36 year old Indian woman on dating apps

[Anonymous]

I joined a dating app when I was 35 and am half Indian. I was only on it for 2 or 3 weeks before meeting my husband (also half Indian), so don’t have a lot of experience with it. You will always have “low quality” men sending messages to every profile they see and you just have to delete them and move on. Not sure what your definition of “high quality” man is, but mine was just someone who would be a good father and take care of his family sufficiently. I made plenty of money back then, so wasn’t too concerned about salary with the exception of expecting a normal middle class lifestyle. I also didn’t mention my education or my profession (physician) in my profile as I didn’t want any men just looking for a “sugar mama”. My husband and I are still married
6 years later and have our third baby on the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be all over your profile. I'm a tall, in-shape PhD with an good income, and I speak Hindi. But I am 20 years older than you...

That is too bad! I don’t care about race but my ex husband was white. I’d love to meet a marriage minded well educated white/black/Asian guy.

I am white! And marriage-minded.

[Anonymous]

You missed your boat by 10 years

Every eligible Indian-American woman I know was married before 27

Blair magnet alums, w school alums, t20 ug, t14 law, top tier medical/residencies

The ones who didn’t get married by then:

1. Ran thru/dated out since they were like 16 and worked in stuff like PR or politics

2. Were very unattractive and/or came from families of questionable background

But your typical umc Indian American woman in the dc area that was born here, went to school here, and is a MD or some other stem job…:they are off the market early

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want an Indian man?

No Indian man from a decent family is going to date op seriously.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be all over your profile. I'm a tall, in-shape PhD with an good income, and I speak Hindi. But I am 20 years older than you...

That is too bad! I don’t care about race but my ex husband was white. I’d love to meet a marriage minded well educated white/black/Asian guy.

I am white! And marriage-minded.

Op needs to seriously consider you if she is honest with herself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You missed your boat by 10 years

Every eligible Indian-American woman I know was married before 27

Blair magnet alums, w school alums, t20 ug, t14 law, top tier medical/residencies

The ones who didn’t get married by then:

1. Ran thru/dated out since they were like 16 and worked in stuff like PR or politics

2. Were very unattractive and/or came from families of questionable background

But your typical umc Indian American woman in the dc area that was born here, went to school here, and is a MD or some other stem job…:they are off the market early

Wow! You could be talking about my ABCD ( ) DD. High achieving magnet alum, well paying STEM field, good looking (slim, pretty, taller than average, athletic north Indian, well groomed, fitness buff), UMC family, started dating in college. BF is White but of similar background (intact UMC family, STEM, DMV, good looking, high paying field) and they are on track to get married in two years. I really thought that my DD will not marry until she was in her 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want an Indian man?

No Indian man from a decent family is going to date op seriously.

Why? Because she is divorced? Most Indian-American guys do not care about that. If she does not have kids, is good natured, comes from a good family, attractive and in a well paying job, most Indian-American single men of the same age will not care.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want an Indian man?

No Indian man from a decent family is going to date op seriously.

Why? Because she is divorced? Most Indian-American guys do not care about that. If she does not have kids, is good natured, comes from a good family, attractive and in a well paying job, most Indian-American single men of the same age will not care.

eligible Indian-American guys from good families 100% will care. You are crazy if you don’t think so. Yeah it’s 2022, but some things haven’t changed much.

She’s aged out and has baggage. But that is ok, she’s pretty open minded so she’s not limiting herself.

I would suggest she move out west to the Bay Area or Seattle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm also Indian, your age, and had a lot of success on Bumble and The League, who is one you have to apply to. Are you in the DC area? There were always plenty of well educated, well travelled, interesting options though I did open myself to a range of age. How are your photos and bio?

Did you end up getting married/finding a spouse on bumble/the league?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I always thought it was Asian women that had the better responses on apps.

This. I thought the highest response rate was Asian women, particularly if good looking, employed, no kids.

That is typically applied to East Asian women, moreso than South Asian.

OP here. I think men don't like South Asian women?

It depends on the men. I've never heard anyone disparage South Asian women but yes South East Asian women are the "Asians" who are most coveted for IR dating so it seems.
OP are you fair or darker skinned? Generally speaking Indian women are not on the radar for Black men. I'm a Black woman fwiw. If you're fairer, then I don't get the lack of responses. If you're darker, sadly, that could be it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want an Indian man?

No Indian man from a decent family is going to date op seriously.

Why? Because she is divorced? Most Indian-American guys do not care about that. If she does not have kids, is good natured, comes from a good family, attractive and in a well paying job, most Indian-American single men of the same age will not care.

eligible Indian-American guys from good families 100% will care. You are crazy if you don’t think so. Yeah it’s 2022, but some things haven’t changed much.

She’s aged out and has baggage. But that is ok, she’s pretty open minded so she’s not limiting herself.

I would suggest she move out west to the Bay Area or Seattle.

The west? Are you crazy? Too much competition with people half her age. Tons of Asians (SEA and Indian) to choose from there. She is better off here or in a location where she may stand out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait another Indian. What does working class mean lol? You remind me of my FOB cousins.

FYI doctors lawyers engineers are all working class. I doubt Amitabh’s progeny are chilling on DC dating apps.

We're on DCUM, you know what working class means: Low income. OP wants six figures or richer. I can only assume she makes the same but who knows.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want an Indian man?

No Indian man from a decent family is going to date op seriously.

Why? Because she is divorced? Most Indian-American guys do not care about that. If she does not have kids, is good natured, comes from a good family, attractive and in a well paying job, most Indian-American single men of the same age will not care.

eligible Indian-American guys from good families 100% will care. You are crazy if you don’t think so. Yeah it’s 2022, but some things haven’t changed much.

She’s aged out and has baggage. But that is ok, she’s pretty open minded so she’s not limiting herself.

I would suggest she move out west to the Bay Area or Seattle.

The west? Are you crazy? Too much competition with people half her age. Tons of Asians (SEA and Indian) to choose from there. She is better off here or in a location where she may stand out.

gender ratios way better out west with more guys open minded to dating older divorced Indian women

Dc is a way harder market for her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always thought it was Asian women that had the better responses on apps.

This. I thought the highest response rate was Asian women, particularly if good looking, employed, no kids.

That is typically applied to East Asian women, moreso than South Asian.

OP here. I think men don't like South Asian women?

It depends on the men. I've never heard anyone disparage South Asian women but yes South East Asian women are the "Asians" who are most coveted for IR dating so it seems.
OP are you fair or darker skinned? Generally speaking Indian women are not on the radar for Black men. I'm a Black woman fwiw. If you're fairer, then I don't get the lack of responses. If you're darker, sadly, that could be it.

Black guys (usually of West Indian heritage) will def smash Indian women - go to Queens. It isn’t uncommon.

Some would even wife her up if she’s willing to date 1st/2nd gen Jamaicans for example.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You missed your boat by 10 years

Every eligible Indian-American woman I know was married before 27

Blair magnet alums, w school alums, t20 ug, t14 law, top tier medical/residencies

The ones who didn’t get married by then:

1. Ran thru/dated out since they were like 16 and worked in stuff like PR or politics

2. Were very unattractive and/or came from families of questionable background

But your typical umc Indian American woman in the dc area that was born here, went to school here, and is a MD or some other stem job…:they are off the market early

Wow! You could be talking about my ABCD ( ) DD. High achieving magnet alum, well paying STEM field, good looking (slim, pretty, taller than average, athletic north Indian, well groomed, fitness buff), UMC family, started dating in college. BF is White but of similar background (intact UMC family, STEM, DMV, good looking, high paying field) and they are on track to get married in two years. I really thought that my DD will not marry until she was in her 30s.

Wow so much snark! I am an attractive well educated ( Ivy) and high earning (120k) woman who was married to an umc white well educated high earning man at 27! Bad fortune and mental illness derailed my marriage.

Hope your perfect daughter doesn’t encounter any misfortune as you’ll apparently think she’s faulty.