36 year old Indian woman on dating apps

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Anonymous wrote:I always thought it was Asian women that had the better responses on apps.

This. I thought the highest response rate was Asian women, particularly if good looking, employed, no kids.

That is typically applied to East Asian women, moreso than South Asian.

OP here. I think men don't like South Asian women?

It depends on the men. I've never heard anyone disparage South Asian women but yes South East Asian women are the "Asians" who are most coveted for IR dating so it seems.
OP are you fair or darker skinned? Generally speaking Indian women are not on the radar for Black men. I'm a Black woman fwiw. If you're fairer, then I don't get the lack of responses. If you're darker, sadly, that could be it.

I am fair ( olive skin and dark hair) slender frame with preppy/classic style. People do not think I am indian

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You missed your boat by 10 years

Every eligible Indian-American woman I know was married before 27

Blair magnet alums, w school alums, t20 ug, t14 law, top tier medical/residencies

The ones who didn’t get married by then:

1. Ran thru/dated out since they were like 16 and worked in stuff like PR or politics

2. Were very unattractive and/or came from families of questionable background

But your typical umc Indian American woman in the dc area that was born here, went to school here, and is a MD or some other stem job…:they are off the market early

Wow! You could be talking about my ABCD ( ) DD. High achieving magnet alum, well paying STEM field, good looking (slim, pretty, taller than average, athletic north Indian, well groomed, fitness buff), UMC family, started dating in college. BF is White but of similar background (intact UMC family, STEM, DMV, good looking, high paying field) and they are on track to get married in two years. I really thought that my DD will not marry until she was in her 30s.

Wow so much snark! I am an attractive well educated ( Ivy) and high earning (120k) woman who was married to an umc white well educated high earning man at 27! Bad fortune and mental illness derailed my marriage.

Hope your perfect daughter doesn’t encounter any misfortune as you’ll apparently think she’s faulty.

Are you op?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always thought it was Asian women that had the better responses on apps.

This. I thought the highest response rate was Asian women, particularly if good looking, employed, no kids.

That is typically applied to East Asian women, moreso than South Asian.

OP here. I think men don't like South Asian women?

It depends on the men. I've never heard anyone disparage South Asian women but yes South East Asian women are the "Asians" who are most coveted for IR dating so it seems.
OP are you fair or darker skinned? Generally speaking Indian women are not on the radar for Black men. I'm a Black woman fwiw. If you're fairer, then I don't get the lack of responses. If you're darker, sadly, that could be it.

I am fair ( olive skin and dark hair) slender frame with preppy/classic style. People do not think I am indian

Do your white friends do better on the market? I doubt it.

I don’t think you are comparing yourself to white women of your age and baggage level but you are subconsciously comparing yourself to when you were 25

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Working class? The horror!

“Low quality” suggests troll

Not OP and she doesn’t sound even close to a troll. Hang around Indians for a while and you will see just how important class is - especially to their parents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Working class? The horror!

“Low quality” suggests troll

Not OP and she doesn’t sound even close to a troll. Hang around Indians for a while and you will see just how important class is - especially to their parents.

Op already married out, it’s not like she is “traditional” so not sure why she’s getting hung up on ses.

I could set op with some some Jamaican dudes from Queens who would blow her back out. She’d be speaking patois by the end of the week 🤣

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Working class? The horror!

“Low quality” suggests troll

Not OP and she doesn’t sound even close to a troll. Hang around Indians for a while and you will see just how important class is - especially to their parents.

Op already married out, it’s not like she is “traditional” so not sure why she’s getting hung up on ses.

I could set op with some some Jamaican dudes from Queens who would blow her back out. She’d be speaking patois by the end of the week 🤣

The way I laughed at the truth of this (I'm a woman)....more so the fact that I too personally think you'd simply do better in NYC. Change your bumble settings and be willing to hop on the Amtrak.

[Anonymous]

Oh it’s the Indian woman obsessed with being “preppy” who claims she could pass for white…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You missed your boat by 10 years

Every eligible Indian-American woman I know was married before 27

Blair magnet alums, w school alums, t20 ug, t14 law, top tier medical/residencies

The ones who didn’t get married by then:

1. Ran thru/dated out since they were like 16 and worked in stuff like PR or politics

2. Were very unattractive and/or came from families of questionable background

But your typical umc Indian American woman in the dc area that was born here, went to school here, and is a MD or some other stem job…:they are off the market early

Wow! You could be talking about my ABCD ( ) DD. High achieving magnet alum, well paying STEM field, good looking (slim, pretty, taller than average, athletic north Indian, well groomed, fitness buff), UMC family, started dating in college. BF is White but of similar background (intact UMC family, STEM, DMV, good looking, high paying field) and they are on track to get married in two years. I really thought that my DD will not marry until she was in her 30s.

Really weird when mothers talk about their daughters like they're prize hogs at the state fair. Also, "on track" means nothing. He may run off with a petite, curvy redhead at any time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh it’s the Indian woman obsessed with being “preppy” who claims she could pass for white…

She posts here ALL. THE. TIME.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You missed your boat by 10 years

Every eligible Indian-American woman I know was married before 27

Blair magnet alums, w school alums, t20 ug, t14 law, top tier medical/residencies

The ones who didn’t get married by then:

1. Ran thru/dated out since they were like 16 and worked in stuff like PR or politics

2. Were very unattractive and/or came from families of questionable background

But your typical umc Indian American woman in the dc area that was born here, went to school here, and is a MD or some other stem job…:they are off the market early

Wow! You could be talking about my ABCD ( ) DD. High achieving magnet alum, well paying STEM field, good looking (slim, pretty, taller than average, athletic north Indian, well groomed, fitness buff), UMC family, started dating in college. BF is White but of similar background (intact UMC family, STEM, DMV, good looking, high paying field) and they are on track to get married in two years. I really thought that my DD will not marry until she was in her 30s.

Really weird when mothers talk about their daughters like they're prize hogs at the state fair. Also, "on track" means nothing. He may run off with a petite, curvy redhead at any time.

Indian women give hall passes to their so’s all the time.

He’ll get to have the best of both worlds

[Anonymous]

I doubt OP was married to UMC white man. Otherwise, she would be able to find dates through her social circle and network instead of relying on dating apps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I doubt OP was married to UMC white man. Otherwise, she would be able to find dates through her social circle and network instead of relying on dating apps.

Lotta introvert stem umc white guys out there also.

It’s not implausible

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want an Indian man?

No Indian man from a decent family is going to date op seriously.

Why? Because she is divorced? Most Indian-American guys do not care about that. If she does not have kids, is good natured, comes from a good family, attractive and in a well paying job, most Indian-American single men of the same age will not care.

eligible Indian-American guys from good families 100% will care. You are crazy if you don’t think so. Yeah it’s 2022, but some things haven’t changed much.

She’s aged out and has baggage. But that is ok, she’s pretty open minded so she’s not limiting herself.

I would suggest she move out west to the Bay Area or Seattle.

The west? Are you crazy? Too much competition with people half her age. Tons of Asians (SEA and Indian) to choose from there. She is better off here or in a location where she may stand out.

Yeah, SF or Seattle would be an even worse dating market for the OP. There are so many young, successful women there, especially Asian.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want an Indian man?

No Indian man from a decent family is going to date op seriously.

Why? Because she is divorced? Most Indian-American guys do not care about that. If she does not have kids, is good natured, comes from a good family, attractive and in a well paying job, most Indian-American single men of the same age will not care.

eligible Indian-American guys from good families 100% will care. You are crazy if you don’t think so. Yeah it’s 2022, but some things haven’t changed much.

She’s aged out and has baggage. But that is ok, she’s pretty open minded so she’s not limiting herself.

I would suggest she move out west to the Bay Area or Seattle.

The west? Are you crazy? Too much competition with people half her age. Tons of Asians (SEA and Indian) to choose from there. She is better off here or in a location where she may stand out.

Yeah, SF or Seattle would be an even worse dating market for the OP. There are so many young, successful women there, especially Asian.

The sheer overwhelming deluge of men though makes that irrelevant

The gender ratio out west is hyper skewed in favor of women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You missed your boat by 10 years

Every eligible Indian-American woman I know was married before 27

Blair magnet alums, w school alums, t20 ug, t14 law, top tier medical/residencies

The ones who didn’t get married by then:

1. Ran thru/dated out since they were like 16 and worked in stuff like PR or politics

2. Were very unattractive and/or came from families of questionable background

But your typical umc Indian American woman in the dc area that was born here, went to school here, and is a MD or some other stem job…:they are off the market early

Wow! You could be talking about my ABCD ( ) DD. High achieving magnet alum, well paying STEM field, good looking (slim, pretty, taller than average, athletic north Indian, well groomed, fitness buff), UMC family, started dating in college. BF is White but of similar background (intact UMC family, STEM, DMV, good looking, high paying field) and they are on track to get married in two years. I really thought that my DD will not marry until she was in her 30s.

Wow so much snark! I am an attractive well educated ( Ivy) and high earning (120k) woman who was married to an umc white well educated high earning man at 27! Bad fortune and mental illness derailed my marriage.

Hope your perfect daughter doesn’t encounter any misfortune as you’ll apparently think she’s faulty.

You haven’t been on DCUM long if you think $120k is high earning.