If you are an ordinary dual income professional family at a Big3 how inclusive is the community?

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Anonymous wrote:Considering Big 3 for HS. The few people we know with kids in private have not had a good experience socially. They say there are cliques of wealthy who dominate the PTA and that parents who come in 9th will never really be accepted by other parents. Is this true for most people? How does it affect the kids?

Have definitely heard of parents like this at STA but not really on the PA- have heard they are more concentrated on certain sports teams.

Op choose wisely and yes ask your fronds at schools. Good luck.

Which sports are like this?

lacrosse, esp. in 8th grade

STA? Have heard some of the varsity parents can be vicious. Very divisive within their grade.

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Have heard or experienced? So extremely weird if you are just passing along 3rd party gossip.

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Anonymous wrote:Considering Big 3 for HS. The few people we know with kids in private have not had a good experience socially. They say there are cliques of wealthy who dominate the PTA and that parents who come in 9th will never really be accepted by other parents. Is this true for most people? How does it affect the kids?

Have definitely heard of parents like this at STA but not really on the PA- have heard they are more concentrated on certain sports teams.

Op choose wisely and yes ask your fronds at schools. Good luck.

Which sports are like this?

lacrosse, esp. in 8th grade

STA? Have heard some of the varsity parents can be vicious. Very divisive within their grade.

m

Have heard or experienced? So extremely weird if you are just passing along 3rd party gossip.

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OP you are right in asking those questions. Every parent does seek a community for their children at school. That is not too much to ask. You are not looking for friend but a community in general. Mostly children select their own friends having said that they are certain moms who still control the social life of their children even though their children dislike it. But in the end your child will find her people. I think diappointment comes to those folks who are interested in making friends with a certain group of parents. Every school has its ups and downs but trust me your child will find their friends.

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Anonymous wrote:Joined a big 3 in when DC was in 4th and do not find the PA to be dominated by money types (grandparent pays for private school--we could never afford it on our own.) The massive PA, which consists of many subcommittees, so far has been my best source of people I like. They're down-to-earth and care about the child and family experience. I wouldn't be surprised if I heard there was a big social scene that I wasn't part of, but I didn't care about it in high school and I don't care about it now.

Do you realize that by having grandparents who pay tuition that you, in fact, are a money type way more than people dependant on their jobs to pay tuition?

NP. I know, right? The irony…