Waiting for marriage

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I never had “casual” sex as in a ONS and I always took my time getting to know someone first. I had four partners over about six years before my DH and it really helped me understand what I was looking for in that aspect of a relationship. Some men are takers, others are givers. Some will work hard to really please you and others just want to be pleased. While my sample size was pretty small it really helped me out so when I started having sex with my now DH I realized that this guy really gets it. Those prior experiences also gave me good insight into what men like which on reflection is pretty obvious.

? 5 is not a small number.

5 is pretty small. Very small. Anything under 10 is pretty small in terms of numbers.

And she was not referring to her number. She was referring to a sample size of 5 (which is applied generally to men), which is a tiny sample size. You don't understand scientific terms.

And you also don't understand that many people have more than 5 partners...and that is not a lot compared to A LOT of people.

5 is more than the average number of sexual partners for a woman. Most women have less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never had “casual” sex as in a ONS and I always took my time getting to know someone first. I had four partners over about six years before my DH and it really helped me understand what I was looking for in that aspect of a relationship. Some men are takers, others are givers. Some will work hard to really please you and others just want to be pleased. While my sample size was pretty small it really helped me out so when I started having sex with my now DH I realized that this guy really gets it. Those prior experiences also gave me good insight into what men like which on reflection is pretty obvious.

? 5 is not a small number.

5 is pretty small. Very small. Anything under 10 is pretty small in terms of numbers.

And she was not referring to her number. She was referring to a sample size of 5 (which is applied generally to men), which is a tiny sample size. You don't understand scientific terms.

And you also don't understand that many people have more than 5 partners...and that is not a lot compared to A LOT of people.

5 is more than the average number of sexual partners for a woman. Most women have less.

25 years ago in college every woman I know had more than 10 partners. I had one at the time. Most men I know have more than 50. I'm in my mid-40s. I don't know where you are getting your numbers from.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never had “casual” sex as in a ONS and I always took my time getting to know someone first. I had four partners over about six years before my DH and it really helped me understand what I was looking for in that aspect of a relationship. Some men are takers, others are givers. Some will work hard to really please you and others just want to be pleased. While my sample size was pretty small it really helped me out so when I started having sex with my now DH I realized that this guy really gets it. Those prior experiences also gave me good insight into what men like which on reflection is pretty obvious.

? 5 is not a small number.

5 is pretty small. Very small. Anything under 10 is pretty small in terms of numbers.

And she was not referring to her number. She was referring to a sample size of 5 (which is applied generally to men), which is a tiny sample size. You don't understand scientific terms.

And you also don't understand that many people have more than 5 partners...and that is not a lot compared to A LOT of people.

5 is more than the average number of sexual partners for a woman. Most women have less.

25 years ago in college every woman I know had more than 10 partners. I had one at the time. Most men I know have more than 50. I'm in my mid-40s. I don't know where you are getting your numbers from.

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n-keystat.htm

Every woman you knew had 10 sexual partners? And men have over 50? This sounds like wishful thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never had “casual” sex as in a ONS and I always took my time getting to know someone first. I had four partners over about six years before my DH and it really helped me understand what I was looking for in that aspect of a relationship. Some men are takers, others are givers. Some will work hard to really please you and others just want to be pleased. While my sample size was pretty small it really helped me out so when I started having sex with my now DH I realized that this guy really gets it. Those prior experiences also gave me good insight into what men like which on reflection is pretty obvious.

? 5 is not a small number.

5 is pretty small. Very small. Anything under 10 is pretty small in terms of numbers.

And she was not referring to her number. She was referring to a sample size of 5 (which is applied generally to men), which is a tiny sample size. You don't understand scientific terms.

And you also don't understand that many people have more than 5 partners...and that is not a lot compared to A LOT of people.

5 is more than the average number of sexual partners for a woman. Most women have less.

This report revealed that the average number of sexual partners is this:
The report found the limit of past sexual partners for women was 14 and 15.2 for men.
surveyed over 2000 people in the US and Europe
https://au.lifestyle.yahoo.com/average-number-of-sexual-partners-for-men-and-women-revealed-32142946.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never had “casual” sex as in a ONS and I always took my time getting to know someone first. I had four partners over about six years before my DH and it really helped me understand what I was looking for in that aspect of a relationship. Some men are takers, others are givers. Some will work hard to really please you and others just want to be pleased. While my sample size was pretty small it really helped me out so when I started having sex with my now DH I realized that this guy really gets it. Those prior experiences also gave me good insight into what men like which on reflection is pretty obvious.

? 5 is not a small number.

5 is pretty small. Very small. Anything under 10 is pretty small in terms of numbers.

And she was not referring to her number. She was referring to a sample size of 5 (which is applied generally to men), which is a tiny sample size. You don't understand scientific terms.

And you also don't understand that many people have more than 5 partners...and that is not a lot compared to A LOT of people.

5 is more than the average number of sexual partners for a woman. Most women have less.

25 years ago in college every woman I know had more than 10 partners. I had one at the time. Most men I know have more than 50. I'm in my mid-40s. I don't know where you are getting your numbers from.

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/nsfg/key_statistics/n-keystat.htm

Every woman you knew had 10 sexual partners? And men have over 50? This sounds like wishful thinking.

In my early 20s, yes, most women I asked said more than 10...I had 1 then. I am not in my mid 40s at at 9. I am divorced. Four were after my divorce. I know several men with over 50 partners. They are now in their 40s. It is not wishful thinking...they had a lot of one night stands. That can add up quickly. It's gross but it happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never had “casual” sex as in a ONS and I always took my time getting to know someone first. I had four partners over about six years before my DH and it really helped me understand what I was looking for in that aspect of a relationship. Some men are takers, others are givers. Some will work hard to really please you and others just want to be pleased. While my sample size was pretty small it really helped me out so when I started having sex with my now DH I realized that this guy really gets it. Those prior experiences also gave me good insight into what men like which on reflection is pretty obvious.

? 5 is not a small number.

5 is pretty small. Very small. Anything under 10 is pretty small in terms of numbers.

And she was not referring to her number. She was referring to a sample size of 5 (which is applied generally to men), which is a tiny sample size. You don't understand scientific terms.

And you also don't understand that many people have more than 5 partners...and that is not a lot compared to A LOT of people.

5 is more than the average number of sexual partners for a woman. Most women have less.

This report revealed that the average number of sexual partners is this:
The report found the limit of past sexual partners for women was 14 and 15.2 for men.
surveyed over 2000 people in the US and Europe
Did you read it? The theoretical upper limit for a partner you would date is 14 and 15. The CDC shows the average number of sexual partners for women is 4.
https://au.lifestyle.yahoo.com/average-number-of-sexual-partners-for-men-and-women-revealed-32142946.html

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I dated my college sweetheart for several years and married him when I was 25. Both of us were virgins on our wedding night. Happily married for 35 years now. I think that waiting for sex till we were 25 made us appreciative of sex and we both have high libido.

Contrary to popular opinion, not having had sex with other people did not hamper us. We are self-taught (duh... not rocket science), adventurous, curious, high libido and we came into the marriage without any baggage. In fact I am shocked to discover on DCUM that people go years in a marriage without having sex!!

We have a great, uninhibited sex life even now. Maybe all the sexual deprivation of early years have made a life-long impact. Anyways, knowing that neither of us had other sexual partners or will have other sexual partners is very comforting and frankly a confidence booster - especially since our bodies change due to pregnancies and aging.

do you orgasm?

Why wouldn't she just because she didn't have sex before marriage? What a stupid comment

does the question imply she would not? I just happen to ask, if so, her marriage is perfect … jumpy beans

You were looking for a gotcha to see waiting is bad

the probability is still 50-50 until she answers so no gotcha and the question was not for you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dated my college sweetheart for several years and married him when I was 25. Both of us were virgins on our wedding night. Happily married for 35 years now. I think that waiting for sex till we were 25 made us appreciative of sex and we both have high libido.

Contrary to popular opinion, not having had sex with other people did not hamper us. We are self-taught (duh... not rocket science), adventurous, curious, high libido and we came into the marriage without any baggage. In fact I am shocked to discover on DCUM that people go years in a marriage without having sex!!

We have a great, uninhibited sex life even now. Maybe all the sexual deprivation of early years have made a life-long impact. Anyways, knowing that neither of us had other sexual partners or will have other sexual partners is very comforting and frankly a confidence booster - especially since our bodies change due to pregnancies and aging.

do you orgasm?

also, did you abstain from everything or just piv?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dated my college sweetheart for several years and married him when I was 25. Both of us were virgins on our wedding night. Happily married for 35 years now. I think that waiting for sex till we were 25 made us appreciative of sex and we both have high libido.

Contrary to popular opinion, not having had sex with other people did not hamper us. We are self-taught (duh... not rocket science), adventurous, curious, high libido and we came into the marriage without any baggage. In fact I am shocked to discover on DCUM that people go years in a marriage without having sex!!

We have a great, uninhibited sex life even now. Maybe all the sexual deprivation of early years have made a life-long impact. Anyways, knowing that neither of us had other sexual partners or will have other sexual partners is very comforting and frankly a confidence booster - especially since our bodies change due to pregnancies and aging.

Not to derail but it’s a comfort to know libido can remain high after menopause. Are you on HRT?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never had “casual” sex as in a ONS and I always took my time getting to know someone first. I had four partners over about six years before my DH and it really helped me understand what I was looking for in that aspect of a relationship. Some men are takers, others are givers. Some will work hard to really please you and others just want to be pleased. While my sample size was pretty small it really helped me out so when I started having sex with my now DH I realized that this guy really gets it. Those prior experiences also gave me good insight into what men like which on reflection is pretty obvious.

? 5 is not a small number.

5 is pretty small. Very small. Anything under 10 is pretty small in terms of numbers.

And she was not referring to her number. She was referring to a sample size of 5 (which is applied generally to men), which is a tiny sample size. You don't understand scientific terms.

And you also don't understand that many people have more than 5 partners...and that is not a lot compared to A LOT of people.

5 is more than the average number of sexual partners for a woman. Most women have less.

DP. Not in my circle. We all married between 30-35 and dated quite a bit before meeting our spouses.

[Anonymous]

We met in college and dated for 3 months before having sex. I was a virgin (he wasn’t) but was patient with me and I was the one who gave the green light at 3 months. We were already in a committed relationship at that point. We dated 4 years, then married, and have been happily married 18 years now.

We are not religious, I was just not into casual sex, and I realize my situation isn’t common. My husband is a really good guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I waited. The hormonal storm made me blind about red flags in the relationship (background differences, family dynamics etc). We are still together after years but sometimes I wonder if I should have chosen somebody who could share with me more values

Sex haze. The sex so overwhelms you that you might wake up and find yourself involved with Hannibal Lecter. When you're in the midst of it be careful about making any big decisions.

[Anonymous]

DH was a virgin, I am not on our wedding night. He thought I was a virgin though and I never corrected him.

Married 27 years and we have a very good sex life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I waited. The hormonal storm made me blind about red flags in the relationship (background differences, family dynamics etc). We are still together after years but sometimes I wonder if I should have chosen somebody who could share with me more values

how would have waiting for marriage with him made it better? first marrying the guy then have sex with him would have not made any difference, he would still be the same one you do not share values with … you mean waiting to see who he really was for one year or so … you know, just because you had sex does not mean you have to stay with him or marry him, just find someone else you share values with, that is worth waiting for

[Anonymous]

My wife and I waited. Dated two years, married for 27 now.

You are not alone, OP.