Is alimony ever awarded to men?
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Anonymous
| You will have to pay very little in alimony. My MIL barely worked, was married to my FIL for decades, and my FIL made 1+ million every year in earned income, working for a huge company. Got his mistress pregnant and my MIL received minimum alimony for a short period of time, as the judge expected her to be on her feet financially. My FIL moved a lot of assets to the mistress and child, and my MIL was not able to recover those. They are in MD. California is a different animal. |
Anonymous
| I think if you hire a very aggressive lawyer and put up a fight you will not likely pay much for very long. Now child support is a different thing. How old are your kids? |
Anonymous
Did they have children? Did he take care of them? |
Anonymous
There was a thread on mommd a long time ago where she ended up divorcing her alcoholic husband after putting him through rehab. She ended up paying alimony for at least a few years. https://mommd.com/forums/topic/sigh-long-late-night-rant/ |
Anonymous
| Yes, my ex asked for it. It was denied though because we’d only been married 2 years. |
Anonymous
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I have to pay my husband alimony. It sucks. We are in Virginia. I make ~3X what he does (150K vs 450K). He had been under-employed for years (like part-time <$50K). We went through mediation. It is possible I might not have had to pay, but my lawyer and the mediator advised I might be better off to negotiate a smaller amount of alimony over a set number of years instead of taking my chances in court.
Don’t know the laws in Maryland, but it may help if you can get proof of the adultery. In Virginia, that can mean no alimony for the adulterer. But DO NOT have sex with him. That can be seen as condoning the affair. The 20 years may also be a factor. In Virginia, 20 years can mean “lifetime” alimony (until retirement, usually). But again, proof of adultery could help. Do not let on you are considering divorce. See at least 3 lawyers. If you can mediate, you will have more flexibility. You might consider options like paying him alimony for longer to avoid having to give up your business. If you go to court, there is very little flexibility. They split things down the middle and there isn’t horse trading like there can be in mediation. And you will save tens or even hundreds of thousands of dollars to not have to go to court and not have to hire expert witnesses. Be smart and start making spreadsheets of worst case and your potential legal fees. They figure out scenarios you could offer up or live with that leave you with more money in your pocket. |
Anonymous
| Yes. |
Anonymous
| In the state of Virginia if you can prove adultery he will not get alimony. He will get half the marital assets though. |
Anonymous
Nobody cares, including judges. |
Anonymous
No, not the same. OP needs to see an attorney. |
Anonymous
He unilaterally decided to be a SAHF without wife's agreement, so yes, there were kids. Their kid was friends with my kid. |
Anonymous
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Ask Britney Spears, Kelly Clarkson, Halle Berry and Mary J Blige.
https://www.washingtonian.com/2021/12/03/more-and-more-women-are-paying-alimony-to-failure-to-launch-ex-husbands-and-theyre-really-really-not-happy-about-it/ |
Anonymous
Because they were only married for 2 years. 20 years has far different calculations. |
Anonymous
| Can OP move to Virginia then divorce? |
Anonymous
Sure. But you have to be a resident of the state for six months. However I think op in her spouse would both have to move to Virginia to make this work |