My mom claims that my grandma made her ride the bus by herself when she was three years old

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5 years old bus to the beach for swim lessons

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In Canada? I was roaming the neighborhood freely at 3 years old in Canada, too. Definitely don't have PTSD. Maybe something else happened to your grandma and she's blaming her mom's lack of supervision?

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Anonymous wrote:In Canada? I was roaming the neighborhood freely at 3 years old in Canada, too. Definitely don't have PTSD. Maybe something else happened to your grandma and she's blaming her mom's lack of supervision?

I agree. My dd was 3 in Canadian preschool, our private had no busses, but plenty of others had busses. Started PreK when 4, but only bcs she is a July baby.

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So def not 3, but when I was 8 and my sister was 11 (early 1980's), we lived off Western Ave on the DC side. We took that Metrobus and then transferred on Connecticut Ave down to Macomb and then walked to school. It took a loooong time and we were new to DC, new to cities, etc. I can't imagine my own two doing that at those ages, even though they are super independent and responsible. I just think times were different back then.

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Anonymous wrote:In Canada? I was roaming the neighborhood freely at 3 years old in Canada, too. Definitely don't have PTSD. Maybe something else happened to your grandma and she's blaming her mom's lack of supervision?

I agree. My dd was 3 in Canadian preschool, our private had no busses, but plenty of others had busses. Started PreK when 4, but only bcs she is a July baby.

Busses are kisses.

Buses are vehicles.

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I would obviously never do this, but FWIW my 4yo could totally take a bus if that was safe/acceptable and be able to get off at the correct stop.

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Anonymous wrote:I think your mom is misremembering things.

+1. She would not be able to remember those details at 3.

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Anonymous wrote:I think your mom is misremembering things.

+1. She would not be able to remember those details at 3.

I remember being 3. I went to preschool in the afternoon, and recall turning up there after a well-child check up. The community nurse doing the check-up had a very racist money box - a face that swallowed a coin. My husband says there is no way I can remember being 4 either, but I can draw a map of the layout of the same preschool that I attended mornings from age 4 and never visited afterwards. I recall many details of that class - the umbrella stencil marking my locker, the apples for snack time, the teacher's name, the different play stations, the outdoor swimming pool - really. I remember being with my grandparents every afternoon and going to the store for ice cream.

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I could imagine that back in the day mom might put a little kid on the bus for a short ride and tell the driver to let her off at a certain stop where there would be someone waiting.

I have clear memories from age 3 AND I've had people tell me that some of the no-longer-acceptable things my 70s hippie mom did couldn't have possibly happened-but they did.

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Your Mom should see a therapist and let it go

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think your mom is misremembering things.

+1. She would not be able to remember those details at 3.

I remember being 3. I went to preschool in the afternoon, and recall turning up there after a well-child check up. The community nurse doing the check-up had a very racist money box - a face that swallowed a coin. My husband says there is no way I can remember being 4 either, but I can draw a map of the layout of the same preschool that I attended mornings from age 4 and never visited afterwards. I recall many details of that class - the umbrella stencil marking my locker, the apples for snack time, the teacher's name, the different play stations, the outdoor swimming pool - really. I remember being with my grandparents every afternoon and going to the store for ice cream.

Sure, pp.

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Anonymous wrote:I could imagine that back in the day mom might put a little kid on the bus for a short ride and tell the driver to let her off at a certain stop where there would be someone waiting.

I have clear memories from age 3 AND I've had people tell me that some of the no-longer-acceptable things my 70s hippie mom did couldn't have possibly happened-but they did.

Putting your child on a dedicated school bus with other young children and a school bus driver is entirely different than having your 3 year take public transportation.

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Anonymous wrote:I could imagine that back in the day mom might put a little kid on the bus for a short ride and tell the driver to let her off at a certain stop where there would be someone waiting.

I have clear memories from age 3 AND I've had people tell me that some of the no-longer-acceptable things my 70s hippie mom did couldn't have possibly happened-but they did.

Yes, yes you do. You so remember everything from when you were 3 years old. Do you also remember being on Mars?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In Canada? I was roaming the neighborhood freely at 3 years old in Canada, too. Definitely don't have PTSD. Maybe something else happened to your grandma and she's blaming her mom's lack of supervision?

I agree. My dd was 3 in Canadian preschool, our private had no busses, but plenty of others had busses. Started PreK when 4, but only bcs she is a July baby.

Busses are kisses.

Buses are vehicles.

Thank you so much. We all learn so much from you, DCUM language marm, every time you interrupt a thread.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could imagine that back in the day mom might put a little kid on the bus for a short ride and tell the driver to let her off at a certain stop where there would be someone waiting.

I have clear memories from age 3 AND I've had people tell me that some of the no-longer-acceptable things my 70s hippie mom did couldn't have possibly happened-but they did.

Yes, yes you do. You so remember everything from when you were 3 years old. Do you also remember being on Mars?

NP - some people really can do this. It's one of the things that makes implanted memories more plausible. My kid, for example, has, unprompted, referenced a few things he did when we last visited my home country, and they were specific things that a child would've cared about (e.g his grandfather got him plastic toy tank, an event I barely remember myself); he was three at the time. My mother-in-law can reach back even further.

As for me, one of my earliest memories was my mom pointing out someone and saying "Look, it's your local-equivalent-of-a-kindergarten-teacher from last year!" and then having a pleasant chat with the lady. I would have sworn I had never seen that person before in all my life.