Found husband drunk texting women on Tinder, again

[Anonymous]

Leave and if you want children, freeze your eggs. And/or freeze with a sperm donor for embryos.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he's just not that into you. Reason enough to move on, drunk sexting or "wedding" other women or not.

Also sounds like you are totally a troll.

[Anonymous]

If this is real, run as fast you can and don't look back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re that young, just leave. No point in dealing with it for the rest of your life.

This. Btdt

[Anonymous]

Again? Well, you already know what you're going to do, again...

[Anonymous]

You can’t do the work to fix this. I know you want to find some way to work hard and get the man you used to know back. But he broke it, he has to fix it. All you can do is take care of yourself. Separate, live apart, get a lawyer, get into individual counseling. Let him do what he needs to do without your help. He has to put in more effort than you if he really wants to fix this.

So you start living your life without him. You get the divorce decree completed. And you see how much effort he is putting into fixing things. Based on that you can decide to file or not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m realizing he has a serial addiction problem whether it is alcohol or sexting other women or cheating. He has given up alcohol for the most part but when he has one drink he cannot seem to stop and every time he is drinking heavily he winds up on Tinder sexting random women. The other weird thing is, he has a woman who is a friend of his family that he has known his he was a kid. She is a hot mess. College drop out, unemployed, heavy into party culture. She is mentally unstable and is a curvy suggestively dressed woman with no boundaries. Over the years I have found him wedding her when he is drunk. To my knowledge they have never hooked up as that would create a huge family drama for his and her family. But similar to her all the women he messages are big and curvy with a trashy look to them. I’m petite and small and preppy-looking. I don’t even think he’s attracted to me or that I am his type
I’m ranting. I’ve been up all night.

You gave us all the information except the piece that matters: do you have kids with this man?

No. Was hoping to TTC.

Get oooooooooout

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m realizing he has a serial addiction problem whether it is alcohol or sexting other women or cheating. He has given up alcohol for the most part but when he has one drink he cannot seem to stop and every time he is drinking heavily he winds up on Tinder sexting random women. The other weird thing is, he has a woman who is a friend of his family that he has known his he was a kid. She is a hot mess. College drop out, unemployed, heavy into party culture. She is mentally unstable and is a curvy suggestively dressed woman with no boundaries. Over the years I have found him wedding her when he is drunk. To my knowledge they have never hooked up as that would create a huge family drama for his and her family. But similar to her all the women he messages are big and curvy with a trashy look to them. I’m petite and small and preppy-looking. I don’t even think he’s attracted to me or that I am his type
I’m ranting. I’ve been up all night.

You gave us all the information except the piece that matters: do you have kids with this man?

No. Was hoping to TTC.

Get oooooooooout

Seriously. When he does this after kid(s) are born, and you finally divorce, he’ll get 50% custody. Sucks. Save yourself the heartache and get out now. You are worth it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m realizing he has a serial addiction problem whether it is alcohol or sexting other women or cheating. He has given up alcohol for the most part but when he has one drink he cannot seem to stop and every time he is drinking heavily he winds up on Tinder sexting random women. The other weird thing is, he has a woman who is a friend of his family that he has known his he was a kid. She is a hot mess. College drop out, unemployed, heavy into party culture. She is mentally unstable and is a curvy suggestively dressed woman with no boundaries. Over the years I have found him wedding her when he is drunk. To my knowledge they have never hooked up as that would create a huge family drama for his and her family. But similar to her all the women he messages are big and curvy with a trashy look to them. I’m petite and small and preppy-looking. I don’t even think he’s attracted to me or that I am his type
I’m ranting. I’ve been up all night.

You gave us all the information except the piece that matters: do you have kids with this man?

No. Was hoping to TTC.

Get oooooooooout

Seriously. When he does this after kid(s) are born, and you finally divorce, he’ll get 50% custody. Sucks. Save yourself the heartache and get out now. You are worth it.

+100

It’s hard to leave but it will be much, much harder if you stay.

[Anonymous]

Leave leave leave.

There can be second chances, but not 3rd, 4th , etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m realizing he has a serial addiction problem whether it is alcohol or sexting other women or cheating. He has given up alcohol for the most part but when he has one drink he cannot seem to stop and every time he is drinking heavily he winds up on Tinder sexting random women. The other weird thing is, he has a woman who is a friend of his family that he has known his he was a kid. She is a hot mess. College drop out, unemployed, heavy into party culture. She is mentally unstable and is a curvy suggestively dressed woman with no boundaries. Over the years I have found him wedding her when he is drunk. To my knowledge they have never hooked up as that would create a huge family drama for his and her family. But similar to her all the women he messages are big and curvy with a trashy look to them. I’m petite and small and preppy-looking. I don’t even think he’s attracted to me or that I am his type
I’m ranting. I’ve been up all night.

You gave us all the information except the piece that matters: do you have kids with this man?

No. Was hoping to TTC.

Get oooooooooout

Seriously. When he does this after kid(s) are born, and you finally divorce, he’ll get 50% custody. Sucks. Save yourself the heartache and get out now. You are worth it.

+100

It’s hard to leave but it will be much, much harder if you stay.

+1 most definitely

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I’m realizing he has a serial addiction problem whether it is alcohol or sexting other women or cheating. He has given up alcohol for the most part but when he has one drink he cannot seem to stop and every time he is drinking heavily he winds up on Tinder sexting random women. The other weird thing is, he has a woman who is a friend of his family that he has known his he was a kid. She is a hot mess. College drop out, unemployed, heavy into party culture. She is mentally unstable and is a curvy suggestively dressed woman with no boundaries. Over the years I have found him wedding her when he is drunk. To my knowledge they have never hooked up as that would create a huge family drama for his and her family. But similar to her all the women he messages are big and curvy with a trashy look to them. I’m petite and small and preppy-looking. I don’t even think he’s attracted to me or that I am his type
I’m ranting. I’ve been up all night.

You say he is an addict but then say it is “weird” that he can’t stop at one drink.
That is what makes someone an alcoholic (in part) —they cannot control how much they drink, despite the problems it is causing.

You should get therapy if you are at all debating leaving this guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids?

If not, leave immediately.

The kids are irrelevant. Just leave.

[Anonymous]

Huge Freudian slip about the long time friend girl—you said he was “wedding” her
Leave

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Leave. How is this a question.

+1 I mean this in a nice way, OP.. why do you have such little self respect for yourself?

Stop being a jerk. There's no "nice way" to ask someone why they have such little self-respect for themselves. That was the most insensitive question you could've asked a wife who is probably devastated by this new finding. You are a part of the problem in the world these days. Have some compassion.