How much do I have to discuss with Ex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes you should have consulted him. If he were living at home you most certainly would have asked him. It’s called co-parenting. The first sleepover was a big deal in my house. We have a 8 year DD and my DH and I discussed it at length. We knew the mom but not the dad of the little girl. The anger in Your tone regarding the divorce is coming through loud and clear. He will always be the dad. Don’t cut him out of stuff that could have been handled in a text. Think about how you will feel when he does something when your child is at his new house and doesn’t consult you. This will happen and you will be on here saying that you can’t believe your ExH didn’t talk to you first.

+100

This is a really good advice. Do everything keeping in mind what's good for your kid. Him knowing about the sleep-over is going to understand his daughter's needs and respect you more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any parent who has given up custody can’t control what the custodial parent does. Giving up custody is horrendous.

Just remember if you choose not to communicate what Dad does on his time is also none of your business.

Oh, stop trying to mommy shame her.
He's the one who said he didn't want 50/50 custody.
She's the one who's there being responsible day in and day out.

Yet you're SO eager to not only allow this "part-time-at-best" dad off the responsibility hook, you want to give the man even more control, even though he's not giving his kids everything he has as far as visitation.

Women like you SUCK... you always find a way to let daddy be free, but shame mommy for being the responsible one.

You are wrong here. It is not about what parents want but what's good for the kind and the more information both parent share, better it is for the kids.