It sounds like income is too high for medicaid. |
This is a terrible way to exist, she's not really living. Are they forcefully feeding her? She's ready to go. |
They keep them alive for money, this is why. This poor woman has been gone for years now. |
Keep her where she is. But start looking for another spot in case it goes up in a year again. But once my mom started to lose weight she died within a year. |
Do you live in MD? They have a small benefit- like $650 a month. |
Yes, her current pension+SS puts her above Medicaid. However, at age 88, she qualifies for Medicare. If she is not receiving Medicare, then OP should talk to the financial department of the facility about filing for Medicare and then using the combined pension/SS to pay for the costs over the Medicare rate. Medicare could be able to bridge between what OP's mother can afford and their costs. Typically when places avoid Medicare it is because the patients are only relying on Medicare and facilities often cannot operate only on the amount that Medicare pays. But if they can register her as a Medicate patient and allow the patient to supplement the Medicare costs out of pocket, then that could allow her to stay in the same facility. OP--if you have not, you definitely need to talk to the financial department and inquire about the possibility of filing for Medicare for your mother. |
Hi op. If you’d like to place, I would keep her there. A lot of those places are terrible. Also factor in the gas and time would take for you to visit if she was hours away. Also does she have Social Security? I think the cost-of-living adjustment this year is going to be huge. I saw a headline that it was something like 10%. Is her pension also tied to cost of living adjustment?
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Some of you are out-of-touch. Inflation for goods and services is averaging close to 13% year-over-year when you include medical supplies, food, office supplies, housekeeping supplies and the assorted costs for running a large business. With higher gas prices, EVERYTHING costs a lot more now because the costs of shipping and freight are factored into all pricing. Add in that many states (including MD) are raising minimum wage, you have a ton of increased prices for businesses to bear just to maintain the status quo and keep in business. While the nursing staff are not minimum wage, there are probably a lot of the clerical, housekeeping, and building maintenance staff that are paid at or near minimum wage and will be getting wage increases based on state law. Additionally, when minimum wages are raised, business often have to raise the higher salaries to keep them commensurately higher than the lowest paid employees or you will not retain the skilled staff that you have. I can easily see how it costs that much more year-over-year compared to last year. My household and business costs are going up. Everything we purchase at work is more expensive and wages are rising. You don't want to hear that the facility has to scrimp and cut corners or cut back on services for the residents due to trying to meet rising costs. So, you can discuss financial aid, including possibly gradually increasing the costs rather than a sharp rise, but don't be surprised if they claim they cannot. And definitely don't be belligerent like the "Damn right" PP. |
I agree completely with this, based on experience with dying relatives. |
I think anyone who’s been through losing someone to dementia would tell you that force feeding someone who’s nonverbal is cruelty. |
Not only is it ethical it is humane. Would you want to be 90 and catatonic with dementia and "live" in that condition for years? |
Anyone want to share dementia care locations in DC that are under 6k? |
Wow, how can you think this? There are so many people looking for a memory care beds that there is a steady stream of replacements easily available. So no, they don't need to keep anyone alive for money. |
OP - do you have any family members who can help contribute to her care? Even if they are just contributing 50 -100 a year that could add up if it's from a few people. |
I doubt one exists. |