF or Seattle would be an even worse dating market for the OP. There are so many young, successful women there, especially Asian.

The sheer overwhelming deluge of men though makes that irrelevant

The gender ratio out west is hyper skewed in favor of women

Maybe, but women on the west coast are generally more attractive than those here. I am Asian and from that area - I'm considered slightly above average there but very beautiful in DC.

Yeah and west coast Asians tend to be successful, too, in addition to being better looking. Like they’re good looking and work at a FAANG.

what? That all depends on what area you work in.

I worked for a FAANG, and I'm an Asian female. Most of the Asian female software engineers are not good looking. Where do you guys get this stuff?

I am from Silicon Valley and worked in a non technical role (not engineering) and a lot of my colleagues were good looking and Asian.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always thought it was Asian women that had the better responses on apps.

This. I thought the highest response rate was Asian women, particularly if good looking, employed, no kids.

That is typically applied to East Asian women, moreso than South Asian.

OP here. I think men don't like South Asian women?

It depends on the men. I've never heard anyone disparage South Asian women but yes South East Asian women are the "Asians" who are most coveted for IR dating so it seems.
OP are you fair or darker skinned? Generally speaking Indian women are not on the radar for Black men. I'm a Black woman fwiw. If you're fairer, then I don't get the lack of responses. If you're darker, sadly, that could be it.

what is IR dating? -Not op.

Interracial

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want an Indian man?

No Indian man from a decent family is going to date op seriously.

Why? Because she is divorced? Most Indian-American guys do not care about that. If she does not have kids, is good natured, comes from a good family, attractive and in a well paying job, most Indian-American single men of the same age will not care.

eligible Indian-American guys from good families 100% will care. You are crazy if you don’t think so. Yeah it’s 2022, but some things haven’t changed much.

She’s aged out and has baggage. But that is ok, she’s pretty open minded so she’s not limiting herself.

I would suggest she move out west to the Bay Area or Seattle.

The west? Are you crazy? Too much competition with people half her age. Tons of Asians (SEA and Indian) to choose from there. She is better off here or in a location where she may stand out.

Yeah, SF or Seattle would be an even worse dating market for the OP. There are so many young, successful women there, especially Asian.

The sheer overwhelming deluge of men though makes that irrelevant

The gender ratio out west is hyper skewed in favor of women

This was true in the 90s and early 2000's but not anymore.

I'm East Asian female, and lived in the Bay Area for 20 years during the tech boom. There were definitely more single men than women back then, but not anymore.

CO, however, has more men than women. I'd go there if I was really desperate to find a man. And most of them are very fit and outdoorsy. So, you'd have to be, too.

Alaska, Wyoming and Montana too. But yeah you need to be into the lifestyle

[Anonymous]

I agree with PP that it may be a good idea to change your photos. You can ask a male friend if the ones you're thinking about are the best ones. Preppy style I've found can sometimes be a little bland and asexual on women I personally find, and so a second opinion from a friend could help. Would you want to let us take a look at your profile wording? I'm sure you would get a lot of advice on here, some actually worth taking.

Also it may be the time of year, everyone's traveling, with family, etc. Now early January, there will be so many great men on apps. That's really when you will be able to go on a lot of dates as well as in the spring. Cuffing season is a real thing.

You will find a great guy- it really is a numbers game, and be willing to go on dates with older men. I met so many sweet, well established men in their 50s but then met my guy who is the same age as me.

[Anonymous]

Denver is called Menver for a reason, and the men were rugged and cute and well off! Maybe a girls' trip is in your future?